Author hotpotato Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 I actually agree that 'concern' was unlikely to be the guy's primary motive. That being said, this sounds incredibly naive. There is a difference between living in fear and exercising reasonable caution. Obviously you can do 'whatever you want' - you could plank on the balcony of a 10th floor apartment if you wanted - but that doesn't mean it's always a wise thing to do. I also agree that single women can sometimes be given more flak than they deserve, when singlehood is a perfectly fine choice for anyone, male or female, to be choosing for themselves. And there will always be old creepers hitting on much younger women, even younger women who aren't single. Some of them even make the rounds, hitting on woman #2 when woman #1 is barely out of sight. But in your particular case I am not surprised that the creeper chose you, in all honesty. I wasnt planking off of a balcony, I was going for a walk. Really I should have been more presumptuous insteadcof trying to believe he was interested in my routine. I should have looked him up down and given him a nasty look. I kinda feel bad for him because obviously he cant read between the lines. If ib wanted to be social or date, I wouldnt be chillin by myself on a saturday night. If I needed a man so bad, why would I be alone? I might just pay someone to act like my bf and escort me at the park lol Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 I am struggling to understand how his actions is a reflection on you and why so much time spent trying to figure it out? Who cares? I think you are presuming why he asked you out, maybe he was hitting up every woman that wasn't with a male company prior to you crossing paths. Honestly I feel like this may be a trigger point for you than just what this man said and did. Why would he know your relationship status just because you were alone on a Saturday evening exercising? Do women in relationships never do this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotpotato Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 I am struggling to understand how his actions is a reflection on you and why so much time spent trying to figure it out? Who cares? I think you are presuming why he asked you out, maybe he was hitting up every woman that wasn't with a male company prior to you crossing paths. Honestly I feel like this may be a trigger point for you than just what this man said and did. Why would he know your relationship status just because you were alone on a Saturday evening exercising? Do women in relationships never do this? Most women go there with other girls or with their boyfriends. Most women dont go tgere alone. Imo he is saying im desperate. If I wanted to date, I wouldnt have to go for someone who is ~70. I find it irritating that people think ill take whatever is thrown at me because im not paired. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Most women go there with other girls or with their boyfriends. Most women dont go tgere alone. Imo he is saying im desperate. If I wanted to date, I wouldnt have to go for someone who is ~70. I find it irritating that people think ill take whatever is thrown at me because im not paired. You are assuming that is what he meant. You did not ask him directly so while that might be the reasoning it may not. Seriously why do you care even if that is true? He is some random person, why does his opinion of you matter? Bottomline I think you are extrapolating quite a bit and should look at why this is triggering you so much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 I don't need a woman! Sure would be nice though lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotpotato Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 (edited) You are assuming that is what he meant. You did not ask him directly so while that might be the reasoning it may not. Seriously why do you care even if that is true? He is some random person, why does his opinion of you matter? Bottomline I think you are extrapolating quite a bit and should look at why this is triggering you so much. I guess I am irritated. I think I should be able to have a convo about something innocuous without it going there. Its putting me in a position in which I have to make assumptions about peoples motives, and I dont want to. He did try to tell me that I needed a man, presumably himself. Edited June 17, 2014 by hotpotato Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotpotato Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 Usually when the conversation falls along that path, Its a person complimenting another saying..."you have the resources it takes to be in a committed relationship", its a compliment for the most part. I do not consider it anything less then a person sharing their perspective or opinion. Most times a quick glance and a smile assuring them you are a better role model of living the single life settles it. Sometimes I go so far as to say I am allergic to committed relationship, it makes me break out and want my freedom I thought about what you said. Lately, I have been feeling more passionate and hungry for life. I may have been coming across as happy. Plus, when I am not interested in a guy I dont come at him with masculine energy. The thing is, im happier because I dont have a man in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 I guess I am irritated. I think I should be able to have a convo about something innocuous without it going there. Its putting me in a position in which I have to make assumptions about peoples motives, and I dont want to. He did try to tell me that I needed a man, presumably himself. You can't control other people, just yourself. What he thinks, feels, does, only merits as much worth/value as you let it. If you are comfortable with yourself and your choices then he should be a blip on the radar. I make plenty of choices others don't agree with. The only ones that matter are the people I care about, everyone else can take a long walk off of a short pier. I was lifeguarding in my late teens at a hotel pool and had an older gentleman proposition me. I did not see it as a reflection on me, my job choices, my attire, etc. This was purely a reflection on his skeaviness not me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotpotato Posted June 18, 2014 Author Share Posted June 18, 2014 You can't control other people, just yourself. What he thinks, feels, does, only merits as much worth/value as you let it. If you are comfortable with yourself and your choices then he should be a blip on the radar. I make plenty of choices others don't agree with. The only ones that matter are the people I care about, everyone else can take a long walk off of a short pier. I was lifeguarding in my late teens at a hotel pool and had an older gentleman proposition me. I did not see it as a reflection on me, my job choices, my attire, etc. This was purely a reflection on his skeaviness not me. I guess um tired of being a grandpa magnet. Young guys can take a hint, why not old ones? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 I guess um tired of being a grandpa magnet. Young guys can take a hint, why not old ones? Different generation and they don't care. Do I get a reward for not ogling nor hitting on ladies young enough to be my daughter? No! The guy my age next to me who does gets his: attention. It works! Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 I guess um tired of being a grandpa magnet. Young guys can take a hint, why not old ones? :laugh: maybe senility is playing a factor. :laugh: I can't help you there, sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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