7andcounting Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 I am reading these posts on the intensity of affairs and I am just dumbfounded. I would have guessed that most of the affairs were short lived. But it looks like so many have gone on for years... How long was your A? If your still in it how long has it been going on? How much time do y'all spend together? Me - I its been 14 months. We spend everyday together. Today is my first real day of no contact and I am a MESS! Link to post Share on other sites
trailrunner1975 Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 It was approx 1 yr. I don't see her at all now- and it feels great! Just having started NC, I am sure you are a mess- it is part of the heaing process. Where you are right now is probably how a drug addict feels when they first try to kick the habit. I promise you it does get better and yes you may second guess your decision. Stay strong and make sure to enforce NC by any means possible. He may try to lure you back in but tell him to pound sand. Every time you feel the urge to break NC remember how crappy you felt when you were in the A with his lies and future faking. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author 7andcounting Posted June 18, 2014 Author Share Posted June 18, 2014 It was approx 1 yr. I don't see her at all now- and it feels great! Just having started NC, I am sure you are a mess- it is part of the heaing process. Where you are right now is probably how a drug addict feels when they first try to kick the habit. I promise you it does get better and yes you may second guess your decision. Stay strong and make sure to enforce NC by any means possible. He may try to lure you back in but tell him to pound sand. Every time you feel the urge to break NC remember how crappy you felt when you were in the A with his lies and future faking. Good luck! Was she married, were you or both? I am telling myself that. I work from home so stimulation is lacking. I just struggle with it. I know he's tried to reach me and I am hoping before he does I see the crystal ball. Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 I'm a single OW and have been in it for just shy of two years. We see each other 1-2x a week, talk at least 5 days a week, text and/or message on facebook every day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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