VanessaVanessa Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 My sister's boyfriend is 24 years old. He has been together with my older sister who is 23yrs for over 5 years now. They have 2 young children together. My sister and her boyfriend (J) come over to my mum's house (where I and my two younger sisters also live) almost every evening. For years now he speaks to me or my sisters pretty much any way he pleases. I have gotten into arguments with him before because I have felt the need to speak my mind to him, yet he being older than me sometimes tries to belittle things I have to say or ignores me if I become annoyed, and my sister often lets him say whatever he likes. This means that eventually I have got into arguments with my older sister because I bring up why she lets him say things the way he does to me (or sometimes my other sisters) and she just tells me that she can't control his mouth and she can't tell him what to do. Obviously I understand that she can't physically control him but I feel like she just watches him say or do things his way and when anyone else starts to argue with him she straightaway starts speaking for him and excusing him. The frustrating thing is that between them two they argue all the time, basically everyday - without exaggeration. Sometimes they get into shouting matches and they have on occasion become physical in my house, and I have stepped in to get my sister back away, yet when someone else calls up on his attitude my sister becomes very defensive. Just today I got into another argument again with my sister who I felt like was again letting J yell at me for a cancellation of plans that we had. It got heated and I just don't know what to think because every time this happens I am told that I should just ignore how he speaks and again my sister just tells me that she isn't his mother so she can't stop him. Link to post Share on other sites
R3d Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 I am guessing she's in an abusive relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 If your living at your Mums house then Mum should be the one to be telling this guy to curb his tongue when he's there and if he can't then he needs to leave and no to come back until her can act like an adult. The rule is. My house. My rules, no exceptions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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