Indian Bloke looking to date Interracially

[ktya]

Hi, I'm a 27 year old guy of Indian heritgae living in Canada and am only attracted to white women and would love to date interracially. I see myself settling down with a Caucasian woman but its so hard to find someone open minded who wants to date me. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places but can women who are interested in a guy of Indian heritage come forward and tell me their views. Cheers

 

Im a white guy and I know white women. I wont repeat what they say about Indian men for fear of getting banned but here are their fears.

 

1. Indian culture is well known for putting women in their place. White women are the diametric opposite, they seem to enjoy putting the man in their place. Just not very compatible. I know thats a gross generalization but I'm just sharing what white women in Canada that I know say.

 

2. The family terrifies them. We hear about honor killings in the news right here in Canada, as a guy I even find old Indian men sometimes quite frightening the way they stare at you as you walk by. The concept of marrying into this sends them running.

 

3. Nothing at all related to you, but every white girl I know has had some creepy Indian man quite literally obviously stare at them sometimes right from the seat beside them on the train, looking them up and down from inches away.

 

4. Many white girls have been groped in public places by Indian men. This could be in public, on transit, in the malls, in nightclubs. I beleive that the guys who do this are fully invested in my point#1.

 

You may be a super nice guy who wants nothing to do with these things. But from white girls I know those are quite deeply ingrained general perceptions that would be very hard to shake.

 

I'd recommend if you really are all over getting a white girl, get to know them in a non-dating context first so they can get to know you and see that your not into the above gross generalizations and that isnt you. You might have to befriend a few in a particular group of friends first before you try to make a move on a new one.

 

My two bits. You have an uphill battle. Good luck!

[jcrew11]

You can start by being open to all women of all colors, and working out why you see skin color in the first place. That will make you more attractive as a man.

 

I have to agree that if you have to ask the question on how to talk to white women, it shows more about the ignorance of the OP.

 

(1) It shows that the OP is inexperienced talking to white people or white women specifically and treats white people as "different" and the OP is not open-minded to have a conversation or a learning experience for white people and white culture.

 

(2) It shows a superficial attitude, that "white women" are merely objects of white skin color, rather than human beings with thoughts, personality, and interests.

 

(3) It displays a traditional and misogynistic attitude that a Indian man can come up with some sort of magic formula to date white women, without realizing that patronistic and misogynistic attitudes are preventing him from having a honest relationship and friendship with white women.

 

If a guy has to ask "how to talk to white women" then it just shows his utter lack of social intelligence and awareness. Modern society is no longer segregated. Its up to the Indian man to develop the social skills, and communication skills to speak with women, and not be socially awkward.

[RuggedlyHandsome]

Well thank you all for your kind and not so kind comments. I just wanted to be a spectator and see how this thread takes a life of its own. All I asked was where to find women of a particular race that I'm attracted to, been called a racist and a bigot for choosing and going for what I like.

 

I kinda wonder sometimes why people don't let me go and explore the facets of interracial dating, now that I have a forum and a platform where I can ask questions I am being labelled. Atleast I am honest about whom I want to date and why I am not your typical curry 'muncher' mentality. I was brought up not really a culture vulture so I'm just exploring what I like and go for it, now I asked where can I meet White Western women and I get a ton of abuse. Did I say I'm a race hater > I don't bloody think so, so thank you for the people who have supported me in this post and bugger off to the ones who are still going to label me with the same stereotype of smelling like a curry, do you have an accent etc etc. Gosh when I read some of the replies people have posted I am absolutely flabbergasted with bewildered awe and shock. I don't think I'm somehow the one who is being cheeky here.

 

So again are there any women who like to date a good looking, down to earth and may I dare say a culturally non indian lad ?. Cheers

[notbradpitt]

Well thank you all for your kind and not so kind comments. I just wanted to be a spectator and see how this thread takes a life of its own. All I asked was where to find women of a particular race that I'm attracted to, been called a racist and a bigot for choosing and going for what I like.

 

I kinda wonder sometimes why people don't let me go and explore the facets of interracial dating, now that I have a forum and a platform where I can ask questions I am being labelled. Atleast I am honest about whom I want to date and why I am not your typical curry 'muncher' mentality. I was brought up not really a culture vulture so I'm just exploring what I like and go for it, now I asked where can I meet White Western women and I get a ton of abuse. Did I say I'm a race hater > I don't bloody think so, so thank you for the people who have supported me in this post and bugger off to the ones who are still going to label me with the same stereotype of smelling like a curry, do you have an accent etc etc. Gosh when I read some of the replies people have posted I am absolutely flabbergasted with bewildered awe and shock. I don't think I'm somehow the one who is being cheeky here.

 

So again are there any women who like to date a good looking, down to earth and may I dare say a culturally non indian lad ?. Cheers

 

Are you trying to meet women online or in the real world? If you want to meet women in the real world, its probably best to just get out there and learn through trial and error. You just have to get used to talking to white women and coming across as an open-minded modern man, and not a traditional fob Indian. In dating, there are a couple of key factors. One is the man's individual personality and if he is socially awkward around women, and is he capable of improving himself and adapting to a new society, a new city, and a different type of culture. The second factor would be meeting women who share his interests, and in places that are non-threatening.