Phit2BTied Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 Just after Christmas, my twin sister showed up for a visit. She had'nt told us she was coming but I was glad to see her. My daughter's 19th birthday was on December 6th so my fiance and I had purchased a Tanzanite ring for her birthday. My daughter showed her Aunt the ring and when my sister left for home the next day, the ring was missing from its jewelers bag. We looked everywhere for it and realization sank in. My neice called a few weeks later and I asked if she had seen the ring and she said "yes, its on Mom's finger". I was furious! I spoke to my sister on the phone and told her that we wanted the ring back and I wanted her to apologize to my daughter for taking it. She never did apologize and we still dont have the ring back. She lives too far away to just drive to get it. I have considered having the local authorities go to her home and get the ring but I really hate to do that. I cant just let her keep it. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 Have you told your Mother and Father? maybe they could harrass her, you know how Mothers are. i do not know what the authorities could do. your nest bet would be to take her to civil court, or maybe even call Judge Judy....they love familial squabbles, especially twin sisters! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phit2BTied Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 Involving Mom and Dad are'nt an option here, both are deceased. Was thinking the cops could go get the ring from her. As for Judge Judy...yeah, she'd prolly rip the triffling twin a new one but I look terrible on T.V LOL Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 I understand that you want to recover your daughter's ring. And then there's the outrage you feel at what your sister did. I don't think you can express the latter to your sister, while pursuing the former. I doubt your sister is going to willingly engage you in discourse about what she did, why, etc. It sounds like she's got issues, and right now, with your daughter being the victim of her behavior, she's unlikely to open up to you. I suggest this: calmly tell your sister that in one week you will be filing a police report about the missing ring. You will tell the police everything if you file the report, including the fact that you suspect her. If the ring is returned to your daughter before a week has passed (read: not en route, but actually physically in her possession), you will not file a police report, and you will not speak of the matter again unless your sister brings it up herself. You've got to leave your sister some room to act. What she did is such a violation of trust and decency, it's much easier for her to ignore your protests, questions, etc., even though in doing so she's making things worse. Clearly something is wrong with her, but you're not in a position to help her get to the bottom of it. So if you want the ring back, pursue that unemotionally, and leave it to your sister to make overtures when she's ready to repair the relationship. If you don't want the ring back, I'd just stop communicating with your sister until she's ready to talk about it. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 You're 100% sure that your sister took the ring. She didn't buy one like it, she actually has yours, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phit2BTied Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 Monday...100%...how...The ring was a special order from a jeweler..AND she admitted to taking it when I confronted her midori...I wish I could just cut things off with her but that is a Tanzanite ring we had special ordered for my daughter and it was not cheap. I will take your advice and tell her she has a week to return it... The biggest thing about this whole deal is that it was my sister! my sister stole a brand new birthday present from her own neice. I feel awful for my daughter and saddened beyond belief that my flesh and blood could do this with no quilt whatsoever. Link to post Share on other sites
ImKris Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 She lives too far away to just drive to get it. How about a train? If I felt as strongly about something like this I would be on that sisters door step faster than a fly can land on sh*t! What is she going to do when your looking at her face to face and you see for yourself that the ring is on her trecherous finger? Especially if her daughter is standing there! You'll teach your daughter and your neice what a good mother should do for their child. You might even teach your twin a thing or two about parenting too. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 Here's another suggestion, kind of low handed but maybe she'll get an idea of how you feel. Go to her house and lift something of sentimental value to her. Then offer a trade...... Link to post Share on other sites
Nubianangel Posted March 4, 2005 Share Posted March 4, 2005 I suggest this: calmly tell your sister that in one week you will be filing a police report about the missing ring. You will tell the police everything if you file the report, including the fact that you suspect her. If the ring is returned to your daughter before a week has passed (read: not en route, but actually physically in her possession), you will not file a police report, and you will not speak of the matter again unless your sister brings it up herself. Good advice Midori! If I were in Phit2Be's shoes and I were calm and thinking clearly, it would make sense to try this BUT... If I felt as strongly about something like this I would be on that sisters door step faster than a fly can land on sh*t! I'm afraid this would be my reaction and I'd kick her derriere for doing so. JMHO! Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted March 4, 2005 Share Posted March 4, 2005 Midori is the most right. Kicking someones ass is not an option 911 works both ways. Lifting something from someones house and holding it "hostage" is not an option because again 911 works both ways. If it were me I'd call the police right now. No more dialogue with a thief for me. Your sister knows you want the ring back, she knows she stole it, she isn't returning it--based on results and she knows you want it back. Giving her a week gives her the time to dig a deeper hole for herself by trying to cover up the crime. Warnings? She's had plenty of warnings. How old was she when she first learned that taking someone else's property is wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
invincible summer Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 I'm with Craig....and if that doesn't work..then maybe try Moose and ImKris' ideas Link to post Share on other sites
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