Indian Bloke looking to date Interracially

[RuggedlyHandsome]

Hi, I'm a 27 year old guy of Indian heritgae living in Canada and am only attracted to white women and would love to date interracially. I see myself settling down with a Caucasian woman but its so hard to find someone open minded who wants to date me. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places but can women who are interested in a guy of Indian heritage come forward and tell me their views. Cheers

[Shaun-Dro]

Hi, I'm a 27 year old guy of Indian heritgae living in Canada and am only attracted to white women and would love to date interracially. I see myself settling down with a Caucasian woman but its so hard to find someone open minded who wants to date me. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places but can women who are interested in a guy of Indian heritage come forward and tell me their views. Cheers

 

 

Are you only interested in white women or are they just your preference? I feel it's wise to be open to women of all colors because beauty comes in a lot more than one shade.

Edited June 22, 2014 by Shaun-Dro
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[HappyLove]

What's up with all the I'm Indian and only want a white woman posts? Is this the same person? A new trend?

[jcrew11]

Hi, I'm a 27 year old guy of Indian heritgae living in Canada and am only attracted to white women and would love to date interracially. I see myself settling down with a Caucasian woman but its so hard to find someone open minded who wants to date me.

 

Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places but can women who are interested in a guy of Indian heritage come forward and tell me their views. Cheers

 

Where are the places you are going to meet women? Are you just cold approaching women without trying to become friends first? Do you have a social circle with women?

 

Besides having white skin, is there any particular reason you want to date a white girl instead of any other race?

 

What is your religion? Most white people in Canada are Catholic and prefer to marry within the same religion. What are your hobbies that you can share with women, besides playing video games? Can you speak english without an accent, and can you carry on a conversation with women?

[spiderowl]

Caucasian women may wonder if you are genuinely interested in them or not. We are aware that many men of Indian heritage end up marrying Indian women, for family reasons, either with arranged marriages or because of cultural similarities. You would first have to convince a Caucasian woman that that is not the case. I doubt it has anything to do with attraction - I think Indian men are very attractive and I did go out with an Indian guy for a while, but if I were younger I would be wondering whether it could lead to commitment or whether he was likely to do a 180 turn on me and marry the girl his family found for him.

[Emilia]

You need to specify what 'indian heritage' means. Were you born in Canada? There are several reasons Western/white women are vary of South Asian men, some are listed above. Others are: when born on the Indian sub-continent, they are often not used to socialising with women and can come across a bit weird. South Asian men in general also have a controlling reputation (and it has been my experience also).

 

If you were born in Canada you shouldn't have much of a problem since you likely grew up with white Canadians so they shouldn't be too alien to you and vica versa.

[gaius]

I was in an Indian restaurant a while back and there wasn't a single Indian person who wasn't with another Indian. I think you might be stuck.

[giblesp]

You can start by being open to all women of all colors, and working out why you see skin color in the first place. That will make you more attractive as a man.

[Els]

I hate to break this to you (or multiple 'you's, whichever it is), but if you are only interested in dating people from one specific other race, you're gonna have a bad time. Regardless of what your race and theirs is.

[Emilia]

I hate to break this to you (or multiple 'you's, whichever it is), but if you are only interested in dating people from one specific other race, you're gonna have a bad time. Regardless of what your race and theirs is.

I don't think there is any evidence on this. Some people only date a specific race and do just fine, especially if they are very familiar with a particular culture.

[zebracolors]

I can understand everyone's concern about his preference for white woman, about how he should be careful not to treat her as just some novelty. This is something that I remind myself of as I am a white woman who likes to date Indian men. And if I date a guy I of course make sure I'm not treating him as just some novelty, there obviously has to be chemistry and romantic banter.

 

So my advice to the OP is to go places where Indians hangout and are being social. Sometimes you might see people of other ethnicities there (not just gori) and the reason they are there is probably because they are open minded and might be open minded to dating you. I happen to be interested in the languages, and culture so I go to those places, even cultural events like Holi festival, or Dandiya Raas for example. Also I put myself in social circles, many of which are people of Indian ethnicity.

