lesdeuxsoleils Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Have come across this article many times but not before any of my relationships and I'm recovering from a breakup. I just wanted to post it here to see if it may be of help to the ladies here. It makes a little sense to me. Guys, you're welcome to judge the accuracy, please comment. 20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language | herinterest.com Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 I got as far as the guy in the speedo. Seriously, WTF?! Signs a guy likes you. 1) He asks you out, if he doesn't ask you out, the fallowing my happen 2) He'll want to hang out with you, just the two of you but may not mention the word date. 3) He talks to you a lot more than he talks to other people 4) He touches you 5) If he's shy, he'll probably just look at you a lot. That's pretty much it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
haribogumsnickers Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Yeah I tend to run through my hair and smile when I talk to a purty lady. Bad nervous habit of mine. I guess showing her your speedos is another sign too. Good thing I kept my hand-me-downs from my pops. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Have come across this article many times but not before any of my relationships and I'm recovering from a breakup. I just wanted to post it here to see if it may be of help to the ladies here. It makes a little sense to me. Guys, you're welcome to judge the accuracy, please comment. 20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language | herinterest.com Darn it, right off the bat. I don't have any hair to run my hands through. I guess I'll never be able to tell a girl if I like her... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 He will give no indication that he likes you. So if you're seeing no indication that he likes you, that means he really likes you! Glad I could help! Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 I'm very freshly single and still figuring things out so had a look at the article for future reference only (hopefully...) but to me, there's only one sign I can recognise, and that's when the guy tells me in words I can make sense of, e.g. I'm interested in getting to know you a little better. Anything else (even the speedo thing) is completely lost on me... Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 4 9 10 12 14 18 19 I do consciously. Some of the rest maybe as a biological response. But I don´t agree with 90 percent of the explanations why you do it and there are fairly ridiculous signs in the article. and 20 I do too ofcourse, because I love sticking my manboobs in someones face lol Link to post Share on other sites
Snakechammah Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Well, since we are in this topic, I have something to add too. Though mine has no speedos and bare-chested dudes to make the reading uncomfortable, lol. Non Verbal Ways To Tell If A Guy Actually Loves You Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 The list linked by Snakechammah is pretty consistent with my personal experience, being in relationships and married; however, and this is a big however, all that stuff needed to be accompanied by overt sexual interest, and fairly speedily, if not at the beginning, to 'click' the switch which indicated to the ladies that I was sincerely interested in them romantically. Dawdle on the sex part and the rest was irrelevant. I experimented with this while dating after my exW and I split up, going back to my more natural and deliberate style and found it to still be as impotent these days as it was in the distant past. That was the reality check I needed to, along with other factors, get out of this demographic for good and seek one where that list is both responded to and appreciated as being the good and interested/liking human it indicates. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 I dunno...when I was a teenaged girl I think I may have cared about these kinds of articles. Now I find them silly. As a grown woman in my twenties I just feel like I'm not gonna sit around decoding a man's body language or decoding anything and looking for "secret signs". I don't have the time. And even the article, and the little teeny bopper guys they put shows that it's definitely not targeted to grown women but girls. If I think a man is flirting or likes me, then my assumption is if he REALLY does, he'll eventually make it plain. That's how it's worked for me. If you gotta spend all your time reading Morse code and reading the writings on the wall...maybe he doesn't like you that much or maybe he's too immature. I think for teens who are still unsure of themselves and learning about dating this makes sense but for grown ass people....I just find it silly. