Parenting schedule for almost 3 year old.

[peace-maker17]

Hi All,

 

I have been divorced since my son was a little over a year old. My ex and I are trying to agree on a parenting plan. She works 12 hour shifts on the weekends Sat and Sun and One day during the week that is optional. I work a traditional M-F with some work from home on Fridays half the time.

 

I proposed via my attorney we do the following which I think she is agreeable to. Needless to say we rarely communicate.

 

On my weeks I would have Thurs at 5 pm until Monday at 9 am. On her weeks I would have Fri at 5 pm until Sunday night at 8 pm. Her schedule is 7:00 am to 7:30 pm. I tried to get that Sunday night but she is refusing/objecting to that. We would split all the holidays, each get 10 vacation days with him and split summer time 50/50 Fri - Fri.

 

I think this is a pretty good schedule for my son, I currently have Thurs-Mon but a Wed overnight only.

 

Once he starts school I can pick him up at school and drop him off on Thurs, Fri and Mon on my weeks, pick him up Friday on her weeks.

 

I'm not sure how sustainable this is, also we live 40 miles apart so not sure how the pre-school thing would play out.

 

Thanks for any opinions.

[iris219]

Once he starts school I can pick him up at school and drop him off on Thurs, Fri and Mon on my weeks, pick him up Friday on her weeks.

 

I'm not sure how sustainable this is, also we live 40 miles apart so not sure how the pre-school thing would play out.

 

I would be most concerned about this.

 

Will the child go to preschool near her? What about when he starts school? Whose district will he be in and who is going to drive 80 miles round trip to take him? You will need to figure out this out.

[peace-maker17]

I would be most concerned about this.

 

Will the child go to preschool near her? What about when he starts school? Whose district will he be in and who is going to drive 80 miles round trip to take him? You will need to figure out this out.

 

I will likely move closer before he is in kindergarten. She's going to have to give on the preschool thing or he will not be going to preschool. Pick a school between us etc. The home I am in is our marital home and the only stable home my son knows. She has moved three times and is living in a friends basement she works with. Granted it's a nice home but just sets him up for another move in the future.

[Hope Shimmers]

I agree with the previous - you have a lot of school years to get through and you need some legal terms to this to protect your son.

 

In my case both me and my ex-H agreed to live in the same school district as each other for all our kids (when they were in elementary school, that meant we literally needed to live in the same neighborhood - they are older now but we still do that in order to let them maintain their neighborhood friends). But if you don't have that agreement then someone has to agree to drive him to school and it would depend on the school district as to how they would handle one of you being outside of the district in terms of him being considered a 'resident' in terms of going to the school.