Why do people think it's not worth to divorce over erotic massages?

[MidwestUSA]

Omg!! Last three sentences!! And the quote of the day goes to...

 

I can has cheezburger now?

[Pattiroxxi]

Face it, you are two peas in a pod. Your actions are scarier in my opinion.

 

LOL you can think what you want, you fail to understand what

I mean and you seem ignorant to me. Again this is my opinion and you are free to

Say anything you want.

[KathyM]

I know a woman who developed throat cancer from giving random men blow jobs when she was a prostitute. She also got beat up when a guy decided he didn't want to pay for her services. You're taking a huge risk by being so careless with your health and safety.

[alwayshere]

Yes I am strict when it comes to cheating.

 

Read this very carefully with a straight face.

 

No, you are strict about what cheating is done to YOU. You obviously have no problem inflicting it on someone else.

[Glinda.Good]

I'm confused.

 

What was the question again?

[Michelle ma Belle]

Please, I might have gotten a 2:2 instead of a first but that doesn't mean I can't

Find a decent job. Again read my first post and you will understand it's something more than just a handjob. Anything sexual associated with the massage is a deal breaker for me.

Yes I am strict when it comes to cheating. You should watch a happy massage first because I can't demonstrate to you or anyone on here what I am talking about. I tried my best.

 

First of all, you're talking to us like we're idiots.

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that a happy massage, no matter how you want to paint it does NOT fit in a normal, healthy and happy relationship. Period.

 

I think most of us despite the fact that we might not have personally engaged in ahappy massages see it as a deal breaker and grounds for a break-up.

 

What I think is driving everyone crazy on here is your hypocritical stance on cheating. You say you're "very strict on cheating" but YOU'RE a cheater. You say your man engaged inappropriately at the massage parlor and yet you're STILL with him.

 

Sorry but WTF?!

 

I have to agree with goodyblue that you both are two peas in a pod.

Edited June 16, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle

[MidwestUSA]

Please, I might have gotten a 2:2 instead of a first but that doesn't mean I can't

Find a decent job. Again read my first post and you will understand it's something more than just a handjob. Anything sexual associated with the massage is a deal breaker for me.

Yes I am strict when it comes to cheating. You should watch a happy massage first because I can't demonstrate to you or anyone on here what I am talking about. I tried my best.

 

 

Thanks, but I have no desire to watch a happy massage.

 

I did go back and read your first post. All I can come up with is this:

 

"I don't see a reason why this type of infidelity should be seen as any different than having sex with someone, it's in fact worse because the man gets rubbed and washed at areas which are very intimate. Don't people realize that the whole massage is in fact a form of prostitution?"

 

 

I got it! It's a CLEANLINESS issue!

[Pattiroxxi]

Thanks, but I have no desire to watch a happy massage.

 

I did go back and read your first post. All I can come up with is this:

 

"I don't see a reason why this type of infidelity should be seen as any different than having sex with someone, it's in fact worse because the man gets rubbed and washed at areas which are very intimate. Don't people realize that the whole massage is in fact a form of prostitution?"

 

 

I got it! It's a CLEANLINESS issue! [/quote

 

Oh dear, how would you like it if your partner would get washed all over naked?

That's not including the happy ending. I am maybe overreacting a little but i don't like it.

[todreaminblue]

It doesn't really matter what other people think, it only matters how you feel and that if you class it as cheating then that is true to you

 

As far as knowing what goes on I was once naive about massage parlors,as a young girl(and i was young minded at that time) i got a job in a said parlor with excitement thinking I had gotten out of prostitution and were to be trained in the art of therapeutic massage, reiki in particular and i had already leaned deep tissue..... I am not however naive anymore......there are reputable massage parlors the one i gained employment in was not.............

 

all in all you shouldnt judge people for being the recipient,or, the women givers in these places, you have no idea why they are there, and if simple female touch is something that stops a guy from touching another woman inappropriately or forcefully i consider that to be a lesser evil......but its all sin isnt it......whose to say who sins more or less, i just dont judge or would i consider lowering myself to get revenge on a partner who frequented said parlor, i would just leave and wish them well if i were unmarried, and i would get him help if i was married to fight for that marriage,....if a guy told me he had visited a parlor as such before he was with me i would simply say well you dont have to anymore, ill give you what you need, probably better in every way, and i prefer that you dont, or i would have to leave you if you continue to visit parlors..............deb

Edited June 16, 2014 by todreaminblue

[Pattiroxxi]

First of all, you're talking to us like we're idiots.

