realfriends Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 So where to start. Im a 21, soon to be 22 year old whose about to enter into graduate school. I was out of the whole single game all of my undergrad until the last semester. Im a non drinker and non smoker. Yes, I understand thats a bs excuse, but first let me explain. I never stepped a foot in a bar until I was single because I had no need to and no urge to. I have recently given clubs and bars a try with friends, but its just not for me. Paying cover to drink club soda around drunk people just really isn't for me. Ive even had girls approach me but since its not the person I am, and since Im highly unattracted to drunk people, its a waste of time. So you might say, just do some hobbies and you will meet someone. Ok. I play volleyball at the school. Go swimming at the school. Run around the school. Bike on trails. Go to the gym all the time and I have not yet met someone. Dont get me wrong. Im not desperate although it is coming off that way. These are just hobbies I enjoy doing with friends and by myself and maybe with due time, when I least expect it, I will meet someone. My friends use tinder, but I almost feel "above" that. I feel like that its for desperate people and really can't imagine myself even trying that. I have thought of meet up but feel skeptical about that as well. So for now, the question for me still stands. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 No one is above or below Tinder. Both that and online dating sites are just easy ways to meet people, but don't get your hopes up. Team sports are great for meeting girls. I meet new girls almost every time I play soccer. As far as swimming, running and biking go... it's harder to strike up a conversation while doing them. Hell, it's IMPOSSIBLE to pick up a girl at the pool. Instead, try joining your school's triathlon club, or something similar. That way you can actually have a conversation. Also, lololol... Grad school? You'll be drinking soon enough. Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 My problem here in vancouver is the inverse of yours. How to meet girls outside of bars who DO drink. Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 You might want to join special interests groups that cater to your interests. Like a Trail Biking Group or Meetup.com that partakes in such events. That way you can do the things you like with groups of people. So where to start. Im a 21, soon to be 22 year old whose about to enter into graduate school. I was out of the whole single game all of my undergrad until the last semester. Im a non drinker and non smoker. Yes, I understand thats a bs excuse, but first let me explain. I never stepped a foot in a bar until I was single because I had no need to and no urge to. I have recently given clubs and bars a try with friends, but its just not for me. Paying cover to drink club soda around drunk people just really isn't for me. Ive even had girls approach me but since its not the person I am, and since Im highly unattracted to drunk people, its a waste of time. So you might say, just do some hobbies and you will meet someone. Ok. I play volleyball at the school. Go swimming at the school. Run around the school. Bike on trails. Go to the gym all the time and I have not yet met someone. Dont get me wrong. Im not desperate although it is coming off that way. These are just hobbies I enjoy doing with friends and by myself and maybe with due time, when I least expect it, I will meet someone. My friends use tinder, but I almost feel "above" that. I feel like that its for desperate people and really can't imagine myself even trying that. I have thought of meet up but feel skeptical about that as well. So for now, the question for me still stands. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Strange, the biggest singles meetup group I've been going to for a couple of years has over 1,600 members, and out of the dozens of their events I've gone to, only one had alcohol (wine). All the rest just had water and snacks. Practically all the rest of the singles meetup groups here in Los Angeles are nightclub-centered, unless they're outdoors fit/athletic groups. I think there's kind of a tug-of-war between OLD and the bar scene... but TBH it looks kind of old hat... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Attend the socials / mixers in your graduate department. Ask attractive women to study with you. Play on co-ed teams. Do you talk to the women you do encounter? Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 OP, Try going to different social groups in your city via the social networking site, Find your people - Meetup. You will definitely meet women who don't drink that way. Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 So where to start. Im a 21, soon to be 22 year old whose about to enter into graduate school. I was out of the whole single game all of my undergrad until the last semester. Im a non drinker and non smoker. Yes, I understand thats a bs excuse, but first let me explain. I never stepped a foot in a bar until I was single because I had no need to and no urge to. I have recently given clubs and bars a try with friends, but its just not for me. Paying cover to drink club soda around drunk people just really isn't for me. Ive even had girls approach me but since its not the person I am, and since Im highly unattracted to drunk people, its a waste of time. So you might say, just do some hobbies and you will meet someone. Ok. I play volleyball at the school. Go swimming at the school. Run around the school. Bike on trails. Go to the gym all the time and I have not yet met someone. Dont get me wrong. Im not desperate although it is coming off that way. These are just hobbies I enjoy doing with friends and by myself and maybe with due time, when I least expect it, I will meet someone. My friends use tinder, but I almost feel "above" that. I feel like that its for desperate people and really can't imagine myself even trying that. I have thought of meet up but feel skeptical about that as well. So for now, the question for me still stands. Any suggestions? So the way you've successfully met girls is while "paying cover and drinking club soda", but it's the one thing you don't want to do? Lighten up, mate. Its going to be hard to meet 21 year olds when you're ruling people out for acting like 21-year olds. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I'd say start getting friendly with the girls who serve you food, either in a restaurant or at the grocery store, but something tells me that you'd probably just look down on them... Link to post Share on other sites
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