He left me for something i havent done

[Lolavandenbeerg]

Hello everyone, i know this is really long to read but i am desesperate . I asked my best friends about this but both hate my ex and just told me to not bother so i would be glad to hear something else . Anyways

I him this year and we dated two months which isnt a lot but i really loved him .I was new in the high school and i am a rather shy insecure girl. He helped me since beginning and we became really close , he told me a lot about himself that he had never said, he suffered from several suicides in his family and was really destroyed by it. He said he would never love someone and that he never loved a girl but then he asked me out. I wasn't nice to him so ,i never experienced any kind of love before apart from the sexual part . I used to date the kind of player guys you meet at parties. My boyfriend was 2 years younger and The dating was going well but i naturally get flirty and it happened with his best friend. Because of my looks also ( i am older so i wear more makeup for exemple) , the girls around me quickly labelled me as a slut and said that i was in love with my his best friend. I didnt love him but i spent a lot of time with that guy because he was not caring about the way i was and i could be myself with him, i eventually tryed to see if my boyfriend loved me by making him jaelous with that. Their was no reactionn from my boyfriend at all . Until He broke up with me , he looked really angry when he did while he was calm in the morning : he still kissed me and held my hand . However i heard a week after the breakup that a girl went up to him and said that while he was sick i was trying to get with his best friend . I have also a friend that used to joke and said that maybe i could have sex with his best friend and my boyrfriend actually took it seriously. He is really sensible so i know that when everyone was saying i was cheating it must have hurt him. I screwed up even after the breakup, i told him out of anger that i did love his best friend and my boyfriend just said he knew. Then i sent him a message saying that the way he did it havent been nice, he replyed that i had betrayed him anyways. I remenber sending him another message saying i did love him and i never cheated . He said he wished me to be happy with his bet friend even if us two would never date, he saif he knew that guy could make me happy and also that his feelings were gone but that he never loved someone before me. I was his first girlfriend and he did everyhing with me , he havent kissed a girl before. After the breakup he still ofered me to be friends, i rejecte his offer and then i accepted it. But i wasnt nice when talkig to him and we drifted apart. We really were good friends before the relation and i was the only girl who had feelings for him and from whom he ever accepted the feelings and returned them. He said he wanted to stay friends but then something changed in his mind and he basicly never talked to me again. I tryed a few time maybe 5 to talk to him but it was mainly on messages and he ended up deleting me from the social medias. In school sometimes he comes nearby when i am near his best friend because i am good friends with his best friend. His best friend is currently not his best friend anymore , he is only used by my ex as someone who can drive him or someone he talks to when he has no other friends around. I apologized yesterday, around 7 months later for all i did. My ex still didnt answer. I dont really know what to do, everyone told me to forget. I dont love him now but i would like things to be better and i wont really be calm until i get a reply saying either : i forgive you either i will never forgive you. Also why would he stop being nice to the guy who used to be his best friend? His best friend has done nothing, we never physically cheated and never loved each other. Also do you think he still could have residual feelings? He had a big change in his arttitude after the breakup. He didnt try anything with any girls from the high school but instead he flirts with girl he meets online and then he leaves them . Sometimes has i said he steps in when i talk to his best friend or he just stares at us talking . Sometimes he also looks at me from far away . I dont know what to do with that guy, i barely have friends because i am not really talkative and dont live in my origin country so i only see my mom adn dad and not any of my other relatives. This guy is really an important person to me.

[IAmRobot]

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[PegNosePete]

i eventually tryed to see if my boyfriend loved me by making him jaelous with that. Their was no reactionn from my boyfriend at all . Until He broke up with me

There you go.

Cause and effect.

It sounds like he did the sensible thing.

If you play games you're going to lose sometimes.

Time to move on!

 

I didn't read much beyond this point because the way you've written it made my head hurt.

[preraph]

Number one, your thinking jealousy means someone loves you is a total fallacy. Someone who's real jealous is just insecure and doesn't think they can keep you because you will surely see through them and move on to someone better. Jealousy isn't about you.

 

If everyone is saying you act like a slut, then you're probably acting like a slut. I will soften that to say that you are certainly acting like an immature drama queen, which often ends up being slutty looking.

 

Be glad you learned this young. You can't screw around or even give the appearance of it with your love's best friend without hurting them deeply. He was right to cut you out. You won't ever keep girlfriends either if you keep up that type thing.

[Zahara]

I apologized yesterday, around 7 months later for all i did. My ex still didnt answer.

 

He doesn't have to answer you. And it would be in his best interest not to because you really have caused too much drama and hurt. The best thing to do for you is to work on yourself and figure out why it is you act the way you act. The self-sabotaging is a deep rooted issue that you need to work out. Leave him alone. If your objective was to apologize, then you did your part. He doesn't have to acknowledge it if he doesn't want to.

 

I dont really know what to do, everyone told me to forget. I dont love him now but i would like things to be better and i wont really be calm until i get a reply saying either : i forgive you either i will never forgive you.

 

You're selfish. You want what you want regardless of how it affects another. Your post is telling of that. You'll disregard people's feelings to get what you want. The apology isn't about him. It's about you relieving your own guilt and being okay with yourself. Leave the man alone.

 

IAlso why would he stop being nice to the guy who used to be his best friend? His best friend has done nothing, we never physically cheated and never loved each other.

 

He stopped because he doesn't know what's the truth anymore. You caused all this drama and then you act innocent, not understanding what happened? You lied and made up a story. He believes what you told him.

 

This guy is really an important person to me.

 

You don't treat important people that way. Stop playing games with people's emotions because you're insecure. It'll backfire as you can very well see.

 

Leave him alone and let him be.

[No Limit]

Leave the guy alone. You can excuse yourself all you like, he couldn't care less.

[umirano]

Stop bothering your ex. By not replying he tells you everything you need to know. This is what you get for playing games. It happens. We learn and hopefully don't make the same mistake again.