karlym3 Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 hello all-- ive got a question. There is this guy im interested in who is interested back but not on the same level as me. If I dont do something fast he will lose interest-already I find his behavior lazy as I have spoiled him into thinking that if calls ill come running. what are some ways of backing off, playing hard to get. My friend has been putting off meeting this guy for a month and now he is beyond crazy about her writing her beautiful emails etc. I dont want to do something that drastic-- or do I need to? There must be a fine medium as I dont want to lose him either. How often can you act busy- turn him down and not take his phone calls before they quit calling you?? Does anyone have any stories to share about playing hard to get and it working? what did you do? Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 karly..... if he isnt interested then he isnt interested, and nothing that you say or do will make him more interested than he is. chances are if you have handed it on a plate to him, the game is already over, you cant withdraw your pieces and start again. and who on earth wants to be with a guy that makes no effort, shows no interest, and just cant be bothered anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ if he isnt interested then he isnt interested, and nothing that you say or do will make him more interested than he is. chances are if you have handed it on a plate to him, the game is already over, you cant withdraw your pieces and start again. and who on earth wants to be with a guy that makes no effort, shows no interest, and just cant be bothered anyway? Wise as ever, Saffy. Karly, give it up! We've talked about this on the other thread. Sometimes you just have to accept that you played the game badly and move on. I wish I could go back and redo the breakup with ReluctantJuliette. I would be so much wiser. And the outcome might well have been different. But I can't - I have to live with my mistakes and move on. I'm trying instead to learn a maximum of lessons for the future. So should you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author karlym3 Posted February 17, 2005 Author Share Posted February 17, 2005 Alright you two win!! IM bored at work and have way to many hours to think about this. Its nice to read others advice but I know the game is probably over. Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 it isnt about "winning" karly, you asked for advice and we offered it. the advice is back off........if he comes to you, then great......if not, then acccept that he isnt worth your time, and find someone that is...............but next time.......let him do the chasing, and match it. you will feel so much better for it. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by karlym3 Alright you two win!! IM bored at work and have way to many hours to think about this. Its nice to read others advice but I know the game is probably over. Sorry Karly. I got carried away giving advice and forgot the feelings side. I know this situation sucks - just one month ago I couldn't go a day without crying. And hey, this is a game which sometimes comes back to life when you least expect it. But the best way to prepare for this is to move on in your heart, be strong, make yourself over and be mentally prepared (learn the no contact lessons for example). Link to post Share on other sites
Author karlym3 Posted February 17, 2005 Author Share Posted February 17, 2005 Romeo- tell me your story Link to post Share on other sites
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