My husband is nuts or something.

[FolderWife]

He's mad at me for no reason!

 

We decided (together) this weekend that we'd celebrate Valentines day on Tuesday to avoid the crowds. We were going to have dinner, and see a movie. We haven't had a date in over six months.

 

My husband has a video game that he likes to play, but one day last week, his playstation conked out, and scratched his game up.

 

I ordered him a new playstation online, and it arrived where I work yesterday. So, even though I had on REALLY uncomfortable shoes, I took my lunch break, and went to the mall, and bought him the game to play with his playstation, then drove to where he works and put both the playstation and the game in his truck, so when he got off work, he could go home and enjoy it.

 

He called me two hours later, and I expected a thank you, but he said, "You got the wrong game." I said, "Madden 2005?" He said, "Yeah, I wanted NCAA."

 

Well, I was disappointed that he wasn't happy with my effort, so I said, "When we go on our date tonight, we'll pick up the right game.

 

He acted a little put off by that...like he wanted me to go after work and get his game for him. I didn't want to go to the mall again in these shoes. Plus, the movie started 50 minutes after I would've gotten home, so I didn't really have time.

 

So I arrived home, and he was cussing his game. I went to the bedroom to get dressed, and I heard him say, "I HATE this game!!! You would get the wrong game!!"

 

First off, I didn't HAVE to get him ANYTHING, and how dare he imply that I could do nothing right.

 

I went to the living room, and asked him if he still planned to take me to the movies. He didn't reply. I told him one showing was at 6:50, and the other was at 9:25. He still wouldn't tell me. I went back to the bedroom for a minute, then came back, and asked him again if we were going. He yelled at me to stop nagging him, and told me to go away.

 

So, I went to the grocery store.

 

I came home to find him dressed. I had thrown out all ideas of going anywhere with him, so I was suprised to find him dressed. We watched American Idol for a minute then he asked me if I was ready. I said I was. He rolled his eyes, and said, "You're so pushy."

 

 

So I grabbed my purse, and he looked at me, and said, "Zip up your shirt, we're not going out whoring!"

 

I zipped it and looked at him like

 

Then we went to the vehicle, and he set it for himself, and flipped through the radio stations. He found two in a row that were the same. He said, "Did you set these?" I said, "Yes." He said, "You've got two that are the same...only you would do something like that."

 

again talking to me like I'm too stupid to do anything right. I didn't say anything the whole ride, because I had no IDEA what was UP with him!

 

We arrived at the movies, and once he was parked, and took the keys out of the ignition, I got out of the car. He let out a heavy sigh, and got out. He said, "Did anyone tell you to get out?" I thought to myself "I DIDN'T ASK!!!" I said, "No." He said, "Huh!?" I said, "No, they didn't." He said, "Why are you getting an attitude??" I said, "You're being mean!" He said, "Do you want to leave!?!" I said, "No...do you?" He said, "Yes!" So I said, "OK." We turned and went back to the vehicle.

 

He was staring at me when I got inside the car, so I looked at him, and he said, "Don't look at me!"

 

 

What the heck was his problem!? Halfway home, I let out a sigh, and he said, "What are you huffing about?" I said, "I could've stayed home and watched American Idol!" He said, "That's what I was thinking!" I said, "Why didn't you SAY SOMETHING!?!?!" He said, "YOu kept going on about our 'date'" I said, "I Just wanted to know what time we were leaving, and if you still wanted to go, so I could know when to get ready. If you didn't want to go, we could've stayed home!!!"

 

We argued back and forth for a while, and when we got home, we weren't speaking to each other.

 

Clearly he didn't want to go to the movies, and clearly, even though I didn't have to get him a stupid game, he's mad at me for getting the wrong one, but GOD BLESS AMERICA he had no right to act like such a CHILD!