[Lona.loba]

Are u racist ? If not then why only white women. Women aren't sold in a market to pick and choose from! Why Indian guys only want white women ? And Indian women always wanna whiten themselves ? Isn't every skin color beautiful ! In Europe and many other places many white women want to get tans to darken themselfs

[Els]

I don't think there is any evidence on this. Some people only date a specific race and do just fine, especially if they are very familiar with a particular culture.

 

I don't think there's statistical evidence, but myself (and many people I know) are creeped out by men who are only interested in dating women of one particular race other than their own, even if (or especially if) we are of the race that they favour. Are there many other women who aren't creeped out by it? Perhaps there are, but that would narrow the field even further (and it was narrow enough to begin with, by limiting himself to only one race).

[Emilia]

I don't think there's statistical evidence, but myself (and many people I know) are creeped out by men who are only interested in dating women of one particular race other than their own, even if (or especially if) we are of the race that they favour. Are there many other women who aren't creeped out by it? Perhaps there are, but that would narrow the field even further (and it was narrow enough to begin with, by limiting himself to only one race).

Yes of course. I know plenty of people that have a particular preference. A white female colleague of mine likes black men and a mixed race male colleague of mine likes white women. Why would anyone creep out over that? They exclusively date those races, why would that matter, good luck to them.

 

I don't understand why people judge others based on attraction or why it would be creepy. It's not creepy to like larger people or skinny ones or whatever. Saying 'why limit yourself' is creepier, in my opinion, that's like saying everyone is an option and you treat them like an object.

[Gaeta]

Lets give the guy a break. I know plenty of black men only dating white women and we're not on their case. I am white of French heritage and it's been 3 years since I have been on a date with a white man. I am not attracted to them as I used to be, I am attracted toward men with dark skin and I don't have to justify my preferences, I like what I like, period.

 

OP, I will give you my take on it as a white woman who dates outside her race. It's not the fact you are Indian, it's how traditional you are and how you present yourself. Sugar Sammy is Indian as well as Russell Peters and they're not running out of ladies to date. They are Indian, they're proud of their heritage but they are also very Canadian in their way of thinking, acting, etc.

[Els]

Yes of course. I know plenty of people that have a particular preference. A white female colleague of mine likes black men and a mixed race male colleague of mine likes white women. Why would anyone creep out over that? They exclusively date those races, why would that matter, good luck to them.

 

Speaking for myself, it's usually the reasons given by them (white men who only date East Asian women, in my case), that creep me out the most. The ones who have hit on me (I don't mean all white men, just the ones who say they only date Asians) are typically quite racist and spout a huge amount of stereotypes.

 

I don't understand why people judge others based on attraction or why it would be creepy. It's not creepy to like larger people or skinny ones or whatever. Saying 'why limit yourself' is creepier, in my opinion, that's like saying everyone is an option and you treat them like an object.

 

I think everyone does judge people based on their criteria, to an extent. Some are judged by the majority of people, for instance a woman requiring a man who makes >$200k/year when she doesn't work. Or a 300 lbs man who requires a woman who weighs <100 lbs. Other criteria might not receive such unanimous judgments, but people are still entitled to make them.

[Gaeta]

We don't chose what we are attracted towards. I don't know why OP prefers white women, it sounds like it's because he is the most attracted towards them, he can't change that.

 

What he needs to do now is date one and confirm this is the type of women he likes because behind the color of the skin there is a heritage he also needs to be attracted towards.

 

OP: other then the color of the skin why do you prefer white women?

 

My family is on my case all the time for not dating white men anymore. Last time I went on a date with a white men I spent my evening checking the black men in the room. I can't change it. I like what I like. Then at the end of the night the white man kissed me and it felt like one of my brothers was kissing me on the lips. That day I stopped forcing myself to date them because people think I should not eliminate them from my dating pool.

