redtail Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Yeah, duh, why not? Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Yep and he often sees my posts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 He knows I belong to a forum but thinks its a sex forum If he ever finds LS, he will know its me in less than 2 minutes. I don't think he will sit through any forum anyway, but I really don't mind if he wants to read my posts. Link to post Share on other sites
MuscleCarFan Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 Yep and he often sees my posts. Yes, yes I do, lol. I lurk more and occasionally post. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 Yes, we discuss things and she likes to talk to the kids about issues we see here to make sure they know the right answers and how to be independent and healthy in relationships. My wife and I share pretty much everything. When she used an adult survivors of child abuse site early in our marriage, it was a way for me to read about her abuse and neglect before she was ready to share verbally. She is the Mod of several of these sites now and always comments on the high traffic here and Robert and William being very good Mods. Shout out to our Mods... G 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 My better half sometimes read my posts and sometimes says `You can`t say that?) Or, `Haydn you will be bang in trouble with that post` Sometimes she is right. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovey Dovey Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I just joined so no... but I am considering keeping it that way for now. We met in a forum and we share pretty much everything, I still post on that forum and he rarely logs in now so I guess it's "my territory" now. I do show him or mention some funny posts every once in a while or my posts so he knows I don't mind him reading or posting. I certainly see the advantages of sharing this place, but I rather do it once some little issues are fixed and tell him about the place that helped me out! Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 my recent ex i told him i come on here.......he would watch me type......he qactually used it as an excuse to justify him joining dating sites because i respond to men on here......and more or less implied that i am setting up dates everytime i post....welll naaaahhhhhh....and when i told him i lik ehelping people he said well isnt that good of you...rather sarcastically.........lol....but anyway...we didnt work out him and i are on different paths..he was not a shy person....i was the shy one.......there is nothing on here that i can change ......if a partner i had read my posts ...he would not be shocked for it is all truth that i would have disclosed before he was serious about me....i always give a chance for a guy to run from me....and i wouldnt chase that guy........i refrain from dick sizes of exes and anything involved with their penis capabilities or how they enjoy sex.............deb Link to post Share on other sites
Smilecharmer Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I don't think our SOS need to know everything...some things should be personal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Raena Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I've actually been worried that my ex would come on here and read what I write. It wouldn't take much for him to figure out who I am. Before he moved out, he saw this forum open on my computer many times. I'm not sure he knew what he was looking at or what I was writing on here though. Future relationships... well, I don't know if I want a future relationship to be tainted by my past issues so I'm not sure I'd want him (whoever he is) to read on here but it would certainly make it a lot easier than trying to explain what happened to me. I'd actually like to be able to be in a relationship with someone with whom I can be open and honest with though... and that would include writing on here and discussing it together. That would be ideal Link to post Share on other sites
Toodamnpragmatic Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Yep and she's embarrassed for me....... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 No I'd be too embarrassed because I wouldn't want her reading some of the stuff I post here. It'd feel like someone was reading my diary. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Yes, after I posted for a couple of months I told him about it. He didn't say much. I talked about it a few months later and he again didn't say much about it. He could figure out who I am if he came looking for me here, though we are now in NC. I doubt he'd learn anything about me from my posts he didn't already know and anything I've posted on LS I'd have told him if he'd have asked. There's plenty I've talked with him about that I wouldn't post on a public forum so he'd really have nothing to gain from reading my posts. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 (edited) Yes, we discuss things and she likes to talk to the kids about issues we see here to make sure they know the right answers and how to be independent and healthy in relationships. My wife and I share pretty much everything. When she used an adult survivors of child abuse site early in our marriage, it was a way for me to read about her abuse and neglect before she was ready to share verbally. She is the Mod of several of these sites now and always comments on the high traffic here and Robert and William being very good Mods. Shout out to our Mods... G i have viewed other sites about abuse and i come back to this one......maybe because it isnt the only thing discussed where i cant get out of my head for a while and the fact this site is familiar to me and i have been a part of it for so long i would truly miss it..the site quite often re-enforces my celibacy stand ....often........with my mouth wide open thinkin now i remember why i am celibate the mods are prompt with abuse in regards to other posters and have been forgiving of me......i dob myself in as well as others and the mods are quick to enforce guidelines for everyone to feel comfortable......it wouldnt be an easy job......adn not really a thanked one ....but you did grumps...so do i.......... this site is special to me i have shared a lot of my history here abuse and otherwise...... and it wont be news to any partner i am with ...i have to disclose...the only difference to me disclosing here and to a partner they get to verify it if they so wish too......which would hurt honestly but such is life...even if i was a total bubble of joy i would still post here....i would still try and help others...this site is special i feel it......cheers grumps you and your mutually penguin lurrrrvin wife...smilin.....you are a big penguin....hugs...grumps wife pecks me in the head....lol...kay no hugs..............deb Edited June 23, 2014 by todreaminblue 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaleidoscopic Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Soo my OH found my account somehow after googling my username. It was a pretty common username as well and I've googled it myself but can't find my posts on this forum somehow but anyways. I posted about some concerns I have had with our relationship which I had at the time and he found them and didn't like them. He didn't like the fact I was saying what he had said in text messages to get some opinions on it and was a bit offended by what some users were calling him. I didn't post anything that could have identified him to anyone who knew him and said they were just internet strangers, but eh. So, does your OH know you post on here? Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Mine knows I post here, but I mostly just give advice or my opinion. I don't say negative things about him here. Did you talk to him about the issue before you posted about it? He may not take criticism well, or may feel like his side of the story wasn't told. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 No. I don't think I could be 100% honest about myself, warts and all, if a partner was reading it. Also as I've had the account a little while and been in other past relationships during its history, I just wouldn't want to let somebody I was currently with read all about the gory details of the problems in my past relationships. The past is the past, they don't need to know that stuff and I know in that position I would not want to hear it but would struggle to avoid temptation. So Loveshack is a private, geeky thing for me. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 Absolutely not. Anonymity is the only way this can work. Otherwise it would be a relationship minefield to tiptoe through. My girlfriend (OH, GF, SO, MS, SWMBO, CB, CPOA- for those who need the acronyms) knows that I participate in some type of group online. From time to time I have referenced it when discussing gender or sexuality topics. Of course she asked where, but I just replied that it's completely anonymous and I intend for it to stay that way. My account has also endured a few relationships and difficult transitions. You have to manage this kind of information if you want to keep 'em happy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaleidoscopic Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 Oops. Have just seen my thread was moved as there was already another topic on the same thing which I didn't see. Mine knows I post here, but I mostly just give advice or my opinion. I don't say negative things about him here. Did you talk to him about the issue before you posted about it? He may not take criticism well, or may feel like his side of the story wasn't told. If you were replying to me, yes I did talk to him about the issue and didn't post anything I hadn't raised as an issue anyway. I do think the people on the thread were being unnecessarily harsh and quite negative at times but I was and still am a bit annoyed he found out I post here, hence why I've made a new username. I'm just going to have to be careful about deleting my internet history now especially since we're moving in together soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpio Chick Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 No, the guy that I got stupidly and wrongly involved with would have no clue I'm posting on here. I'm enjoying going into the 3rd month of no contact with him, but the truth is, I know I never want to talk or run into him, ever again. Unfortunately my last communication with him was nice and kind but I've since gained perspective about him and wish I could retract what I said. How can I let him know somehow I've posted so he can see how I REALLY feel about him now?? Link to post Share on other sites
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