[FolderWife]

I wanted to add that Sunday, he threw a fit on me because I wouldn't go buy him a playstation. He wanted to take the money out of our house payment fund, because our income tax return is supposed to come in this month, and we'll be able to take some of that money for the house payment. I didn't want to, and made the mistake of saying, "You never let me buy anything with of the house payment money." he got TOO mad at that. He said that it's ok, since we have money coming in, but not before he denied saying that, and yelling at me like an idiot. Once I understood his side, I didn't care, but he acted like an a**h***. This whole argument flared up right after he gave me a hug and told me that he loved me One second he's holding me, the next minute he's yelling at me.

 

He threw a fit on me last Thursday over nothing too.

 

It sounds like porn. Usually when he's extremely irrational, he's got a porno stashed somewhere.

[Artifact]

I don't even know what to say. It sure sounds like something is up with him though. Either he had the absolute worst day of his life and for some reason won't tell you- or, from reading your other posts, has something he's hiding that may be eating him up.

 

No one should act like that, or be treated like that!

[Merin]

Omg Monday!

 

Seriously from what you've said.. I swear if it had been me I would've packed up the whole freakin play station threw it in the box and taken it back to the store!!

 

Thats un-set!

[FolderWife]

Thank you both! I feel a lot better getting that off my chest. I tried to stay rational, and not blow up at him, but he sure made it hard

[whichwayisup]

We arrived at the movies, and once he was parked, and took the keys out of the ignition, I got out of the car. He let out a heavy sigh, and got out. He said, "Did anyone tell you to get out?" I thought to myself "I DIDN'T ASK!!!" I said, "No." He said, "Huh!?" I said, "No, they didn't." He said, "Why are you getting an attitude??" I said, "You're being mean!" He said, "Do you want to leave!?!" I said, "No...do you?" He said, "Yes!" So I said, "OK." We turned and went back to the vehicle.

 

This is one of the many things you said that got me. WTF ??????????????

 

He needs help. IT IS NOT YOU MONDAY...It's HIM and HIM ONLY. NO matter what you do or don't do - He's gonna be set off by something. The way you look, smell, hair parted, a pimple lol, anything - Just know it is NOT YOU.

 

I really commend you for hanging in. I don't think I could put up with the attitude from him. What a crappy time and so unfair considering the efforts you went through to get him the game. He's a child and children need to be treated like children some times. Yes it is petty - but it seems that is the ONLY way you can get him to understand.

 

I would have smashed the game too. Or gone over and given him the LOOK right in his face then walk away from him.

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

You're married to a child. I'll never understand why grown men with no kids have a playstation!?!?! But that's just me and my generation I guess.

 

You two need to sit down and have a long talk.....or watch a porno together or something!

 

Also, if he wants to buy something out of the house money that costs, say $200, then tell him what YOU are going to buy with YOUR $200. If he gets to, then you get to also. That should be a given.

 

Also, when he first made the comment about the wrong game, you should have told him straight out that he made an assenine comment because of what you went through to get the game. If something he says makes you feel bad, you need to let him know that and why. My marriage ended because we made too many assumptions and never spoke up - avoided too many issues.

 

Good luck.

 

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[michelangelo]

Um, he is being an idiot and acting like a spoiled child. He was obviousloy trying to pick a fight with you because he didn't want to do this whome romantic date thing.

 

And he also might have had a weak-pule bit of guilt since he didn't go buy you anything for VT too.

 

Personally, i think he owes you an apology and an explanation. he disses you for getting the "wrong" game? and for teh radio settings or getting out of the car?

 

I wouldn't buy him a dang thing ever again if he ever reacted with anything but "thank you so much"!

 

Something else was bugging him.

 

What and why is whatI'd want to know if I were you.

 

BTW, you need to make it clear he should not order you around like that and criticize you for crap.

[FolderWife]

I have made it clear to him that I didn't appreciate his attitude, and that I expected an apology. Usually, he's quick to apologize when he's been a jerk, but he is holding off this time for some reason...he keeps asking, "What did I do? I didn't do anything." I'll tell him all of the mean things he said, and he still won't apologize.

 

I don't get it. It's like he doesn't want to make up...

