Well it's been one year now...

[YssaBoo]

I haven't posted in about a year, so here is a summary of what happened to me and my boyfriend. My boyfriend had a horrible family life and many of the things I accepted things that no other girl could accept. We dated for about 4 months and out of the blue he broke up with me and never gave me a real reason for why he did it. Although before that I told him how much I cared about him and that I loved him. When he called it off he said that he thinks we should stop seeing each other and that maybe we could be friends. I told him that I could not just be his friend and he told me that he got "weak in the knees" when I said that. I was so upset that night he called me and pretty much begged me to stay his friend...I finally agreed...although I still had feelings for him.

 

We stayed friends for a few more months untill we had a huge fight between us and our families. We said things about each other to other people that should not have been said and some of the things were pretty hurtfull. It was exactly a year later from when we first started dating that he emailed me out of the blue and told me how sorry he was for saying the things that he said and that he had stopped a lot of the rumors that was going on about me. He still says things that tick me off but instead of arguing with me like he use to he apologizes for his actions, especially when I tell him to choose between treating me decently and leaving me alone. The thing is now, his parents don't know that we are talking and if his mother found out she would flip.

 

He took me out about a month ago to help me shop for a new car and it's been a few weeks since we've actually talked on the phone or face to face and tonight since his email wasn't working he told me to call him. He has more respect for me now and despite all of the horrible things that have been said between us, I still have had the same feelings for him as I did when we were dating. Every guy friend of mine that I talk to has nothing to do with their ex girlfriends and I find it odd that he still wants to talk to me. Am I getting a second chance at a relationship?

[Oriental]

well it's hard to say as he never gave you a real reason for break up. your guy friends dont want anything to do with their ex-gfs doesnt mean that your ex wants a second try with you becoz he's in contact. my ex wanted to stay friends with me and we kept seeing each other until recently. now he needs time to sort out himself and stop stringing me along but we agreed that we would be back in touch in the future when he's sure of what he wants..........whatever he wants in the end he would still want to stay friends with me, he even said the he still loves me.........anyway, the point am trying to make here is that all these dont necessarily lead to a second chance. people keep in contact with their ex for various reasons: still have feeilngs for the ex, the ex was also the closest friend, the ex is a really nice person, dont have feelings for the ex at all, it wasnt the right time but feel that there's chance to get back in the future............it's really hard to say. if i were you i would really want to know why he broke up in the first place.

[cg9328]

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I would follow my heart. Do what your heart is telling you. If your fine being friends with him then fine. What matters the most is how you feel and weather or not you think the is any chance you two can make it. If you think there is then I suggest you take it. But don't put yourself through the misery of wondering what might of been. That will consume you till the end. It also sound like you need some resolve from the last relationship you two were in. I would find out why he called it off in the first place. You never know what could happen, but you owe to yourself to take some kind of action to find the answer you want. I wish you the best of luck.......