Meeting a celebrity...need advice, please........

[Laurynn]

Hi all!

 

After a week of pesky computer problems I am back online..woohoo! haha.

 

Anyway, here is my dilemma. I'd really appreciate your thoughts.

 

There is a Canadian Country music artist/singer that I've admired for some time. A couple weeks ago, I was at his website. I just wanted to write him an email and let him know that I really enjoyed his music/talent.... This isn't something I've ever done before, I'm really not a "groupie" LOL

 

I didn't know which addy to send it to, so I emailed the address for his publicist and she sent me back his email address. She *accidentally* sent me back his PERSONAL email address LOL

 

So I mailed him, understood he'd be visiting my city after some time in Nashville, and that it would be great to meet him though I realized that would probably be out of the question, due to his schedule. I really just meant that if he was playing somewhere private, I'd love to be there. Just so he knew I wasn't some 13 with a crush on him (haha), I attached my pic as well.

 

Well he wrote me back shortly after....laughed about how I'd been accidentally given his private email address, he thanked me for the compliments about his talent, and explained what his schedule was going to be like when here for a week. Said it would be a nice change for him, if he and I could maybe get together for dinner....but he wasn't sure of his itinerary yet. He's down here doing some writing, interviews, etc. Okay, so I was soooooooo excited that he bothered to write back!!!...and the dinner thing? woohoo!!!LOL

 

Well I got an email from him this morning.....he tells me he's flying in from Toronto (to here) and will get in tomorrow night.....then his week here will be very busy....between interviews and song writing. BUT....he said if I didn't mind, I could meet him at his hotel tomorrow night around 11pm, and we could have a couple "nightcaps".....He said, of course, as long as I didn't mind meeting that late.

 

Personally, I'm not all that comfortable meeting a celebrity, at his hotel (though it would obviously be in the lounge there, not his room...I'd thinK?), that late. Then I'd feel like a 'groupie'.....Then it would possibly make me look tacky, no?...that a grown woman would drive across the city to meet a stranger for drinks at his hotel at such a late hour? Maybe he's thinking that we'll have 'more than' just drinks????

 

I've seen many interviews with this guy (I'm 33, he's close to my age)...he seems very decent, down to earth.....but how do I know he's not going to have 'expectations'?.....maybe he thinks I'm some easy fan who'll be willing to slip up to his room with him? (NOT) I don't want to put myself in an awkward situation.....

 

I don't want to offend him, but I'm thinking of mailing him back and telling him that I just don't feel comfortable meeting him for drinks that late, at his hotel. Then of course he'll probably think I'm either playing games, or a wingnut.

 

How should I handle this? I didn't mind the 'going for dinner' thing....or maybe meeting him in a public place, etc.......

 

Thoughts?

 

Laurynn

[Tony T]

Musicians all over the world are used to female fans being all around them...and many of them making themselves available to them in all sorts of creative ways.

 

I really don't know what the odds actually are, but I would guess that there's an 87.687 percent chance that he has you pegged as another fan ready to throw yourself at him. He has absolutely no reason to meet with any particular fan at any particular time...unless it's for drinks prior to retiring to his room for the night.

 

I wouldn't be so sure his secretary gave you his personal Email address by accident either. Good celebrity secretaries are cautious about that. Requests are probably carefully screened and the best get his Email address.

 

No matter what, if you can get him to meet you in the lounge...I think you should go for it, particularly if you're a big fan. I don't think it would be tacky at all to have a drink or two with him. Meeting someone in relaxed circumstances may be a welcome break for him. Celebrities like people who act comfortable around them and most enjoy topics not related to their work (they get way too much of that already).

 

This could be a lot of fun. Just don't have too many drinks that you won't be in control. If he suggests the two of you go to his room, tell him you've got to be getting home...but you appreciate the invite.

 

There is a 12.5 percent chance he may surprise you and be quite a gentleman.

 

There is also a good chance you'll have a great conversation, a great meeting and that someone else will be waiting for him in his room...who knows?

 

Call the hotel and make sure the lounge stays open until midnight or later. Have a great time.

 

Who knows? If you turn him down, you may be the subject of his next hit recording. Of course, if you go up to his room, that could happen anyway.

 

Have fun!

[Laurynn]

I re-read his email, and he did say we could meet for drinks in "their bar" (meaning the lounge at this swanky hotel)....so that's good.

 

I don't know. I just don't want to appear like I'm some desperate dingbat who'd be willing to go out sooo late on a Sunday night, just to meet a virtual stranger. He might think I'm some easy chick LOL

 

It would help more if I knew more about his reputation. He already could think I'm some pushover who'd do *anything* to meet him. Yuck.

 

It would take me almost an hour to get to his hotel....and the weather isn't great here, very cold and icy roads. I don't drink and drive, and I don't think I want to be driving back home at midnight or later....that's just stupid.

 

I think I'll be honest, write him back and tell him that that simply doesn't work 'for me'....and that if he has any free time over the week, maybe we can get together then.

 

At least he'll see I'm not some desperate, easy chick LOL

 

Thanks,

 

Laurynn

[Tony T]

You have to do what you're comfortable with. Maybe you could ask him to invite you to one of his rehearsals or one of his recording sessions sometime. Maybe you could get a backstage pass to one of his concerts...always lots of people around then.