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that a happy massage, no matter how you want to paint it does NOT fit in a normal, healthy and happy relationship. Period.

 

I think most of us despite the fact that we might not have personally engaged in ahappy massages see it as a deal breaker and grounds for a break-up.

 

What I think is driving everyone crazy on here is your hypocritical stance on cheating. You say you're "very strict on cheating" but YOU'RE a cheater. You say your man engaged inappropriately at the massage parlor and yet you're STILL with him.

 

Sorry but WTF?!

 

I have to agree with goodyblue that you both are two peas in a pod.[/QUOT

 

Oh my gosh I had enough thanks to those who actually answered the question.

[MidwestUSA]

 

Oh dear, how would you like it if your partner would get washed all over naked?

That's not including the happy ending. I am maybe overreacting a little but i don't like it.

 

 

So that's it? The washing? Of course I wouldn't like it if my partner got washed all over. I'm specifically thinking of his anus, to be honest.

 

But none of it is acceptable to me. Every bit of it is a deal breaker. I wouldn't hone in on a specific act, or rate the intimacy level of the acts. I'd just be gone. No revenge cheating. Gone. As fast as my little feet would carry me.

[HereNorThere]

Thanks, but I have no desire to watch a happy massage.

 

I did go back and read your first post. All I can come up with is this:

 

"I don't see a reason why this type of infidelity should be seen as any different than having sex with someone, it's in fact worse because the man gets rubbed and washed at areas which are very intimate. Don't people realize that the whole massage is in fact a form of prostitution?"

 

 

I got it! It's a CLEANLINESS issue! [/quote

 

Oh dear, how would you like it if your partner would get washed all over naked?

That's not including the happy ending. I am maybe overreacting a little but i don't like it.

 

It looks like everyone agree with your post. We all agree that getting an erotic massage is sleazy, cheating and possibly a deal breaker.

 

However, I think most people agree that what you're doing equally messed up or worse.

 

Why do I feel like we are getting trolled? It's hard for me to imagine you are serious about all this. Oh well, it's not every day you win the Internets.

[Pattiroxxi]

It doesn't really matter what other people think, it only matters how you feel and that if you class it as cheating then that is true to you

 

As far as knowing what goes on I was once naive about massage parlors,as a young girl(and i was young minded at that time) i got a job in a said parlor with excitement thinking I had gotten out of prostitution and were to be trained in the art of therapeutic massage, reiki in particular and i had already leaned deep tissue..... I am not however naive anymore......there are reputable massage parlors the one i gained employment in was not.............

 

all in all you shouldnt judge people for being the recipient,or, the women givers in these places, you have no idea why they are there, and if simple female touch is something that stops a guy from touching another woman inappropriately or forcefully i consider that to be a lesser evil......but its all sin isnt it......whose to say who sins more or less, i just dont judge or would i consider lowering myself to get revenge on a partner who frequented said parlor, i would just leave and wish them well if i were unmarried, and i would get him help if i was married to fight for that marriage,....if a guy told me he had visited a parlor as such before he was with me i would simply say well you dont have to anymore, ill give you what you need, probably better in every way, and i prefer that you dont, or i would have to leave you if you continue to visit parlors..............deb

 

This agree with you although I wouldn't work on a marriage

Like this, I don't see the point.

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, it's not going to bring you the desired result. If your boyfriend were truly in love with and respected you, he wouldn't be visiting prostitutes in the first place. So you cheating on him isn't going to hit him as hard as you hope. In order for that to work, he has to be more invested in you. He isn't. This is such a waste of your time, and you'll very likely lose him in the end anyway.

 

And who said that erotic massages are not worth divorcing over?

[todreaminblue]

Oh dear, how would you like it if your partner would get washed all over naked?

That's not including the happy ending. I am maybe overreacting a little but i don't like it.