 

I asked him last night if work was bothering him, and he said no. I then asked, "Did I do something?" He said really fast and sincere, "No."

 

I didn't ask any more..I am trying to give him space to tell me if he needs to, but he's not trying to make up with me, and he's not telling me what's eating him.

[DinNJ]

Take the playstation back... get the cash and buy something nice for yourself... cause he's waaaaay too ungrateful. OR- trade your husband in for a new one.

[WalkingTall]

Originally posted by mom-wife-cheater

You're married to a child. I'll never understand why grown men with no kids have a playstation!?!?! But that's just me and my generation I guess.

b

 

IT'S THE BUTTONS!!!!!!

 

LOL, better way of putting it, it's pure escape-ism. It's a way of letting go of the stress, and being a part of another world.

 

I would guess its similar to romance novels... takes you away to a fantasy world.

 

 

And Monday.... you should have returned the game, got him the right game, but for the wrong system like Xbox, and told him, "When you figure out how to use those together you may figure out how to get us to work"

 

Good Luck!

[GirlDown]

Originally posted by WalkingTall

 

 

IT'S THE BUTTONS!!!!!!

 

LOL, better way of putting it, it's pure escape-ism. It's a way of letting go of the stress, and being a part of another world.

 

I would guess its similar to romance novels... takes you away to a fantasy world.

 

 

And Monday.... you should have returned the game, got him the right game, but for the wrong system like Xbox, and told him, "When you figure out how to use those together you may figure out how to get us to work"

 

Good Luck!

 

i don't even know any women who actually read romance novels...i know i don't...

 

and what's worse than a husband with no kids who plays video games?

 

a husband WITH THREE KIDS who plays video games and does nothing else.

 

i would know...he's my brother-in-law and i have been plotting his demise for several years now.

 

monday, this guy's a loser. get rid of him.

[Thinkalot]

Hey monday- I havent been around here for a while, but I sure am sorry to hear your husband is acting like that. He needs to sort out HIS issues, and this is not fair on you at all. If I were you, I really would have lost it big time (not that that would have helped at all).

 

I hope things get better very soon.

[FolderWife]

I found the porn! I found the porn! Yep, his weird behavior started Tuesday before last , but escalated the following Friday. I pinned him down once I found the porn, and he admitted that he bought it Thursday Do I know him or what! That's the only thing that I could figure would cause him to act like this, and sure enough that's what it was.

 

I started a thread on it, so you guys would be filled in if you want more of the story.

[FolderWife]

By the way, guys, I don't know if it matters, but when I bought the RIGHT game, I also spent twice as much on a pair of earring that I'd been eyeing and when I took the WRONG game back, I didn't redeposit the money, but kept it and went shopping this weekend

 

So it's all good.

[Dino]

Originally posted by Monday

I found the porn! I found the porn! Yep, his weird behavior started Tuesday before last , but escalated the following Friday. I pinned him down once I found the porn, and he admitted that he bought it Thursday Do I know him or what! That's the only thing that I could figure would cause him to act like this, and sure enough that's what it was.

 

I started a thread on it, so you guys would be filled in if you want more of the story.

 

Maybe I'm missing something, but why would porn possibly make him act that way???

[FolderWife]

Guilt? I haven't figured it out yet. He's still testy, but he's a little better...

[hugznkisses21]

that doesnt seem like a great situation to be in...especially for the rest of your life....have u tried marriage councelling?

[sumdude]

Originally posted by Monday

By the way, guys, I don't know if it matters, but when I bought the RIGHT game, I also spent twice as much on a pair of earring that I'd been eyeing and when I took the WRONG game back, I didn't redeposit the money, but kept it and went shopping this weekend

 

So it's all good.

 

???!?!?!?? All GOOD ?????!!!!!!!

 

Sound's about as dysfunctional as it gets without bodily harm. Tit for tat and all that. You two are really something. Your husband is a butthead. You seem to now be responding the same way out of frustration.

[FolderWife]

I gotta do what I gotta do