turbo-p Posted June 29, 2014 Share Posted June 29, 2014 You guys are lucky you have the ability to do NC. I have a son with my ex and she is still around everyday, imagine how hard that is to even begin to deal with. It's a living nightmare. Especially when we still get on well. How can I become stronger when I only get a few hours NC at best!! Link to post Share on other sites
gj13 Posted June 29, 2014 Share Posted June 29, 2014 thats it! I think we have about the same timeline (BU about a month ago), and I agree with everything in your post. It is SOOOOO hard to let go, it was even harder for me to learn that my ex already "met" somebody! But like you said I've been keeping busy almost everyday and try not to think about her as much as possible. Its incredibly hard, but each day gets a little easier. I'm still holding hope that she comes to her senses soon, but I'm not going to wait on her. I'm living my life, and whatever happens, happens! Hope everyone has a great night! I feel you! I think lesrning that my ex found someone "new" was harder than the breakup itself. And like you, i still hold hope. Yet im doing my best to better myself and enjoy my family and friends. Still, not a day goes when i dont think about him. Specially saturdays...those Are the worse 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted June 30, 2014 Author Share Posted June 30, 2014 I feel you! I think lesrning that my ex found someone "new" was harder than the breakup itself. And like you, i still hold hope. Yet im doing my best to better myself and enjoy my family and friends. Still, not a day goes when i dont think about him. Specially saturdays...those Are the worse I will ALWAYS love my ex and always miss him. But we did wish each other the best and hoping we will find someone better for each other. A few weeks ago I still had VERY BITTER FEELINGS towards him because he let me go so easily. I think if I saw him with someone new right now, I think I would definitely be upset that he found someone so fast. I think thats a natural feeling though. Thats why I think NC is so important. For me, I'm really taking advantage of the this time apart, for my heart to heal and let go of the feelings we once had. I know for sure it will take me a long time. One day if we ever do see each other again with someone else, I'm sure by that time we'll both be happy for each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted June 30, 2014 Author Share Posted June 30, 2014 You guys are lucky you have the ability to do NC. I have a son with my ex and she is still around everyday, imagine how hard that is to even begin to deal with. It's a living nightmare. Especially when we still get on well. How can I become stronger when I only get a few hours NC at best!! WOW that is toughie!! I wouldn't even be sure how to deal with it. I feel it would really hurt seeing an EX everyday after a breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted June 30, 2014 Author Share Posted June 30, 2014 I really do admire your strength. I first came to LS 5 years ago (name was different back then). I still think of my ex & even feel like I miss him, but I've got to keep telling myself I can't miss him because I don't know him anymore. I miss what we had & who he was. As much pain as I was in, I cannot believe how much I've learned & matured since then. I can already tell you're going to be much better off & happier in the end. You've got an amazing attitude, a sweet personality, & you're gorgeous! Really & truly, his loss. I'm glad to see you're doing so well, keep it up. I feel you can always love and miss your ex. I dont feel there's anything wrong with that at all AS LONG AS you dont keep holding on it. I will always love and miss my ex but I wont let that hold me back from moving on. Oh and I feel the same exact way, when he broke up with me...I felt like I didnt know him anymore. All the broken promises happened that day of the breakup....I lost all my trust in him. We definitely have to learn and grow from this experience. I feel we have to turn a bad experience into something good. Wow thank you so much for the kind words. YES I WANT TO BE HAPPY and STRONG! I am so determined to learn from this. To learn what went wrong in our relationship and to know what I really want in a man. I HOPE YOU'RE DOING WELL TOO!! Feel free to contact me outside of LS if you want. [email protected] Link to post Share on other sites
