Smilecharmer Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 She is disrespecting you by not having boundaries. Not a good mate. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I stand by what I said before..if she can't man up(or woman up, I guess?) and speak to her co-workers about proper behavior..then it comes off as her liking the attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 If she continues going for lunches to get free meals and invites the flirting after you tell her how it makes you feel id say she doesn't respect the relationship. My best friend does this all the time while she's in a relationship she lets the flirts come through she smiles invites it gets free things, car rides etc she doesn't cheat, cheat but she def emotionally cheats and everytime I see it I tell her she should break up with her bf because its unfair she will go as far as to hug them or give a cheek kiss. If your gf continues to return home with stories about how she's hit on and gets free meals etc I'd leave, guys don't keep at it and buying girls stuff unless they think they have a chance. This exactly. Ever read the unbearable lightness of being/Milan Kundera? If not, you should for reasons other than this post. Anyway, there is a beautiful piece in there about flirtation and its essence; “What is flirtation? One might say that it is a behavior leading another to believe that sexual intimacy is possible, while preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty. In other words, flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without a guarantee.” Ever since reading that 10 years or so ago that always stuck with me. Applying that to your situation. Her (reciprocal!) flirting and/or encouraging of flirting is sustaining the belief that sexual intimacy is a possibility. Taking that quote as guideline, there are no degrees of flirtation; light, heavy, harmful or innocent as the meaning is all the same. Whether that is cheating or not I don't know and leave that up to you. But it certainly is disrespectful to a monogamous relationship. Well, just proved to myself I am at least semi literate after beasting away for the last few hours because we won 2-0 against Chile!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 The other posters are correct, she has boundry issues. Link to post Share on other sites
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