Married women flirting with me at a gym!!! Need your

[liverpool]

I have this great problem with this woman at the gym where I workout. For nearly 10 months I didn't know she was married as a result that she never wears the ring at the gym and her husband never makes an appearance there. Just recently I discovered that she is married through an accidental coincidence when bumping into her at the plaza. This time she was wearing her wedding ring.

 

For nearly 10 months, she will go into the gym without her husband and without the ring. I hope you get what I’m saying here. Anyway, she will always flirt with me by giving me the soft puppy looks in her eyes. Oh!!! Shouldn’t forget that she always wants to listen in to my conversations by standing at the back of the wall, making it look as if she is not staring.

 

But when I discovered that she is married, I quit the flirting around. I did it because I don’t like fooling around with married women. This is bad and I feel strongly that I will be stepping into a hornet’s nest. When she realise that I didn’t want to flirt anymore, she took offense to it. It's like I stopped feeding her the attention she craves for so badly.

 

It became so precarious, that she decided to provoke me at the gym by sitting on my spin bike that she never rides on and started giving me menacing looks. Let’s admit: she got vengeful with me because it was me that stopped the flirting. She did not take my rejection very lightly and started giving me seething looks. When she was sitting on my spin bike, she said to me in a childish manner the following: ".....I now have your bike and you go and use another one hmmmm..." Than 15 minutes into the spin session, she got off my bike and went back to her original bike.

 

The next day, she decided (for vengeance) to show up to the gym with her husband (for the 1st time). I think she wanted to demonstrate a stupid point to me, by trying to say to me: “I’ve been married all this time… You’re nothing but a poor fool.” I think. I guess she feels stupid now, which is why she's brought her husband to the gym. It's not because she wants his company... if that was the case he would have showed up months ago. She's trying to make a pathetic point to me.

 

Nine month after she brought her husband into the gym to teach me a lesson, she decided to restart her flirtatious game once again with me. She wanted to know my name. I notice that she felt happy that I was speaking with her. At the same time, I am wondering if she was stocking me or waiting for me in the spin room. She never made appearances during evenings on week days. Therefore, did she purposely set up this scene to have a conversation? But the next day, I still kept my distance from her knowing that she is married and the fact that she brought the mystery husband to teach me a lesson. Once again, she did not take lightly that I was still being distance wise with her. She does not take rejections lightly.

 

I also discovered by talking with others that she comes from a very rich powerful family whose parents are the owner and CEO of a powerful corporation. That explains why she never wears her wedding ring. I figure she can dispose of the husband whenever she feels likes it as she doesn’t have to wear his wedding ring while she flirts at the gym. I am assuming it is an attitude of entitlement.

 

 

By the way!! A friend at the gym did tip me off (over three weeks ago) on what was her last name. From there I discovered her Facebook profile. What do you know? Her profile picture displays her official wedding picture with her and her husband all dressed up in her wedding dress!!! It obviously confirmed on what I was always predicting about her.

 

Guys, what’s your opinion on this issue???

 

Here are some questions I need to be answered:

1. Why flirt if you know you’re married? 2. Why hide the wedding ring for nearly a year? 3. Why do you finally bring your husband to the gym after a whole entire year? Her husband is not even the gym type of guy. 4. Was she intrigued by me or was she on a power trip? I need advise..

Edited June 25, 2014 by liverpool

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, the only thing I really get from this is that you are making an awful lot of assumptions about her motivations and intentions. You barely know her. Yet you are assuming your interpretation of the situation is the only correct one. Maybe she thinks you are the one flirting with her. Perhaps she brought her husband to the gym to make it clear to you that she's not available.

 

I also don't really understand your conclusion about why she doesn't wear her wedding ring at the gym. Plenty of people (myself included)) don't wear valuable jewelry when working out, in the event it gets lost or damaged. Where you came up with the theory that she is rich so her husband is disposable...I can't even..

 

In any event, none of it really matters. She is married. You know now that for sure. Find someone who is on the market and can return your affections.

[liverpool]

I need your advise..

[ExpatInItaly]

I need your advise..

 

I already gave it to you: find someone who is available and can return your affections.

[d0nnivain]

I am a married women & I flirt all the time. It's all in good fun & I don't mean anything by it. I don't act differently in front of my husband's face then I do behind his back.

 

 

She may have just been a flirt & never willing to take it out of the gym. You were a pleasant distraction while she was working out, not somebody she was willing to break her vows over.

 

 

She did act like a spoiled child when you stopped flirting but that still doesn't mean anything more than she's an immature flirt. You are totally overthinking this. You don't want to be a homewrecker assuming that is what she was offering. Say hello / be polite but other than that, ignore her.

[liverpool]

Perhaps she brought her husband to the gym to make it clear to you that she's not available.

 

 

Ok!!! How do you explain that nine month after she brought her husband into the gym to teach me a lesson, she decided to restart her flirtatious game once again with me. She even wanted to know my name. I notice that she felt happy that I was speaking with her.

At the end of it all, she did not have any business wanting to know my name and initiate a conversation by being alone with me in the spin room. If she did brought her husband to give me a warning as you claim, then it was her responsibility to stay the hell away from me. Therefore it was not her place to be speaking with me. Also why provoke a situation by jumping on my bike and acting like child. Let’s admit: she got vengeful with me because it was me that stopped the flirting. She did not take my rejection very lightly and started giving me seething looks.

[MikeyBe]

She's a stranger to you.

 

Who cares. Ignore her.

[liverpool]

I am a married women & I flirt all the time. It's all in good fun & I don't mean anything by it. I don't act differently in front of my husband's face then I do behind his back.

 

 

She may have just been a flirt & never willing to take it out of the gym. You were a pleasant distraction while she was working out, not somebody she was willing to break her vows over.

 

 

She did act like a spoiled child when you stopped flirting but that still doesn't mean anything more than she's an immature flirt. You are totally overthinking this. You don't want to be a homewrecker assuming that is what she was offering. Say hello / be polite but other than that, ignore her.

 

Thanx for your honesty...You hit it perfectly well.

[ThatGirl213]

I don't see why you need to be thinking about this so much. If she is annoying you, you ignore her. Eventually she will give up whatever game she is playing or she will find someone else to flirt with. Maybe she likes the attention and maybe that motivates her to work out.

 

How did you conclude that because she is rich, she can dispose her husband? You met her only once outside the gym right? And she had her ring that time. Maybe you should check if she has it the next time you see her outside of the gym. Maybe it is only at the gym she doesn't wear it.

[Keke1]

She took a longgggg time to find out your name. You over thinking this IMO

[BG11]

I also think you are over-thinking this but if your goal is to not be a douche that messes around with married women just ignore her. Move on to one of the single girls.

 

Also, a lot of your thread is based off of assumptions. Like why she brought her H to the gym, times she shows up to the gym, and what she is thinking by sitting on certain bikes.

 

Also, for a guy that isn't interested in her its a little strange that you would track her FB profile. The only reason I look at girls FB profiles is because I find them attractive.