mus Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 ]I feel you can always love and miss your ex. I dont feel there's anything wrong with that at all AS LONG AS you dont keep holding on it.[/b] I will always love and miss my ex but I wont let that hold me back from moving on. Oh and I feel the same exact way, when he broke up with me...I felt like I didnt know him anymore. All the broken promises happened that day of the breakup....I lost all my trust in him. We definitely have to learn and grow from this experience. I feel we have to turn a bad experience into something good. This is so true. Came across this quote awhile back which is applicable "Just because you miss someone, doesn't mean you need them back in your life. Missing is just a part of moving on." Funny enough i thought i was over her since its almost been six months, but with her birthday coming up next week she has somehow creeped back into my mind. I guess pangs of missing someone you were so close to will come back once awhile just a matter of not letting it overtake you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted July 30, 2014 Author Share Posted July 30, 2014 Hey guys!! It's been quite a few weeks since I've been on this site! I've been doing pretty well over here! Just a few weeks ago, someone offered me a nursing job and I can finally start working as a nurse in the next few weeks. I am pretty excited and nervous at the same time. I've still been keeping pretty busy as always with the gym, I just joined crossfit , I've been doing salsa classes and really doing a a lot of me time. I've actually really been enjoying my single life and embracing where life is going to take me. I haven't really been thinking of my ex as much anymore. No more tears here and I'm finally getting over it. I've accepted it wasn't meant to be, I am ok with that and I forgive him for walking away from me. This has definitely made me a much more stronger person. I haven't really decided yet if I want to remain friends with him. I know in my older posts I've mentioned that I want to stay friends with him, but who knows. I've also been seeing someone new. It's been 2 1/2 weeks since we started talking and casually dating. He's such a sweet guy and he could be potential boyfriend material. He did ask me to be his girlfriend 2 1/2 weeks ago and as flattered/happy as I felt, I politely declined. I told him it hasn't been that long since my ex and I broke up and I'm not ready to be in a relationship just yet. I told him that I need more time to experience my single life, continue to work on myself and work on being a better person. He smiled and told me he totally understands and respects my decision. He told me he is willing to wait until I am ready. I did tell him, I'd love to get to know him better and spend more time with him. Honestly, I actually really genuinely like this guy and I want to see where this goes. So as of now we are just casually dating and enjoying each others company I am also back on FB now as well. I have reactivated my account and it doesn't bother me that I see him comment on our mutual friends statuses and such. I'm honestly happy where I am now and I wouldn't change it for anything. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BridgetGrey Posted July 31, 2014 Share Posted July 31, 2014 there is a light at the end of the tunnel Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted July 31, 2014 Author Share Posted July 31, 2014 Yes there is ?? Link to post Share on other sites
mtsuper Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Hi I'm new to this forum and I've been reading stories and I'd have to say ur posts have inspired me that I hope things get better for me as well today is officially a month since my BU but I've only went one week NC and it kills me so much I try my hardest not to check any social media because I just put in my head she thinks of me and what not then I'll see something that makes me angry last I spoke to her was when I went to her house to surprise her and she gave me a hug and kiss and then didn't even look me in my eyes and told me I need to move on ibcried and just walked away she text me once but I didn't reply and then I found out she blocked me on social sites it hurts so bad and some days are better than others the worst times are when I'm at work and late night when I wake up 3-4 in the morning I just see ur posts and get inspired and hope that I feel the same way as u the only thing I look forward to is that either soon she comes back and wants to work things out or in 3 weeks she goes back to college(which is only 40 minutes away from me) but I can go out more so I don't have to see her or if she is with another guy I just don't know what to do to get this out of my head we were together for 3 years an there are days it kills me I just hope for the best and m glad to see that you are doing much better after that episode u inspire me thank you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Hey guys!! It's been quite a few weeks since I've been on this site! I've been doing pretty well over here! Just a few weeks ago, someone offered me a nursing job and I can finally start working as a nurse in the next few weeks. I am pretty excited and nervous at the same time. I've still been keeping pretty busy as always with the gym, I just joined crossfit , I've been doing salsa classes and really doing a a lot of me time. I've actually really been enjoying my single life and embracing where life is going to take me. I haven't really been thinking of my ex as much anymore. No more tears here and I'm finally getting over it. I've accepted it wasn't meant to be, I am ok with that and I forgive him for walking away from me. This has definitely made me a much more stronger person. I haven't really decided yet if I want to remain friends with him. I know in my older posts I've mentioned that I want to stay friends with him, but who knows. I've also been seeing