 

If he doesn't Email you back with alternatives to meeting you, then you'll pretty well know what his intentions were.

[Laurynn]

If he doesn't Email you back with alternatives to meeting you, then you'll pretty well know what his intentions were.

You're absolutely correct, good thinking! As for backstage passes to concerts, etc.....He spends most of his time down in Nashville, records down their, in fact. His concerts are mostly in Eastern Canada, or down in the states....some in Europe. Oh well, it's no big deal really. It would probably be very awkward anyway, for me. I'm pretty shy when first meeting someone anyway! LOL

 

Yes, if he doesn't mail back or call while he's here, then I'll know he was simply hoping for a quick pop in the sack, and nothing more. We shall see.

 

Thanks again,

 

Laurynn

[Fishbulb]

Hi all!

After a week of pesky computer problems I am back online..woohoo! haha. Anyway, here is my dilemma. I'd really appreciate your thoughts. There is a Canadian Country music artist/singer that I've admired for some time. A couple weeks ago, I was at his website. I just wanted to write him an email and let him know that I really enjoyed his music/talent.... This isn't something I've ever done before, I'm really not a "groupie" LOL I didn't know which addy to send it to, so I emailed the address for his publicist and she sent me back his email address. She *accidentally* sent me back his PERSONAL email address LOL So I mailed him, understood he'd be visiting my city after some time in Nashville, and that it would be great to meet him though I realized that would probably be out of the question, due to his schedule. I really just meant that if he was playing somewhere private, I'd love to be there. Just so he knew I wasn't some 13 with a crush on him (haha), I attached my pic as well.

 

Well he wrote me back shortly after....laughed about how I'd been accidentally given his private email address, he thanked me for the compliments about his talent, and explained what his schedule was going to be like when here for a week. Said it would be a nice change for him, if he and I could maybe get together for dinner....but he wasn't sure of his itinerary yet. He's down here doing some writing, interviews, etc. Okay, so I was soooooooo excited that he bothered to write back!!!...and the dinner thing? woohoo!!!LOL Well I got an email from him this morning.....he tells me he's flying in from Toronto (to here) and will get in tomorrow night.....then his week here will be very busy....between interviews and song writing. BUT....he said if I didn't mind, I could meet him at his hotel tomorrow night around 11pm, and we could have a couple "nightcaps".....He said, of course, as long as I didn't mind meeting that late. Personally, I'm not all that comfortable meeting a celebrity, at his hotel (though it would obviously be in the lounge there, not his room...I'd thinK?), that late. Then I'd feel like a 'groupie'.....Then it would possibly make me look tacky, no?...that a grown woman would drive across the city to meet a stranger for drinks at his hotel at such a late hour? Maybe he's thinking that we'll have 'more than' just drinks???? I've seen many interviews with this guy (I'm 33, he's close to my age)...he seems very decent, down to earth.....but how do I know he's not going to have 'expectations'?.....maybe he thinks I'm some easy fan who'll be willing to slip up to his room with him? (NOT) I don't want to put myself in an awkward situation..... I don't want to offend him, but I'm thinking of mailing him back and telling him that I just don't feel comfortable meeting him for drinks that late, at his hotel. Then of course he'll probably think I'm either playing games, or a wingnut. How should I handle this? I didn't mind the 'going for dinner' thing....or maybe meeting him in a public place, etc....... Thoughts? Laurynn

Hi Laurynn, Fishbulb here. I don't blame you for being nervous, that sounds like you called it to me. I wouldn't count on dinner if he wants to have drinks that late...don't set yourself up, Laurynn. This sounds risky. And if he thinks you're playing games, let him. You approached this from an honest place, and it took a one-in-a-million twist. There's even a good possibility that, if it was his private e-mail, nobody else would even know what was going on if he didn't want them to. That would be truly dangerous, and if anyone else DOES know, then that could spell a different kind of danger. You do what feels right, of course, but I myself see much wisdom in you, and I would hate to see that suddenly, mysteriously disappear. El Fisho Bulbo

[Sticki]

Laurynn,

 

I have had kind of a similar experience with a celebrity. I met him through a mutual friend actually..my friend was living with his best friend. I wont mention names, but he used to be a New Kid on The Block. HA HA! Dont laugh!

 

Anyways, we met and he seemed interested in me. I vowed not to sleep with him. We hung out for three days straight, and on the last night we had sex, i couldnt help myself! Anyways, afterwards, when it was time to say bye, I didnt wanna offer him my number, and he didnt ask...so i left it at that. But then to my suprise, two weeks later, my friend said that he had asked her for my number! YAY! I was so happy. He actually came looking for ME!

 

Well, the next time he came into town, I hung out with him agian, but when it came time to the sex, i refused. I told him that i didnt wanna be the girl he called up to have sex with everytime he came into town. He was cool about it....but honestly i thought that he would never call again. But he did. And we have hung out many times since. Totally platonic. He calls me on Xmas, Thanksgiving, and other holidays to say hello.

 

Anyways my point is that you should go, have fun. Do what you wanna do. Dont give up this opportunity. If you have willpower, go for it. Remember just cause they are famous, doesnt mean they only think of one thing! They need friends too!