ohblivious Posted June 29, 2014 Share Posted June 29, 2014 I'm fairly new here to these forums, but I am excited to be involved in such a huge community and be able to discuss these kinds of topics openly. With that being said, I'll try to keep it short. Basically, I am in a rough financial situation with very little to no wiggle room to be able to take a girl out. And to be quite honest, it has shaken my confidence from time to time but I still keep my head up. What do I need to know if I want to start dating someone while in this financially rough spot? Thanks! -ohblivious Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted June 29, 2014 Share Posted June 29, 2014 I'd say it probably depends a lot on the girl and culture of your area. These days in America it's no secret that a lot of women expect a man they're dating to bankroll a first date, at least. If your girl is sympathetic and understanding it might not even be an issue. Try doing free or inexpensive things until things turn up. If I were you and I didn't have much money I'd definitely come equipped with a plan of attack about how I was going to start making some. Being in a rough spot is one thing, being in a rough spot and totally complacent with it is another. A nice girl will appreciate your ambition even if your immediate circumstances aren't ideal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ohblivious Posted June 29, 2014 Author Share Posted June 29, 2014 I'd say it probably depends a lot on the girl and culture of your area. These days in America it's no secret that a lot of women expect a man they're dating to bankroll a first date, at least. If your girl is sympathetic and understanding it might not even be an issue. Try doing free or inexpensive things until things turn up. If I were you and I didn't have much money I'd definitely come equipped with a plan of attack about how I was going to start making some. Being in a rough spot is one thing, being in a rough spot and totally complacent with it is another. A nice girl will appreciate your ambition even if your immediate circumstances aren't ideal. I am definitely not complacent with it. I'm doing everything I can but it's going to take time. Link to post Share on other sites
MsSmurf Posted June 29, 2014 Share Posted June 29, 2014 Opinions are going to vary on this, but speaking only for myself, what is more important on a date is if I'm enjoying being with the guy. I've gone on lavish dates, cheap dates, and somewhere in the middle dates and they've all been fun if the guy I was with was great and clearly into me. Just date within your means, plan something fun, and focus on her. Whatever you do, DO NOT bring up your money troubles because its extremely unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 29, 2014 Share Posted June 29, 2014 In college, I never spent money on dates....later even I spent very little....go to the beach, for a hike, play frisbee or throw a football in the park, or take a cooler with drinks and snack items for a picnic. There are plenty of gardens, museums, arbors, planetariums, art galleries, historic monuments, etc. for free that can be fun and entertaining. Petting sanctuaries and zoos can be fun too and sometimes they have half off days. Girls love animals. Any girl that needed a white tablecloth meal and an expensive movie wouldn't have been my type anyway. G 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 30, 2014 Share Posted June 30, 2014 Yeah, in my college years, literally no one in my crowd had money (though miraculously everyone seemed to have pot -- go figure). Of course that was the seventies. I digress. If everyone doesn't have money, then it's no big deal. What you can't do is date a woman who has money, and that's rare at their age unless their parents are spoiling them rotten. You can always rent a movie (or just watch one online), make popcorn. If you have a place for it, you can always grill hot dogs or something cheap like that. In college, our big dates were more like taking a walk to the duck pond. Everyone considered that a romantic gesture and it cost zero. Surely there's someplace like that. Go the park, drive to a lake, go roller blading or skateboarding if she does that, play tennis free at the municipal court if you can borrow rackets. It doesn't have to be dinner and a movie -- honestly, hardly anyone can afford both of those in one night anymore! Oh, here's a really great idea but it requires a one-time initial investment. Buy tickets to a comedy club once -- and then most of them, from that time on, will email you when they need bodies for nobody comics in the middle of the week and they're free tickets. You'd probably have to spring for a drink or two. Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted June 30, 2014 Share Posted June 30, 2014 Sounds kind of like the situation I've barely started to emerge from. Yeah, I can afford to cover dates, if I had them these days... but after I nail that new job this winter, I'll be able to afford weekend getaways too. But at any rate, don't let yourself fall into the mentality that you're some boss's peon... I can guarantee you that isn't attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
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