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 I got as far as the guy in the speedo. Seriously, WTF?! Signs a guy likes you. 1) He asks you out, if he doesn't ask you out, the fallowing my happen 2) He'll want to hang out with you, just the two of you but may not mention the word date. 3) He talks to you a lot more than he talks to other people 4) He touches you 5) If he's shy, he'll probably just look at you a lot. That's pretty much it. Right... Number one is the ONLY "sign" I care about frankly. I'm not gonna sit around thinking "Aww he rubbed his hands through his hair. licked his lips...whatever else" it just seems completely ridiculous to me. Unless you talk to me often, flirt THEN ASK ME OUT....I don't care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Well, since we are in this topic, I have something to add too. Though mine has no speedos and bare-chested dudes to make the reading uncomfortable, lol. Non Verbal Ways To Tell If A Guy Actually Loves You Enjoy! All of them to some extent depending on the intensity of the relationship. Not really displayed in the dating phase. Except for the chicken, because woman, you WILL stay away from my meat. It is also a recipe for disaster, and will make damn sure that the behaviour exhibited on that list is reciprocated at all times from now on, at least I would like to think so lol. The list linked by Snakechammah is pretty consistent with my personal experience, being in relationships and married; however, and this is a big however, all that stuff needed to be accompanied by overt sexual interest, and fairly speedily, if not at the beginning, to 'click' the switch which indicated to the ladies that I was sincerely interested in them romantically. Dawdle on the sex part and the rest was irrelevant. I experimented with this while dating after my exW and I split up, going back to my more natural and deliberate style and found it to still be as impotent these days as it was in the distant past. That was the reality check I needed to, along with other factors, get out of this demographic for good and seek one where that list is both responded to and appreciated as being the good and interested/liking human it indicates. Not quite sure what you are on about. But if I read you correctly you need to sleep with them and have sexual chemistry before beginning to display some that behaviour. If so, yea I agree. My feelings for someone before it don´t go much further than general interest and generally ´liking´someone before that. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Yep, I had it backwards, for my demographic, in that sexual desire evolved out of 'liking' and the evolving emotional attachment, where correctly, again demographic-dependent, sexual interest came first and emotional attachment developed later. As you put it, 'sleep with them' comes before 'making love'. I've always been lousy at 'sleeping with them' first so that messed up some of the other signs of 'like' and, generally, when in doubt, one says 'no' to such confusing signals, or that has been my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 It might actually be a good idea to have a list of things that "Doesn't mean he actually likes you." Sleeping with you would be number 1. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Have come across this article many times but not before any of my relationships and I'm recovering from a breakup. I just wanted to post it here to see if it may be of help to the ladies here. It makes a little sense to me. Guys, you're welcome to judge the accuracy, please comment. 20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language | herinterest.com This is a misrepresenting article. It should be called "20 signs a guy is shirtless or using massive amount of hair products". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Is you a man? Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 I got as far as the guy in the speedo. Seriously, WTF?! Signs a guy likes you. 1) He asks you out, if he doesn't ask you out, the fallowing my happen 2) He'll want to hang out with you, just the two of you but may not mention the word date. 3) He talks to you a lot more than he talks to other people 4) He touches you 5) If he's shy, he'll probably just look at you a lot. That's pretty much it. Most of the signs in this article are based on non conscious behaviour though. When you are with a woman you are attracted to, you instinctively act different than with a woman you are not attracted to. We are, after all, animals, too... Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Most of the signs in this article are based on non conscious behaviour though. When you are with a woman you are attracted to, you instinctively act different than with a woman you are not attracted to. We are, after all, animals, too... While I do agree with you, I think it's pointless for women to try and look for these subtle signs. Most guys are super obvious when they like a girl, and the girl doesn't have to see if he's playing with his hair when he's talking to her. Also, unless the guy is really shy, or in a relationship or she is, he'd just ask out the girl he likes. Either way, what would the average girl do when she realizes that X guy has a secret crush on her? Ask him out? