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Why do people think it's not worth to divorce over erotic massages?

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I mean really? my partner was frequenting these places and there is much more to it than just a hand relief as most people say. I have done a lot of research and here it is.

 

Firstly, it's basically a brothel, just illegal, no massage parlor as people think.

 

I don't see a reason why this type of infidelity should be seen as any different than having sex with someone, it's in fact worse because the man gets rubbed and washed at areas which are very intimate. Don't people realize that the whole massage is in fact a form of prostitution?

 

Secondly, i seen many people missing out the shower part which is part of all rub & tugs or how people call these places.

 

After i discovered my partner was getting those treatments i turned into revenge mode quicker than ever. I am shocked at how people just let it go or forget that it happened.

 

I think if they would see the massage in action they would change their mind just as i did. I have done my homework over the months and i can say this affected me more than anything. People who stay married to men who frequent these places are fools in my opinions, they are disgusting.

 

Did i mention sex slaves?

 

If i would ever forgive my partner for visiting these establishments i would be either brainwashed or blackmailed.

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I don't know anyone who thinks this is OK.

 

A plain massage -- shoulders, low back legs -- G rated spots OK fine. That has some theraputic value.

 

happy ending massages . . . No way no how.

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The vast majority of spouses/SO's would not be O.K. with their partner getting a "happy ending massage," and would consider it cheating.

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I still think it's worthy of a divorce, no doubt, but is it the same as a long-term, deceitful, family-killing affair with another person? Nah. On the scale, it's probably right after pr0n and strip clubs.

 

 

If you think that's bad, read the other posts around here. Most of the WS are in love with someone else. Getting a happy ending would be a lot easier to accept than finding out he's been sleeping with your best friend or family member.

 

Lulz, it's definitely not as bad as the stuff you admitted to in your previous thread. Looking for some justification maybe?

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I'd think about the big picture. 60% or so of men will go or have been to see an escort. You will dump him, then odds are it'll happen again with a new guy.

 

Best to look at the whole picture.

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I still think it's worthy of a divorce, no doubt, but is it the same as a long-term, deceitful, family-killing affair with another person? Nah. On the scale, it's probably right after pr0n and strip clubs.

 

 

If you think that's bad, read the other posts around here. Most of the WS are in love with someone else. Getting a happy ending would be a lot easier to accept than finding out he's been sleeping with your best friend or family member.

Well, which is the worst way to die, a quick gunshot to the head, or being tortured for hours before being dismembered? Both are devastating to the victim, and result in the loss of life. The fact that the torture is so bad does not make the quick gunshot to the head more palateable. Both are devastating. Both are horrible things to do to someone.

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I still think it's worthy of a divorce, no doubt, but is it the same as a long-term, deceitful, family-killing affair with another person? Nah. On the scale, it's probably right after pr0n and strip clubs.

 

 

If you think that's bad, read the other posts around here. Most of the WS are in love with someone else. Getting a happy ending would be a lot easier to accept than finding out he's been sleeping with your best friend or family member.

 

Lulz, it's definitely not as bad as the stuff you admitted to in your previous thread. Looking for some justification maybe?

 

What did i say in my previous thread? if you mean that giving oral sex is worse you are wrong, erotic massages are much more intimate since you are basically touching the person naked.

 

To me getting rubbed and washed in the intimate areas would be on the same level as visiting escorts.

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Most people know what these massage parlours are and would have be happy having a partner visiting a prostitute.

 

Why would you take revenge by cheating? Get divorced, get checked for STIs and move on with your life.

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What did i say in my previous thread? if you mean that giving oral sex is worse you are wrong, erotic massages are much more intimate since you are basically touching the person naked.

 

To me getting rubbed and washed in the intimate areas would be on the same level as visiting escorts.

 

 

THIS -> "In short, I have been engaging in sexual activities with men for the past few months and I am proud to say that I feel no guilt at all. Should I? He is oblivious to my cheating because he started university recently and that gives me a LOT of space to do how I please. At first I only did it for the revenge but then I started to enjoy it."

 

Yup, that's a LOT worse than getting an erotic massage. I mean, not even in the same category.

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The vast majority of spouses/SO's would not be O.K. with their partner getting a "happy ending massage," and would consider it cheating.

 

 

But that's not my point is it? most people don't know what happy ending massages involve, and assume it's just a happy ending when in fact its a lot more intimate thing.

