alexwood Posted June 21, 2014 Share Posted June 21, 2014 i saw the guy my ex cheated on me with today..i felt like walking up to him and punching him but i didnt...did i make the right decision? Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexwood Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 anyone?????? Link to post Share on other sites
Orange floor Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 yes right decision - he did not cheat the girlfriend did he may have influenced her but at the end of the day it was her choice - violence is such short live pleasure for that moment then you would have regretted it. Revolutions do not last Evolve to be better than him we clearly do not know all the story 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mickleb Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Well, yes, unless you wanted a criminal record to add to your current dose of heartbreak. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
I_Like_To_Golf Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 You definitely made the right decision. The consequences would have probably outweighed the benefits. If you feel the need to get revenge, just live a better life than the both of them haha. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Punch guy: 1) Maybe YOU get beaten like an old rug 2) Win fight, get arrested 3) Get arrested...now Big Bubba from Arkansas is YOUR new boyfriend while you wait for release 4) Soreness and court fees Don't Punch Guy: 1) Be pissed 2) Maybe meet a new girl in a few days, weeks, months, (heck maybe even years) 3) New girl is awesome and actually likes you 4) Be happy and move on It's not the other guy's fault. Unless he drugged your ex for sex and then hypnotized her to stay with him, she is the one at fault! She has shown you that she does not have the character fit to be loyal. Be happy that someone has taken her off your hands and potentially saved you from divorce proceedings, alimony, and weekend visitation. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexwood Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 i just ugh..i dont know Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 As the urban philosophers Chris Brown, Lil Wayne, and French Montana would say "These girls ain't loyal"... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 I have a dart board at my house, which I can pin up pictures of people I'd like to punch....it's a great stress reliever. Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 To quote one of my favorite tv programs, The Wonder Years... "Change is never easy. You fight to hold on. You fight to let go." If you have to punch something, punch a time card, not a person. You'll get a paycheck instead of a prison record. Go for the cash. Always go for the cash. Link to post Share on other sites
dragon_fly_7 Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Yes, it's never wise to initiate a fight unless you either want to get a criminal record or get punched back by the OM. Never start a fight but you can finish one if he were attacking you. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 I spent 15 hours in an orange jumpsuit over something similar. It's quite a story and none of it good. Took me six months to clean up with a pre-trial diversion program and it's still something I have to disclose for background checks even without a conviction. Not cool and not worth it. I don't recommend revenge but if you're going to do it, don't get caught. For what it's worth, unless he didn't know she had a BF, he's just as guilty of participating in your betrayal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
giblesp Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 i saw the guy my ex cheated on me with today..i felt like walking up to him and punching him but i didnt...did i make the right decision? Yes, you made the right decision. There are things worth fighting for, getting a criminal record for a cheating GF isn't. Relax, you've lost nothing. You've gained a clean slate to meet a GF thats good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 It sounds like you dumped your cheating girlfriend - and that definitely was the right thing to do. Not punching this dude is also the right thing to do because it was your girlfriend who betrayed you. She thought so little of you that she had sex with this guy while in a relationship with you. It was her decision not his. How many guys do you know who would turn down easy, no-strings pussy? Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 yes right decision - he did not cheat the girlfriend did he may have influenced her but at the end of the day it was her choice - violence is such short live pleasure for that moment then you would have regretted it. Revolutions do not last Evolve to be better than him we clearly do not know all the story Nope, this is the wrong attitude if the guy knew she had a boyfriend. I am not saying violence is the answer, rather just pointing out that..you seem to be acting like the other guy is completely innocent in all this. That is only the case if he genuinely did not know this girl had a boyfriend. If he did? He is just as culpable. Doesn't mean he should be punched or anything, but it also doesn't mean you can place 100% of the blame on the girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Believe me dude. You did not lose your man card here. No girl is worth going to jail over. No girl is worth the court costs, no girl is worth retaining a lawyer over and no girl is worth having a criminal record over. The money you would have spent on straightening out this problem could have been spent on a vacation to the Bahama's; which I speculate would be a lot more enjoyable. Now, if this douche rocket saw you and was smirking at you or laughing at you, then I would punch his lights out. But, chances are he doesn't even know who you are or (more than likely) he's a coward and would avoid you like the plague. He's got no problem screwing your girl, but would run away like a roach if he saw you coming. You're still holding onto your dignity, dude. