Linda32 Posted February 15, 2005 Share Posted February 15, 2005 Is it wrong to move in with a new boyfriend, I have been with my BF for about a month and just out of a LT relationship, he wants me to move in with him..Should I??? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 15, 2005 Share Posted February 15, 2005 I wouldn't...no way, no how. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 15, 2005 Share Posted February 15, 2005 a definitive NO. if marriage may be a possiblity down the road (in your mind) then liviing together is the last thing you wanna do. why would he marry you when you're already living together and he's gettin all the benefits of a marriage without being married??? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 No. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 One month is way too soon. WAY too soon. You think you know him well but you don't know him at all. Wait a year. If he's still with you and no major flaws have emerged, then consider it. Link to post Share on other sites
Israfil Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 DON'T DO IT!!!!!!! (took me 8 yrs to get out - trust me - take your time!) Link to post Share on other sites
Three of Swords Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 Hmm - lets see. I was 19 and did just that. He was 21. We were both single - no kids. He was just a few months out of a long term relationship. Six years later got married. Had two kids in the next four years. Then twenty-seven years later we separated ( I cite irreconcilable differences ) Regrets - definitely a few. Furthermore, I highly doubt that if I had taken the time to truly get to know him, I would have gotten that involved with him and likely never would have gotten married. But that is certainly water under the bridge and I have learned a lot. Even if I could somehow change back time tho - I never would miss out on the offspring that we did end up with. Enough about me. How well do you know him? Do you have family, friends, acquaintances that might have any info about him? In other words how big is the risk of the unknown. There are no guarantees in life or in relationships. You can think you know someone cause you spent several months/years getting to know them or you can jump straight into a relationship. Either scenario could turn out 'bad' or 'good'. And obviously, being with someone for a very long time, is still no guarantee. Seriously weigh all the things you like about him and all the traits you think will eventually drive you crazy. Get as much info as you can. Write an actual list of pros and cons sometimes seeing things in black and white will provide clarity - then be sure to shred it . I guess if I would be asked to provide a yes or no answer - I would recommend waiting. Best of luck with your decision B. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 I've heard to be with someone through atleast four seasons. Makes sense to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 It is wrong if you feel and believe it to be wrong. The fact that you are asking people you don't know shows that you have some doubts. Especially since you've just gotten out of a long term relationship. A lot will also depend on age. My husband and I knew early on (about 3 months into it) we were talking about moving in together. And yes, sometimes they DO marry the people they live with! However, we are both in our 30s and already had our share of relationship experience and knew that this was it. Link to post Share on other sites
imjustagirl Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 I've heard to be with someone through atleast four seasons. Makes sense to me. I've heard the same....we're working on the third round of spring. First one was awesome, second one was awful, workin on the third. We're close to getting our own place, but I have a ring and all that jazz. Link to post Share on other sites
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