irc333 Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I am suppose to be going out with a woman tonight, in fact, she actually contacted me about what time we should meet specifically prior to the movie starting, as she wants to know when she can leave home and be ready by the time she meets me at the theater. She lives very locally, about 10 min drive in the other direction of the theater. SHe's proactive and actually asks ME questions about myself, where as most conversations I had with women were rather one-sided. We're both movie buffs, and she even texted me randomly her weekly purchases of used DVD's (took a picture of them) and said I had inspired her to purchase her selected movie in the photo as I had mentioned it before. So she sometimes reaches out to me randomly with amusing texts just as much as I do. She ends her conversations at night with "Sweet dreams" and will sometimes say, "my dear" at the end of a sentence. For instance, "You were the one that inspired me for the purchase of this movie, my dear." But this could be common lingo for her anyhow, you know, like when a waitress calls you "sweetie". She's also been known to scratch my back a little (when we first met by ourselves), when she would greet me with a hug. So sometimes I get a little back scratch out of her. lol. I'm not really calling what we really do tonight a "date", as these days, ....that's word that's hardly used anymore in an official sense as with "dating" these days nothing is official. As we are both likely to be paying our own ways. I did mention about getting something to eat after the movie, and she's all for it! I figure I might treat in this case. But to the point of this thread, I was wondering if I could get a feel for her intrest by saying, "Hey cutie" when I greet her in a text when saying hello. Or "hey good lookin'" I've had women in the past say, "Hey handsome!" as a greeting of sorts as well, but I wonder if doing that would give her an idea of MY interest in her. But, she does claim to be the "personality type" that's friendly with everyone. She even hangs out with the elderly when she's walking her dogs at the dog park. I say this because she returned my call from the dog park, but she's told me she's met some retirees that like to walk their dogs too, so they were waiting on her. LOL OTherwise , she'd might get grilled after she hangs up. She also has a lot of male friends, one of which she claims that travels for work a lot and has found someone to help her with the rent while HE's in town and staying at her house a few months out of the year. Apparently,she pretty much be-friends a lot of people in an nondiscriminatory fashion (Very sweet on her part, mind you), but I'm hoping she's not lumping me into that category (the dog walking elderly). LOL Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 She likes you! Stop looking for evidence to the contrary as you are beginning to grasp at straws with 'her being friendly to everyone'... She jumped at the opportunity after you first met to join your intimate meetup group. Went gaming with you and having dinner. And now join you (maybe for the second time? not sure) to dinner & movies as in a classic date. Likes physical contact. She calls you my dear, messages you goodnight... What more do you want? Stop being scared, stop analyzing, just take it as it comes and start flirting with her already. Maybe even kiss her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 My opinion? "Hey cutie" would be awkward. Generally I'd think "cutie" is directed towards significant others and children. She's not your girlfriend yet, and hopefully she's not a child either. A female poster could correct me if I'm wrong. But I'd think a smile, some confident eye contact, and "your hair looks nice today" is all it takes to get your point across. This is assuming she isn't bald of course. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 You're doing what I do, which is over-analysing everything, just relax be yourself and make the most of it, just be natural I guess and not force anything, and yes I would say she likes you judging by the messages but I'm no expert! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 You're doing what I do, which is over-analysing everything, just relax be yourself and make the most of it, just be natural I guess and not force anything, and yes I would say she likes you judging by the messages but I'm no expert! It's ironic that the 3 of us don't have an analyst degree given how we're overanalysing stuff, hahaha. xD On topic: She likes you. Go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 (edited) It's ironic that the 3 of us don't have an analyst degree given how we're overanalysing stuff, hahaha. xD On topic: She likes you. Go for it. my qualifications are in art and design so i'm used to fine details Edited June 20, 2014 by Targetlock 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 I have a close friend who is very generally social like that, and yes she has broken a few hearts. But I tell you this: Even if it turns out she's not romantic, stick with her because she knows TONS of women to introduce you to, being so social. Try to just be yourself. When you see her hug her and tell her "You look wonderful" or whatever you're comfortable with in an enthusiastic lighthearted way, and kiss her on the mouth at the end of the night. She has the option of turning the cheek, but at least then you'll know one way or the other. And I know a pet peeve of my social friend was that while like your friend, she did interview people, which is very flattering and seems like they're very interested, she hated it when they didn't do that back to her. So be sure and ask her about herself as well. Good luck! It seems like a date to me. But she may well be so social she has a lot of these. Doesn't mean she can't fall for you though. My social friend met the right one finally and has been married 30 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 I have a close friend who is very generally social like that, and yes she has broken a few hearts. But I tell you this: Even if it turns out she's not romantic, stick with her because she knows TONS of women to introduce you to, being so social. VERY good theory, unfortunately, her only friends are elderly people and gay people. lol. So there goes that. That's why she joined Meetup, to meet people more at her level or on the same page as her and definitely straight. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 21, 2014 Share Posted June 21, 2014 So, how did the date go? Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted June 21, 2014 Author Share Posted June 21, 2014 So, how did the date go? Pretty good actually. She asked if she wanted to do it again, I said, "Of course!" Best part, I didn't meet her online. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 VERY good theory, unfortunately, her only friends are elderly people and gay people. lol. So there goes that. That's why she joined Meetup, to meet people more at her level or on the same page as her and definitely straight. lol Hilarious. But hey, gay people usually know interesting people of both sexes. Glad to hear your date went well. Oh, and I guess knowing all those elderlies explains why she calls people "Dear." Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 Hilarious. But hey, gay people usually know interesting people of both sexes. Glad to hear your date went well. Oh, and I guess knowing all those elderlies explains why she calls people "Dear." I thought it'd be more along the lines of "deary" lol. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Pretty good actually. She asked if she wanted to do it again, I said, "Of course!" Best part, I didn't meet her online. The online part is irrelevant. So, did you kiss her? Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 The online part is irrelevant. So, did you kiss her? I was wondering the same thing (because I have a feeling it is long overdue) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Hilarious. But hey, gay people usually know interesting people of both sexes. Glad to hear your date went well. Oh, and I guess knowing all those elderlies explains why she calls people "Dear." As a care worker with the elderly 'dear' just comes as force of habit so what happened then? Link to post Share on other sites
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