Loveless21 Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I never dealt with grief before. Now i can understand.. I cry so often bc i feel like i love him so much. I dont know what to believe.. He went to his ex gf right away when we were having peoblems.. Is our marriage a sham? Thats what im thinking right now.. I just feel so sad about it. Im struggling to movr on with my life, making new friends, going out on my nights off, exercising, eating mostly heslthy,,, but im so sad.. I think about hiw quick hes moved on.. His social life is popping, hes dating... And im the one left behind crying into my pillow that i still love him even though its probably not true. I dont know anything other than a relationship with him, j cant imagine dating again., i cant even seem to get it together to talk to a guy. How do i move on.? I haventrouble sleeping at night and its really causing a massive amount of exhaustion in my life. I feel so unsettled and unhappy every second of every day, i feel like i dont belong anywhere. Anyone have advice how to get up from this funk and become happy once again.. Feel comfortable with myself without him? Love my life and appreciate what i have once again? Not obsess what hes doing every damned day and with whom... Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 Do you have children? How long were you married? And are you divorced? Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 How can you love this man, after all that he had done to you and your kids? Are you seeing an IC? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loveless21 Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 Yes we have kids and no not divorced. I feel so down and depressed and i feel like i want to save the marriage. But for what? Just bc im jealous hes happier or having more fun or bc im lonely? I dont want to go back to a marriage of constantly investigating what he did in his spare time. It made me crazy! But maybe if i give him more atttention and do what he wants, like anal sex, hell be better towards me too. Im feeling so weak and unhappy Link to post Share on other sites
NYWoman Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 You did not address 2.50's question, so I assume you are not seeing and IC. I highly recommend you do. Do not do anything you are uncomfortable with. Do not lower yourself. Leave it to his skank GF. From what I have read, he is trying to control you. The next thing will be for you to have a 3 some with the skank The $75 he pays, lump or for each of your children? $300 a month is low My advice get counseling and get an attorney. Most likely he will end up having to pay more Dump this trash, there a better men out there 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 Yes we have kids and no not divorced. I feel so down and depressed and i feel like i want to save the marriage. But for what? Just bc im jealous hes happier or having more fun or bc im lonely? I dont want to go back to a marriage of constantly investigating what he did in his spare time. It made me crazy! But maybe if i give him more atttention and do what he wants, like anal sex, hell be better towards me too. Im feeling so weak and unhappy I've read some of your other threads. The best thing that can happen to you is to get this deadbeat completely out of your life and move on. It's a great step that he is out of the house and bugging other people. You just need to get him away from you for good. Usually this advice is given to men that are trying to cling on to a woman that's treating them bad but I think this applies to you in this case. You need to look up "The 180" and do every single thing mentioned in that and move forward with the rest of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Broken_or_Angry Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I dont know anything other than a relationship with him, j cant imagine dating again., i cant even seem to get it together to talk to a guy. How do i move on.? I haventrouble sleeping at night and its really causing a massive amount of exhaustion in my life. I feel so unsettled and unhappy every second of every day, i feel like i dont belong anywhere. I felt this way when my wife left me for someone I thought was a friend. You will be ok. The best thing you can do is have no contact with him at all. What you are feeling is normal, but trust me when I say, that there is nothing that will fix your marriage. I know it sounds awful, but you need to be there for your children now. Make them the focus of your life, and little by little you will again begin to feel whole. You will love yourself once again, give it time. Unfortunately there is no quick fix, be strong, and know you are not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Shocked Suzie Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I felt this way when my wife left me for someone I thought was a friend. You will be ok. The best thing you can do is have no contact with him at all. What you are feeling is normal, but trust me when I say, that there is nothing that will fix your marriage. I know it sounds awful, but you need to be there for your children now. Make them the focus of your life, and little by little you will again begin to feel whole. You will love yourself once again, give it time. Unfortunately there is no quick fix, be strong, and know you are not alone. Best advise... NC is the right thing to do, the kindest thing for you. Arrange set days for the kids between each other and stick with these to also help reduce contact. Change your phone number and communicate via email only (this written info) might be needed one day and this will stop all verbal contact. Keep email business only and stop any personal chat/attacks... All it does is drag you backwards. It's hard, it's all very hurtful and it will be a long road of emotions! So make it as easy as possible in yourself and do NC. Look out for you and most importantly your children, cut him from your life... He's certainly not considering you in all this! SS x NC is the best blessing and advice I ever had ... Keep looking forward Link to post Share on other sites
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