[Emilia]

Speaking for myself, it's usually the reasons given by them (white men who only date East Asian women, in my case), that creep me out the most. The ones who have hit on me (I don't mean all white men, just the ones who say they only date Asians) are typically quite racist and spout a huge amount of stereotypes.

Sure you can speak for yourself but I dislike seeing statements that there is somehow something wrong with having a preference for one race. Some people are seedy, they will go to Africa too to exploit African ladies who don't have the same sort of economical or other power as Western women. There is sex tourism to Eastern Europe too. Exploitation happens, yes.

I think everyone does judge people based on their criteria, to an extent. Some are judged by the majority of people, for instance a woman requiring a man who makes >$200k/year when she doesn't work. Or a 300 lbs man who requires a woman who weighs <100 lbs. Other criteria might not receive such unanimous judgments, but people are still entitled to make them.

Ok so we don't have to pretend anymore that any preference is fine and everyone is entitled to it? That would be awesome because I'm sick of reading the 'you are entitled to your choices' posts. Although it seems they come up more in weight threads while in race threads it's more of a free-for-all.

[Gaeta]

OP here is Russell Peters (East Indian) on how to become Canadian. Hilarious

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HOm-15621bs

[Els]

Sure you can speak for yourself but I dislike seeing statements that there is somehow something wrong with having a preference for one race. Some people are seedy, they will go to Africa too to exploit African ladies who don't have the same sort of economical or other power as Western women. There is sex tourism to Eastern Europe too. Exploitation happens, yes.

 

Ok so we don't have to pretend anymore that any preference is fine and everyone is entitled to it? That would be awesome because I'm sick of reading the 'you are entitled to your choices' posts. Although it seems they come up more in weight threads while in race threads it's more of a free-for-all.

 

To clarify, I think everyone IS entitled to their own preferences. That doesn't mean that other people cannot choose to not date people with those preferences. That was what I meant to begin with, when I said that he's likely to have a hard time.

[GemmaUK]

OP here is Russell Peters (East Indian) on how to become Canadian. Hilarious

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HOm-15621bs

 

Gaeta, that was hilarious!

Thanks for sharing!

 

I agree with your post about the possible cultural differences too.

 

Over here in the UK there's a lot of Indians. I have Indian friends, male and female, couples and singles same race and mixed race too.

Dating wise though personally, I would really need to get to know their values prior to dating them.

Many Indian men in the UK do go on to marry within their own culture and they see white women as 'easy' basically. Some believe that it's too difficult to date a woman of their own culture as there are certain traditions that must be adhered to whereas with white women they just think we will jump into bed with them.

This I have only become familiar with by talking to Indians by the way.

 

It seems the more Westernised they are the greater chance of dating white women.

[fortyninethousand322]

I don't think there's statistical evidence, but myself (and many people I know) are creeped out by men who are only interested in dating women of one particular race other than their own, even if (or especially if) we are of the race that they favour. Are there many other women who aren't creeped out by it? Perhaps there are, but that would narrow the field even further (and it was narrow enough to begin with, by limiting himself to only one race).

 

Is it always creepy? I mean it could be. But does it have to be?

 

I don't necessarily have this problem as I'm open to all races except my own. But I wonder...

[Els]

Is it always creepy? I mean it could be. But does it have to be?

 

I don't necessarily have this problem as I'm open to all races except my own. But I wonder...

 

Well, those that I and my friends experienced were certainly creepy. But I suppose it depends a lot on their reasons as well.

[R3d]

What's up with all the I'm Indian and only want a white woman posts? Is this the same person? A new trend?

 

It has been a trend for a long time.

[R3d]

OP, I will give you my take on it as a white woman who dates outside her race. It's not the fact you are Indian, it's how traditional you are and how you present yourself. Sugar Sammy is Indian as well as Russell Peters and they're not running out of ladies to date. They are Indian, they're proud of their heritage but they are also very Canadian in their way of thinking, acting, etc.

 

See if this is true, then I shouldn't have much of a problem since like I said, I am pretty "white" in the way I think and act - even my friends say so.

 

But is it true?