i had a relationship with a girl who still was with someone else

[lightwolf21]

so i met this girl on facebook who had been flirting with me for a time but i never paid attention until i saw something i liked, talked to her and she was very happy about it, the thing is that she still was in a 4 year relationship which was already going down, so i thought i could handle it since i was convinced they would break up. Before we realized we were already falling in love through our facebook chats, we talked about it and she said she needed 3 months to leave this guy and put her life in order so then we could meet in real life. 3 months passed and it didn´t happen so we had a lot of problems and arguing, finally we met though in secret and it was amazing, we started a relationship and even thought we were the love of our lives, problem is she was in some strange arrangement with her still sister in law, so she was living with her and this other guy soon moved in with both of them, all of the while we were already a couple, dating, having sex and being just very happy, she said she was trying to fix the situation, she needed to find a new place and promised to leave it all. After some fights and bitter moments she finally set a date to leave that place and to tell the world about us, all of the while she took me to her hometown to meet her family (though as a friend) and she was very excited about me meeting them. Problems continued since obviously she still had this "official" relationship and should act accordingly (she always told me every move she made and that it was all a facade), i would get very very mad at her by things she had to do on facebook with this other guy to make him think it was still ok, so our relationship began to wear out and i stopped trusting her and being very clingy, needy, unconfident, feeling depressed and having a lot of fights, so finally after one heavy fight she said the best thing would be to take some time until she had ended it all with this guy and moved out to a new place (she had already set a new date by June 1st 2014) I refused to it and convinced her otherwise, finally something out of nowhere happened, she got ill and told that she had to undergo a surgery. This was devastating since her family tried to force her back to her hometown where she could solve this much easier, she refused to it, they took every suppport off from her, so moving out from that place was now out of the table, she just couldnt, so the date she set finally came and we once again fought about it, we started drifting away like never before and even unfriended her from facebook so i shouldn't have to put up with the stuff she or her "boyfriend" did there. Finally i confronted her and she told me again she thought the best was to take this time out but with the liberty of letting things go on a natural course, then she ellaborated on it and said that i shouldn't wait for her since she was confused and didn't know what she wanted. So we parted ways, couple days after that i discovered a facebook post on this other guy's wall where she told him she really loved him and missed him and stuff like that (she posted when still with me).. so now im convinced she do loves him after all. It's been almost a week since we parted ways, first days she ignored me until i confronted her and told her i needed the truth to have some closure, so we're going to meet next week but now i've noticed she's trying to start conversations with me but i'm almost ignoring her, giving short and delayed answers, WHAT THE **** DOES IT ALL MEAN? what should i do when i talk to her? is she still in love with me?

[Appreciate]

No, she doesn't love you or else she would be with you.

 

You should do the guy a favor and let him know she wasn't faithful to him. Why let him lead a lie? Save him the pain of having her cheat on him with someone else.

[trailrunner1975]

She is playing games with you. If you enjoy it, keep playing as it does take two. If not, then it's game over. Simple as that. Look up ladder theory on Google. Pay close attention to the section where the two ladders are shown. It will answer any question you may have concerning your situation.