someone new. It's been 2 1/2 weeks since we started talking and casually dating. He's such a sweet guy and he could be potential boyfriend material. He did ask me to be his girlfriend 2 1/2 weeks ago and as flattered/happy as I felt, I politely declined. I told him it hasn't been that long since my ex and I broke up and I'm not ready to be in a relationship just yet. I told him that I need more time to experience my single life, continue to work on myself and work on being a better person. He smiled and told me he totally understands and respects my decision. He told me he is willing to wait until I am ready. I did tell him, I'd love to get to know him better and spend more time with him. Honestly, I actually really genuinely like this guy and I want to see where this goes. So as of now we are just casually dating and enjoying each others company I am also back on FB now as well. I have reactivated my account and it doesn't bother me that I see him comment on our mutual friends statuses and such. I'm honestly happy where I am now and I wouldn't change it for anything. So very happy for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted August 10, 2014 Author Share Posted August 10, 2014 Hi I'm new to this forum and I've been reading stories and I'd have to say ur posts have inspired me that I hope things get better for me as well today is officially a month since my BU but I've only went one week NC and it kills me so much I try my hardest not to check any social media because I just put in my head she thinks of me and what not then I'll see something that makes me angry last I spoke to her was when I went to her house to surprise her and she gave me a hug and kiss and then didn't even look me in my eyes and told me I need to move on ibcried and just walked away she text me once but I didn't reply and then I found out she blocked me on social sites it hurts so bad and some days are better than others the worst times are when I'm at work and late night when I wake up 3-4 in the morning I just see ur posts and get inspired and hope that I feel the same way as u the only thing I look forward to is that either soon she comes back and wants to work things out or in 3 weeks she goes back to college(which is only 40 minutes away from me) but I can go out more so I don't have to see her or if she is with another guy I just don't know what to do to get this out of my head we were together for 3 years an there are days it kills me I just hope for the best and m glad to see that you are doing much better after that episode u inspire me thank you! Yes getting over a break up is so hard! I know how you feel and I've been there. Just continue to keep busy and be with your friends and family. I've also done my fair hare of constantly snooping on FB and other social media. Which wasnt a good thing because I felt sad and upset. I really let myself grieve for a good month and I didn't see someone new until I was really ready! July came and I just snapped out of it. I didnt want to cry for him anymore. I did start dating but with caution of course. But really take your time to grieve. There will be times when you want to reach out and its really hard! I've reached out to him twice but just a few days after the breakup. Once he did tell me that he didnt want what we have, I finally let go. I cant fight for someone who doesnt want to be with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author triniechu Posted September 6, 2014 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 Hey guys! I've been visiting the forum here and there but mostly giving others advice. I've been doing great and things are looking up. I did get that nursing job and I've been with the company for 3 weeks now! I love it! The pay is great and it's just such a rewarding job. I've kinda stopped going to the gym since I've been so busy with work and trying to get the feel for my new work schedule. But no more excuses and starting back again this coming Monday. I wrote before that I was dating someone for a few weeks. So the update on that is we dated for about a whole month. He asked me to be his girlfriend on our 2nd date and i politely declined in which he respected my decision. I wanted to test him and see if he really was willing to wait and he passed LOL. Being in a relationship was actually going to be my call since I was the one who told him that I would tell him when I'm ready. He took me out to dinner one night and I told I was ready to be in a relationship and see where things would go. So we're both happy, spending quality time together, still getting to know each other and just really enjoying what we have. I'm still learning from my past relationship and incorporating it into my new relationship now...so far, so good! No EXPECTATIONS and just going where the wind takes us. We actually have really strong feelings for each other and we're both happy. Healing from a breakup is different for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelbettersoon Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 Glad your doing so well! Did you ever hear from your ex again? Link to post Share on other sites
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