1 month and loosing

[Timmy1992]

Today marks exactly 1 month since I have even spoke to the love of my life since we have stopped speaking. I'm loosing this battle, I have no one to talk to...no one to go out and even take my photography with...I have no desire to do anything anymore and to top things off I saw her at the store the other day with who apeared to be a guy with her.

 

This keeps getting worse, I have turned to dateing websites to atleast find a friend...someone I can text and talk to no one is there. I guess I'm too ugly to even be someones friend. :/ I need some more advice on how to let this go once and for all. If I can't get this handled I have DECIDED to end my life I can't live like this. If this is going to be my life I don't want to continue living.

 

I feel so empty inside, why can't I just forget about her like she has done to me. And now her and whoever are just happy while I struggle everyday to contiue to live. What do I so I don't have to take my life. I'm 21 and understand the repercussions if I go that route...but what do I do to save myself?

[triniechu]

Hey!!! Omg don't do it!!! You have so much more to live for!! If it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't. If it was love will always bring 2 hearts together. I'll be your friend. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me for now [email protected]

 

Just don't end your life!!! It's not worth it!!

[newenglandkid]

Timmy man don't take things to the extreme like that. Listen I'm around the same age as you and about one month post BU as well. So I know what your goin through man, but the way your thinking isn't right.

 

I've got a few tips that have helped me slowly start to pull away from my ex (and guess what, she's started contacted me again..bc I think she senses that I'm getting over her).

 

1. Go see a therapist...that's what I did and am doing now, it feels good to talk it out and hear someone's else's opinion. Trust me man, I was skeptical at first but it really helps a lot.

 

2. Do things that YOU enjoy...what did you do for fun before you met her? I was into sports, but because I'm older I can't really play so I decided to start coaching again. If you enjoy playing music, drawing, whatever, get back into that and really go deep into it. It helps you take your mind off her and makes you feel good about yourself.

 

3. Workout...even if your not into working out, do it! Again it gets your mind off her and you can even let out any anger/frustration you have at the gym. Even running is helpful, it's scientifically proven that working out helps is relax, plus it gets your in better shape (thus making you feel better about yourself).

 

4. Block her on social media etc....if your still friends with your ex on FB or whatever and you don't wanna see pics of her or status of her, then delete her or block her. It's not worth the pain of seeing her happy and you unhappy. I know you love her, but right now you gotta take care of you man.

 

To end, listen man stop thinking like you are right now. Your 21, we both have the rest of our lives to meet someone else and grow. Don't think this is the end, it may seem like it but trust me man it's not. If you just do those things I said I promise it'll help you feel WAY better about yourself. It may not take away the sorrow of losing her right away, but with a little time you will slowly start to gain confidence in yourself again and who knows she may just come crawling back to you!

 

Keep your head up bro!

[Timmy1992]

Hey!!! Omg don't do it!!! You have so much more to live for!! If it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't. If it was love will always bring 2 hearts together. I'll be your friend. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me for now [email protected]

 

Just don't end your life!!! It's not worth it!!

 

Thank you for your support. Its just so hard for me to except how i mean nothing to her especially after knowing her for years. Sometimes things get so bad i start writing goodbye letters. I never thought something like this could hurt so bad. I miss holding her and buying her candy and stuffed animals. I miss writing her long love letters about how beautiful she is.

 

Timmy man don't take things to the extreme like that. Listen I'm around the same age as you and about one month post BU as well. So I know what your goin through man, but the way your thinking isn't right.

 

I've got a few tips that have helped me slowly start to pull away from my ex (and guess what, she's started contacted me again..bc I think she senses that I'm getting over her).

 

1. Go see a therapist...that's what I did and am doing now, it feels good to talk it out and hear someone's else's opinion. Trust me man, I was skeptical at first but it really helps a lot.

 

2. Do things that YOU enjoy...what did you do for fun before you met her? I was into sports, but because I'm older I can't really play so I decided to start coaching again. If you enjoy playing music, drawing, whatever, get back into that and really go deep into it. It helps you take your mind off her and makes you feel good about yourself.

 

3. Workout...even if your not into working out, do it! Again it gets your mind off her and you can even let out any anger/frustration you have at the gym. Even running is helpful, it's scientifically proven that working out helps is relax, plus it gets your in better shape (thus making you feel better about yourself).

 

4. Block her on social media etc....if your still friends with your ex on FB or whatever and you don't wanna see pics of her or status of her, then delete her or block her. It's not worth the pain of seeing her happy and you unhappy. I know you love her, but right now you gotta take care of you man.

 

To end, listen man stop thinking like you are right now. Your 21, we both have the rest of our lives to meet someone else and grow. Don't think this is the end, it may seem like it but trust me man it's not. If you just do those things I said I promise it'll help you feel WAY better about yourself. It may not take away the sorrow of losing her right away, but with a little time you will slowly start to gain confidence in yourself again and who knows she may just come crawling back to you!

 

Keep your head up bro!

 

Thank you for your advice, God its just hard. I have a therapist as well ask workout. I end up seeing her or something will remind me of her and it destroys my day. The ups and downs are a nightmare for me and the memories are what get me.

[triniechu]

Trust me I feel the same exact way you do. My ex left me because he says his feelings changed. Said he loves me more like a friend. So yes, it hurt so much. I miss everything about the relationship and the love that we had for each other. But with that being said, I'm slowly getting over it, if he really truly loved me, he wouldn't have left. There is someone out there better for us.

 

I'm hurting as well. But I have to move forward!! Keep yourself busy! Feel free to contact me if you need someone to talk to