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A lot of talk about approaching women in public. One of the most common things I hear is. "Don't fear rejection, you'll never know unless you try"

 

From my experience, women give off signals that let men know if they're interested. If I see a women I like, I try and make eye contact. If she looks and smiles, I'm good to approach. Or sometimes I might catch one eyeballing me which is obvious. Now if I'm next to woman in line somewhere and she's not smiling, kinda looking down or away from me with a straight face, I'll just save myself a rejection. It's reading typical body language.

 

If you were at the mall and you passed by a good looking guy, do you look at him and/or smile as you pass him?

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Definitely look in his direction and if we make eye contact, I'd flash him a smile :D

 

Nothing ventured, nothing gained after all.

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A lot of talk about approaching women in public. One of the most common things I hear is. "Don't fear rejection, you'll never know unless you try"

 

From my experience, women give off signals that let men know if they're interested. If I see a women I like, I try and make eye contact. If she looks and smiles, I'm good to approach. Or sometimes I might catch one eyeballing me which is obvious. Now if I'm next to woman in line somewhere and she's not smiling, kinda looking down or away from me with a straight face, I'll just save myself a rejection. It's reading typical body language.

 

If you were at the mall and you passed by a good looking guy, do you look at him and/or smile as you pass him?

 

Yes! Absolutely!

 

I think this is the big indicator that many men miss.

 

I have seen it happen and have also been on the receiving end of a cold approach where the guy hadn't even registered on my radar.

 

If he has't registered on my radar then he can be almost certain that I am not attracted (Though I would have to actually see him and him have passed my eye line - if he is behind me for instance I may not even know he is there at all).

If he has registered on my radar and I have looked into his eyes he can be pretty sure I'm attracted to what I see.

If I have smiled that just confirms it.

He would be perfectly safe to say hello or start a conversation. If he sounds like Peewee Herman though...this may put me off once he opens his mouth! :laugh:

 

If I spot someone who is looking into my eyes as they walk by I will look away and not look back if I am not interested. There won't be any glimmer of a smile either.

If I am turned right off I may well even give a very brief look of contempt.

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Yes! Absolutely!

 

I think this is the big indicator that many men miss.

 

I have seen it happen and have also been on the receiving end of a cold approach where the guy hadn't even registered on my radar.

 

If he has't registered on my radar then he can be almost certain that I am not attracted (Though I would have to actually see him and him have passed my eye line - if he is behind me for instance I may not even know he is there at all).

If he has registered on my radar and I have looked into his eyes he can be pretty sure I'm attracted to what I see.

If I have smiled that just confirms it.

He would be perfectly safe to say hello or start a conversation. If he sounds like Peewee Herman though...this may put me off once he opens his mouth! :laugh:

 

If I spot someone who is looking into my eyes as they walk by I will look away and not look back if I am not interested. There won't be any glimmer of a smile either.

If I am turned right off I may well even give a very brief look of contempt.

 

Thats why i dont cold approach ive never got any signals of interest whenver i try to make eye contact they continue along or give me a look of contempt

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Pretty much, almost 100% of the time, when I make eye contact, they never return the look (continue to look straight ahead, maybe they never saw me looking at them), or they look at me, and in a second, they look away (avert their eyes).

 

Too fast to even a hold a slight gaze even.

 

You really need a reason to approach anyhow, that's why I attend the Meetup events, that way they are open to being approached.

 

 

A lot of talk about approaching women in public. One of the most common things I hear is. "Don't fear rejection, you'll never know unless you try"

 

From my experience, women give off signals that let men know if they're interested. If I see a women I like, I try and make eye contact. If she looks and smiles, I'm good to approach. Or sometimes I might catch one eyeballing me which is obvious. Now if I'm next to woman in line somewhere and she's not smiling, kinda looking down or away from me with a straight face, I'll just save myself a rejection. It's reading typical body language.

 

If you were at the mall and you passed by a good looking guy, do you look at him and/or smile as you pass him?

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Eye-contact is my one and only signal. Guys tend to glare back for a second but don't react any further, maybe had girlfriends already. Or the classic answer, "they were too scared". And with eye-contact I'm not talking about a blink lasting less than half a second.

 

I don't flash them a smile, it doesn't feel subtle enough for me in public.

 

But the shyness of the majority of guys gives brave fellas quite many opportunities. Had a guy flirting with me at the counter of McDonald's, another one in a disco and I spent the rest of my stay there with him; love how a pack of guys who were sitting around in a corner just stared at us dancing, it's almost as if they wanted to be in the guys' place. :laugh:

 

Need to open your mouth for that tho.

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Smiles can be deceiving signals if you think they mean green light approach full speed ahead. I'll get a smile from a chick and as I say hi and stuff her bodyguard of a guy friend rolls around the corner. So then I just walk away not in defeat but feeling deceivingly owned. Now, I don't look for the signals. I signal her with a high 5 and if she declines then that means no. This never works btw.

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When a girl smiles at me I always look behind me and turn back and say, oh me? Breaks the ice.

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I wonder if we give signals to be approached as men because this year alone I've had quite a few from girls.

