loved up lady Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 I spilt up with my ex a couple of months ago because of problems outside the relationship and he ended up getting with another girl. They slept together and then decided to start a relationship. I was still in touch with him because we still love eachother very much. We met eachother and we kissed. He felt guilty and told his girlfriend, so they split up. But while they were together i couldn't get the thought of them sleeping together out of my mind. So i slept with a friend of mine, we'd done it before and i knew he wanted it again, we both know its nothing more than just a shag. I figured, he wants it, my ex and his girl are at it, so i did it. Now that my ex is single we've realised how much we wanna be together, but not yet though. Trust has been an issue in our relationship for a while so we both think we should be friends and learn to trust eachother before we get back into the relationship. However, i have the opportunity to sleep with him and i really want to, i miss our sex life so much, it was so exciting and we were constantly experimenting. I know theres so many things that i want to do with him, but i refuse to sleep with him yet. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . and this is the reason, I FEEL SO DIRTY! because i slept with that other guy i feel really dirty and its not just that, i feel like he's really dirty too because he slept with another girl. I feel like i want to get in the bath and scrub my body to within an inch of its life and i want him to do the same. I explained this to him and he didn't understand! I really want to be back with him and get our sex life back on track, but how do i stop feeling so dirty without phsically scarring myself?????? Need your advice ASAP please!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author loved up lady Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 Nobody wants to help me??? Nobody at all??? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 Stop thinking about sex with the other guy? Had you not had sex with anyone but your current boyfriend (ex) until this happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Author loved up lady Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 ok, i had a serious relationship before, and slept with him then i slept with this guy, i friend of mine just the once then my ex boyfriend and then the second guy again, and he's the one i feel dirty about! Link to post Share on other sites
Author loved up lady Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 You guys are so quiet But i need a whole new set of advice now. He told me that he's going to delete my number and distance himself from me, he said i dont need him screwing with my head. So i've text him and rung him with no success and now his phone is switched off. The thing is, we were gonna be friends, friends dont have to sleep with eachother, so why is he cutting me off completely?? ITS LIKE HES PUNISHING ME FOR NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM! what do i do? i want him back as my friend? He has always been my best friend. ARGHHHHHHHH Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 My mother always told me if you break up with someone you shouldn't get back together with them. I wish I had listened to her. Of course you'll crash and burn however you want to crash and burn. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loved up lady Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 ok, that is fair enough. But, how do i get him to stop ignoring me so that we can be friends? Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 you dont. he will do what he wants to do and you will have little influence on this. you should back off, give him the space that he obviously needs. for whatever reason. AND before you get involved again, give yourself chance to feel better about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 two words. no contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loved up lady Posted February 16, 2005 Author Share Posted February 16, 2005 four words tried and failed. I've tried it before and it doesn't work. i give in too easily! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 16, 2005 Share Posted February 16, 2005 Originally posted by loved up lady four words tried and failed. I've tried it before and it doesn't work. i give in too easily! well grow some balls and stick to your guns. Or, alternative, you could spend the rest of your life feeling bitter and never getting what you deserve...the choice is yours. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter My mother always told me if you break up with someone you shouldn't get back together with them. I wish I had listened to her. Of course you'll crash and burn however you want to crash and burn. not everyone chooses to get with abusive criminal cokeheads like you did meaning she (or others) may not crash and burn like you did. Don't take it out on others because you cant choose guys. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by Weird not everyone chooses to get with abusive criminal cokeheads like you did meaning she (or others) may not crash and burn like you did. Don't take it out on others because you cant choose guys. Jesus frikkin Christ, why are you personalizing this? If you want to attack me, keep it in PM. Thanks, doofus. Link to post Share on other sites
xxxImaginaryloverxxx Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 It seems to be that all u think about is sex. a relationship isn't based on sex. if u guys love each other be with each other. who cares about the sex. if u love him then be together Link to post Share on other sites
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