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Elle1975 Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 i saw the guy my ex cheated on me with today..i felt like walking up to him and punching him but i didnt...did i make the right decision? The guy did nothing wrong.. not sure how punching him would make it any better. Also you make it sound like you would have won the fight, when he could have kicked your butt. So you spared yourself a trip to the police station, avoided getting charged for assault, and skipped a hospital bill that could have reached thousands, on top of a law suit. So ya.. probably good you didn't. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dragon_fly_7 Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) The guy did nothing wrong.. not sure how punching him would make it any better. Also you make it sound like you would have won the fight, when he could have kicked your butt. So you spared yourself a trip to the police station, avoided getting charged for assault, and skipped a hospital bill that could have reached thousands, on top of a law suit. So ya.. probably good you didn't.I agree. I think it's silly how some men immediately assume they'll beat up the OM. Who knows...maybe the OM might even be a skilled fighter. By logic, the OM would obviously be his rights to defend himself against the OP. I actually saw this happening on youtube under a Cheaters Caught clip. Basically, the guy has been suspecting his gf of cheating and so got into contact with a private investigator. He was correct. He caught his gf half naked in the car with the OM. Just like the OP, he goes into punching the guy she was cheating with but he ends up getting owned fast in the fight. Ending; I guess seeing her man losing the fight made her even feel more guilty, she goes saying sorry and somehow he forgives her. Hopefully that poor guy dumps that worthless trash of a ''gf'' and eventually wakes up one day. OP, just continue going NC and be happy to have gotten rid of her now than later on if it were in a marriage. Edited June 24, 2014 by dragon_fly_7 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatGirl213 Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Every time I see girls that my ex cheated on me with, I smile at them. They usually(if not always) give me a screw face look. It makes me happy to show them that I have nothing against them. In fact I feel sorry for them for falling in love, sleeping with a player and getting their heartbroken. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 i saw the guy my ex cheated on me with today..i felt like walking up to him and punching him but i didnt...did i make the right decision? Back when I was young, and men often settled their differences with their fists, and understood the levels of violence to inflict so everyone could walk away, I might have given a different answer but, today, I think you made a really healthy choice simply because the dynamics of violence have changed and you could easily be killed for such actions, and without remorse. Better to walk away and live to fight another day, and for a worthy cause. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Baller25 Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Every guy always says that he would punch the guy that fooled around with his girlfriend, but in my lifetime (albeit 25 years) I've only seen about 10 fights rather than 100+. It never works out OP. If you initiate a fight and then 'win' you could get arrested plus social stigma (women will see you as a violent guy). If you 'lose' then you get your but kicked plus possible jail time, criminal record, everyone laughing at you and all the social grease. We only picture ourselves losing but obviously there is always a loser, probably who didn't think he'd lose either. Also these days many people (maybe myself included) will deal with the 'fight or flight' by considering any physical attack as an attempt to kill and therefore fight back as if only one of us can live, especially when we haven't been in fights before— the result is that someone ends up in the hospital, maybe even the morgue. As a poster earlier said, no girl is worth all that. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Damn, everyone posting in here is posting like he was going to get his ass kicked. Link to post Share on other sites
SmartDude Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 This is one thing I have never understood: Why get pist a a dude who is sleeping with your significant other? The other guy does not know you and owes you nothing....The real problem is the relationship between the man and the woman, not the 2 dudes! That is why kicking some guys ass won't help. If a woman, even a married one, starts making moves towards me and it "feels" right...Then I will go for it, with no guilt! Why? Because she is making a choice. Who am I to say that she is making the wrong choice? Maybe her relationship is over anyway. This thing of respecting another man because his woman is his property....I just don't get. Link to post Share on other sites
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