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 I think its unique body language and nuances of with every person and that depending on how they are feeling on that day towards life in general...and i don't think you can blanket body language if you don't know the person well enough because sometimes signs of interest with some can mean exactly the opposite. the only true way i have found to read body language is when the person you are reading is totally relaxed, comfortable and then the body language becomes truer with no mixed signals.........i say that as an empath......deb Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 While I do agree with you, I think it's pointless for women to try and look for these subtle signs. Most guys are super obvious when they like a girl, and the girl doesn't have to see if he's playing with his hair when he's talking to her. Also, unless the guy is really shy, or in a relationship or she is, he'd just ask out the girl he likes. Either way, what would the average girl do when she realizes that X guy has a secret crush on her? Ask him out? True but before asking the person out, you have to establish if the person looks like he/she is attracted no? isn't it where this list comes handy? I mean, if I like a guy who does everything opposite t this list, chances are I will not ask him out lol! Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 True but before asking the person out, you have to establish if the person looks like he/she is attracted no? isn't it where this list comes handy? I mean, if I like a guy who does everything opposite t this list, chances are I will not ask him out lol! Would you ask him out even if he did everything on the list? Most likely no. That's why I'm saying it's pointless for women to look at lists like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 It's not pointless at all. Sometimes people get attracted because they think the other person is attracted and then....spontaneous attraction because both parties thinks the other is attracted and it's nice to be liked (by someone you can imagine sex with)....so they feel attracted. I think todays dating scene is like a 7th grade junior high school dance. Most people are just wall-flowers. Guys to one side, girls on the other. Waiting for a sign. I say,,,hey, even if it wasn't really a sign...it could still work. If it motivates you to move forward. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 It's not pointless at all. Sometimes people get attracted because they think the other person is attracted and then....spontaneous attraction because both parties thinks the other is attracted and it's nice to be liked (by someone you can imagine sex with)....so they feel attracted. I think todays dating scene is like a 7th grade junior high school dance. Most people are just wall-flowers. Guys to one side, girls on the other. Waiting for a sign. I say,,,hey, even if it wasn't really a sign...it could still work. If it motivates you to move forward. I'm saying it's pointless because guys are usually very obvious when they like a girl. Girls don't have to look at the subtle signs when a guy is always talking to her and trying to make her laugh. Of course he likes her. If a guy walks right up to a girl or sits down next to her and smiles and starts talking, most likely he likes her. If he invites her to do something with him that's an even bigger clue. Though what I find ridiculous, is that many women still can't figure out that the guy is into her. I've lost track of how many girls I've invited to hang out with me, who had no idea that I was interested. Guys will only invite girls out if they like them! So instead of trying to see if I'm playing with my hair, they should just look at the flashing neon sign. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted July 1, 2014 Share Posted July 1, 2014 Would you ask him out even if he did everything on the list? Most likely no. That's why I'm saying it's pointless for women to look at lists like this. If he did everything on the list, yeah I'd ask him out because I would think it looks like he could be interested. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 (edited) While I do agree with you, I think it's pointless for women to try and look for these subtle signs. Most guys are super obvious when they like a girl, and the girl doesn't have to see if he's playing with his hair when he's talking to her. Also, unless the guy is really shy, or in a relationship or she is, he'd just ask out the girl he likes. Either way, what would the average girl do when she realizes that X guy has a secret crush on her? Ask him out? I agree most women don't have to get eagle eyed over studying a guy's body language. Guys will make it pretty clear they is into her, even the unassertive guy will be extra attentive to her. I think for the 'hot but play it cool bit of a ladies man' guys that women are a little intimated by, then they look for these things (going by my sisters & their friends convos + other women over the years). I also think it would come in handy for shy guys that a woman happens to fancy. She could pick up on some of this and give him stronger flirt signals back for him to feel more assured she's a sure thing, so he can escalate to asking her out. Reality is though in such situations women don't need to read this as most will take on the next 'asked out' offer that appeals, even if it might not be as good to her as shy guy. But shy is bad right, so no loss for her. As you say even if they are more confident with the signs most wont ask him out, but a few will, and some will feel more confident to flirt more hoping the guy will realize they are a sure thing. '20 signs a woman likes you' would change the course of lives more. Edited July 2, 2014 by ascendotum Link to post Share on other sites
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