Should I compliment girls in bars ?

[LordVader]

What I do in bars amounts to AA drills, because it sure seems most of them just respond politely, but with no interest, or just turn to their friends or go to the bathroom. And my feeble newb skills are no match for many of the pretty girls I "game"

 

All I'm ever trying to do is get a conversation going, I have to work on that before trying to understand attraction.

 

I can be a compliment machine with girls I like, but I rarely rarely ever do.........I let my big smile signal how hot I think they are.

 

What do u all do ??????????????

[regine_phalange]

All you have to do is breathe...

[d0nnivain]

Complimenting strangers is a tricky business. It seems artificial & is often focused on looks, which sexualizes the relationship very quickly.

 

Try striking up a conversation based on what's going on around you -- the game on TV, the weather, the band etc.

[preraph]

I think the best thing is just kind of keep moving but stop sometimes to comment about whatever is going on (music if it's a bar -- Who's the band?), if it's just a bar and nothing to focus on (in which case find a better place) but you can say just "God this place is dead tonight". Obviously if it's a sports bar with tvs going, "Did anything happen while I was in the men's room?" I mean, just talk to them like they're a person.

 

Me and my old roommate used to go up to guys we wanted to check out by totally lying and saying excitedly "Hey, did you see _______ go by? Someone said he was here!" We used a young actor's name, but it could have been any athlete or anyone. And we didn't ONLY ask the ones we wanted to talk to but first asked someone in their periphery so they could see we were going around excitedly asking people stuff and talking to people and being friendly and weren't suspicious. Use your imagination. Just talk to them about what is going on around them.

 

Also, it's creepy if you're standing all night not talking to anyone and then you target one person who has already noticed you don't seem very friendly or talkative. So if you're out in public, for god's sake, talk and be friendly to a lot of people, not just the girl you're targeting to bang -- and that goes for women too. That's how you make friends and meet people. That's how you get a good reputation for being a nice and approachable guy. One girl says to another girl, Oh, yeah, I talked to him a little last week. He seems nice. And then the girl she's telling might stick her neck out and talk to you.