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THIS -> "In short, I have been engaging in sexual activities with men for the past few months and I am proud to say that I feel no guilt at all. Should I? He is oblivious to my cheating because he started university recently and that gives me a LOT of space to do how I please. At first I only did it for the revenge but then I started to enjoy it."

 

Yup, that's a LOT worse than getting an erotic massage. I mean, not even in the same category.

 

Why? at least i can admit that what i am doing is wrong and have a fair motive for what i am doing. He on the other hand was doing it out of pure lust and fun with INTENTIONS.

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Why? at least i can admit that what i am doing is wrong and have a fair motive for what i am doing. He on the other hand was doing it out of pure lust and fun with INTENTIONS.

 

So what? Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

Just break up with him already. He's never going to hurt the way you want him to.

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What did i say in my previous thread? if you mean that giving oral sex is worse you are wrong, erotic massages are much more intimate since you are basically touching the person naked.

 

To me getting rubbed and washed in the intimate areas would be on the same level as visiting escorts.

 

U 4 srs, dogg? LOL, LOL, LOL.. dude, having someones genitals in your MOUTH is about as intimate as you are going to get.

 

really? A massage/rub down/heck, even a tug is nowhere near oral sex, especially from a sex worker as opposed to a real, intimate relationship.

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So what? Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

Just break up with him already. He's never going to hurt the way you want him to.

 

Why? he is thinking he is having a wonderful girlfriend by his side while i am turning my back on him and enjoying myself just as he did. Of course he will be devastated.

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U 4 srs, dogg? LOL, LOL, LOL.. dude, having someones genitals in your MOUTH is about as intimate as you are going to get.

 

really? A massage/rub down/heck, even a tug is nowhere near oral sex, especially from a sex worker as opposed to a real, intimate relationship.

 

I am not in a real, intimate relationship with those people though, if they would be naked then yes its comparable but clothed? no.

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Why? he is thinking he is having a wonderful girlfriend by his side while i am turning my back on him and enjoying myself just as he did. Of course he will be devastated.

 

Congratulations, you're as bad as him, you win the internets for today!

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Why? he is thinking he is having a wonderful girlfriend by his side while i am turning my back on him and enjoying myself just as he did. Of course he will be devastated.

 

If his already cheating on you and you're having revenge sex, he's not going to care. Don't be surprised if he twist the situation and brands you a cheating whore!

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Why? he is thinking he is having a wonderful girlfriend by his side while i am turning my back on him and enjoying myself just as he did. Of course he will be devastated.

 

Then devestate him already but if he's enough of a jerk to cheat on you with sex workers when he finds out what you have been doing, I doubt he'll be hurt. Rather he'll think thank God I dumped that __________ {fill in bad word: slut, skank, whore, etc.}

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Then devestate him already but if he's enough of a jerk to cheat on you with sex workers when he finds out what you have been doing, I doubt he'll be hurt. Rather he'll think thank God I dumped that __________ {fill in bad word: slut, skank, whore, etc.}

 

He is a good person, he just can't understand how what he was doing is a form of cheating, he lost his virginity to a married woman and slept with 5 other as i discovered from his friends.

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If his already cheating on you and you're having revenge sex, he's not going to care. Don't be surprised if he twist the situation and brands you a cheating whore!

 

He stopped cheating on me and said it was the biggest mistake of his life. He will most likely be surprised at least.

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He is a good person, he just can't understand how what he was doing is a form of cheating

 

About OP - She is a good person, she just can't understand how what she is doing is a form of cheating. :)

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About OP - She is a good person, she just can't understand how what she is doing is a form of cheating. :)

 

I CAN though, i knew what i am doing right from the start, he on the other hand even had the nerve to say going to brothel and have intercourse is not cheating. And he should be the one with higher intelligence.

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Fine he's messed up . . . but my point remains, why are you stlll there with him?

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I CAN though, i knew what i am doing right from the start, he on the other hand even had the nerve to say going to brothel and have intercourse is not cheating. And he should be the one with higher intelligence.

 

Whoa, maybe I do owe you an apology. I thought that I read he was going to massage parlors and at the most getting happy endings. Having sex with prostitutes is a completely different story?

 

So which is it, massage parlors or having sexual intercourse with prostitutes?

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