 

 

 

when i worked in one of these places and even as a hooker i have never washed or inserted things in any ones anus nor have i let them touch mine......nor would i.......the place i worked at used essential oils to massage and the amount of happy endings was not one that was every time.....i didn't kiss them or kiss any part of their body and the majority of the time i made it feel very clinical,if they were on their stomach and they came while i kneaded their back (not buttocks) , i would hand them a clean towel to wipe themselves off with and point them to the bathroom...for my refusal to give hand relief to particularly aggressive clientele....i was fired.,..deb

[Pattiroxxi]

 

It looks like everyone agree with your post. We all agree that getting an erotic massage is sleazy, cheating and possibly a deal breaker.

 

However, I think most people agree that what you're doing equally messed up or worse.

 

Why do I feel like we are getting trolled? It's hard for me to imagine you are serious about all this. Oh well, it's not every day you win the Internets.

 

You can say I am a very unusual person. I am not a Saint either, but I can't help myself that's the way I am.

[umirano]

What did i say in my previous thread? if you mean that giving oral sex is worse you are wrong, erotic massages are much more intimate since you are basically touching the person naked.

 

To me getting rubbed and washed in the intimate areas would be on the same level as visiting escorts.

 

That's YOUR subjective view. Someone else may see oral sex as more intimate.

 

In any case your way of arguing is simply bizarre. Your problem is not where he got rubbed or where someone dumped his cum on you. Your problem is that you don't understand you're wasting your time and energy on a doomed RS. Your out on a cheap revenge trip that will help neither of you.

 

Also you're fake because officially you forgave your BF, but secretly you're punishing him. If you can't forgive him you should dump him.

[Pattiroxxi]

when i worked in one of these places and even as a hooker i have never washed or inserted things in any ones anus nor have i let them touch mine......nor would i.......the place i worked at used essential oils to massage and the amount of happy endings was not one that was every time.....i didn't kiss them or kiss any part of their body and the majority of the time i made it feel very clinical,if they were on their stomach and they came while i kneaded their back (not buttocks) , i would hand them a clean towel to wipe themselves off with and point them to the bathroom...for my refusal to give hand relief to particularly aggressive clientele....i was fired.,..deb

 

You just described things that usually occur at these places, you speak very truthful

And correct. Good explanation.

[Keke1]

Anyone who thinks or says this lady is a good person is wrong. Maybe she is what we don't want her to continue to be. Like a release of an alter ego of some sort. The massages are cheating but what you're doing is wayyyyyy worse.

Anyway have fun

 

 

 

 

 

P. S. I think this is made up BS

[Pattiroxxi]

That's YOUR subjective view. Someone else may see oral sex as more intimate.

 

In any case your way of arguing is simply bizarre. Your problem is not where he got rubbed or where someone dumped his cum on you. Your problem is that you don't understand you're wasting your time and energy on a doomed RS. Your out on a cheap revenge trip that will help neither of you.

 

Also you're fake because officially you forgave your BF, but secretly you're punishing him. If you can't forgive him you should dump him.

 

Who knows? I am not stressing over my relationship. I just let it be how it is.

Thanks to all of your input people I greatly appreciate it.

[MidwestUSA]

Who knows? I am not stressing over my relationship. I just let it be how it is.

Thanks to all of your input people I greatly appreciate it.

 

 

 

Well, good luck!

[Glinda.Good]

Thanks, but I have no desire to watch a happy massage.

 

 

Me neither. It would make me unhappy.

[HereNorThere]

Arghhhhhhh, YOU GOT US. I googled ya and yup, u a troll. Damn it. Provocative topic though, you gets to keep the Internets for today.

 

I had 3 Internets once, but only one was high speed.

 

I think you should do a post on the motive of a troll though. Seems like a lot work just to mess with people.

[ascendotum]

Oh dear, how would you like it if your partner would get washed all over naked?

That's not including the happy ending. I am maybe overreacting a little but i don't like it.

 

As a guy if my gf had a cheating confession to make, and it was :

Another man gave a sensual massage and hos hand was around my pelvic region for some of the time and then washed the oil of me.

vs

I met a guy on Craigslist and I hoovered him off, then he went down on me.

 

....while both are whhhaaat type statements to hear, the former is definitely the less shocking.

[Keke1]

Arghhhhhhh, YOU GOT US. I googled ya and yup, u a troll. Damn it. Provocative topic though, you gets to keep the Internets for today.

 

I had 3 Internets once, but only one was high speed.

 

I think you should do a post on the motive of a troll though. Seems like a lot work just to mess with people.

 

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