 

I've also noticed that the more they like you, the more noticeable the signals will get. If you're in the same place together, and she places herself in your vicinity for what seems like no apparent reason, that's usually a strong signal. One girl actually flicked her hair in my face a couple of weeks ago to get my attention :laugh:. Had to turn around like ....

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If a woman is not looking around a room when talking with her friends, reading a book, her cell, etc...then she is not interested . We are masters at purposely not making eye contact with men...even acknowledging their presence.

 

This is what I was trying to tell somebody on here yesterday. Thank you

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I've never had that look :( just nothing, a complete lack of recognition like they are looking through me or something. probably why i've never tried the cold approach there is no point if they don't show any interest.

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"Don't fear rejection, you'll never know unless you try"

 

I think we can bury this cliché ^^

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I smile at EVERYONE I pass by. Some of them interpret it as me flirting, but I'm just being friendly, and there is no clear signal I give(that I'm aware of) when I'm checking somebody out.

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I smile and look more than once- keep making eye contact.

 

I find that the internet has made people lazy. Back in the day, the only way you could make a connection was to approach and make conversation. That rarely happens anymore.

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From my experience, women give off signals that let men know if they're interested. If I see a women I like, I try and make eye contact. If she looks and smiles, I'm good to approach.

 

Do you smile first or just make eye contact and see if she smiles? What is your success rate when they smile? I know it's a good sign but I sometimes wonder if it's as much of a green light as it's made out to be. I mean if I look at a woman and smile what kind of person's not going to smile back? That's the way I see it.

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Do you smile first or just make eye contact and see if she smiles? What is your success rate when they smile? I know it's a good sign but I sometimes wonder if it's as much of a green light as it's made out to be. I mean if I look at a woman and smile what kind of person's not going to smile back? That's the way I see it.

 

I'm always smiling, not a big cheesy smile, but a good mood face. ☺ lol you have to look "confidant" now that cliche, I vouch for. It's a green light dude, it's worked every time. It's not the same as when you smile at your neighbor, it's more of a flirt. If she not interested she'll avoid any eye contact or smile, she'll just pretend she doesn't notice. Check out what Eau Claire said. Women decided instantly if they're interested. Think about it, the girls that liked you, I'm sure some have whether you find them attractive or not, couldn't you tell within the first 10 secs?

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Just approach whoever you want, man. I used to approach A LOT in the US. And I found, ultimately, that "signals" don't really mean anything.

 

If anything, I've done way better with women that gave me no apparent signals. I've had a few girlfriends from cold approach and none of them gave me any kind of signal. I just thought they were attractive and approached.

 

Gotta disagree with you on this my friend. The cold approach has always landed me either a rejection or a flake.

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Prolonged eye contact is usually the green light. I was at the pharmacy the other day and the tech kept her eyes locked with mine for a while even after we stopped talking and I was walking away. Always been able to snag the number in cases like that. :p

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The times I was approached, it was in some context. So the men would make small talk or ask a question without feeling pressure and without seeming too obvious. It's a friendly, natural approach which I prefer. I give signals that I like their company when they talk to me, but not before they approach. This has worked well for me to this day.

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Eye-contact is my one and only signal. Guys tend to glare back for a second but don't react any further, maybe had girlfriends already. Or the classic answer, "they were too scared". And with eye-contact I'm not talking about a blink lasting less than half a second.

 

I don't flash them a smile, it doesn't feel subtle enough for me in public.

 

But the shyness of the majority of guys gives brave fellas quite many opportunities. Had a guy flirting with me at the counter of McDonald's, another one in a disco and I spent the rest of my stay there with him; love how a pack of guys who were sitting around in a corner just stared at us dancing, it's almost as if they wanted to be in the guys' place. :laugh:

 

Need to open your mouth for that tho.

 

Thank u I feel even better now at not approaching women because I never get eye contact back from them which means they aren't interested

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I absolutely do. As the other posters have said, the main signal I'll give is eye contact.

 

If I'm interested I'll make eye contact with you - repeatedly - and yes, probably with a smile when we've caught each other's eye a few times.

 

If you're looking at me and I'm avoiding your gaze, then if you approach you're most likely going to get politely rejected. :)

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I always have a happy smiling face when out. Lots of guys look at me and smile as they walk by. But I'm just being friendly. I'm not sure I would want a guy to stop dead in his tracks to talk to me. Better if he hangs around the area I am in.

 

As the other poster said, we women know when you guys are interested. You look at us several times. We like that!

 

This just happened to me in the bookstore. A guy was hanging around the area I was in and repeatedly looked at me. I am dating someone so I didn't make eye contact. He eventually left. But he had it right. If I had been single, I would have looked straight at him and smiled. Maybe even asked him a question about a book, as in "read this one? " while flashing a little smile with a head tilt. Interested!

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This just happened to me in the bookstore. A guy was hanging around the area I was in and repeatedly looked at me. I am dating someone so I didn't make eye contact. He eventually left. But he had it right. If I had been single, I would have looked straight at him and smiled. Maybe even asked him a question about a book, as in "read this one? " while flashing a little smile with a head tilt. Interested!

 

The public library, even with its "quiet please" feel is a good place to go to experience this kind of attraction.

But with the internet, technology, kindles etc the public library is something that will eventually die out. Such a shame. :(

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