Broncos38 Posted June 30, 2014 Share Posted June 30, 2014 She has epilepsy and he doesn't give her a chance to see beyond her disorder. My dad is very judgmental towards and she has done nothing wrong. She's stuck on a payee program in which her doctors never said anything. And my dad is saying she can't work and drive. Her only source of transportation is me cause she doesn't have any friends to take her. And my dad doesn't treat us like a couple. My dad is very intimidating towards and shoots down any idea she comes up with. I quit one of my jobs to make things easier to take to her appointments. I have to be there for me to understand what is going on. We have a session with my parents and the doctors. This is a nightmare and my dad just starts the arguing Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2014 Share Posted June 30, 2014 Your dad loves you. He is aware of all the burdens you already have & he worries when you try to take on more burdens in caring for her. It's not so much that he doesn't like her but that he loves you so much. He may be expressing it poorly but give him a chance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnneT1985 Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 I'm really sorry to hear this. I have to agree with Donnivain, but I would definitely place some boundaries and accept nothing less than respect toward your SO as the person you love. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 How old are you and your fiancee? What the heck are your parents doing, inserting themselves into her medical care? Have you no ability to set a boundary here? Or are you somehow relying on your parents for financial support? Does your fiancee have parents who are involved in her life and care? Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 I think your dad is probably doing the best he can, and that he has taken on a huge task in being responsible for not only one, but two people who are legally adults, yet are not medically fit to take care of themselves. And I think that both your parents and her parents have your best interests in mind, and that you ought to respect the decisions they make instead of regularly complaining about them on an internet forum. Honestly, you should be more thankful to them. Let them help you. No more complaining. Link to post Share on other sites
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