LindseyNY Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Ok to all of you who replied before thank you. I have put myself, my friends my family and my ex through hell these past few months.. i have beeen on edge and un happy so i decided to meet him in Cincinnati half way between where we live.. for valentine's weekend- to see if there was something their tworth fighting for nad to see if we can get past what he has done. It was a good weekend overall.. i never though i could bring myself to sleep withhim after knowing what he did. But liek i said the weekend went better then expected. I gues si didn't give our love enough credit i have been thinin that i need to be strong and walk away.. when i am now thinking i need to be strong and get through this.. get past it.. be happy again.. i fi get hurt agin theni have no one to blame but myself. Trusting agin is hard for both of us.. but now we think we have both been on both ends of the table. (kinda) The only thing now is me letting go of this built up resentment towards him and the mental images and the still wandaring questions..why? and how could you? i need to put it behind me.... but liek they say u can forgive but never forget... SO my question is this.. does anyone know if it all eventulaly goes awya.. can we both say lets start clean.. empty out our minds.. refill our hearts... im still a little scared but.. i have to risk it 1 more time to know.. i may end up worse of f but who knows...i guess i need to find out myself.. Link to post Share on other sites
ostateclarett13 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 All that I can say is to ask your heart. If you truely love him, I believe that it is possible...I'm not saying that it is easy, but possible. Love can be strong, but you have to build it strong. I can't speak for him and say that he truely loves you, but maybe he is or was, afraid that the love you had was not real. As in, he wasn't sure if you really loved him, you said trusting again will be hard. I don't know your entire situation, but I will ask, did the two of you communicate well? I know that my ex and I did not communicate to the extent of where we should have, but that is neither here nor their. Putting youself out their, and opening youself up is hard, because you can fall..hard and it hurts, deeply. I know, becasue I am currently there. But, I know most people would be scared to open themselves up again to that same person because of the fear of it happening again. I will tell you this, if my ex called me at 3am and said that she still loved me, I would run over to her and hold her in my arms again and love her the same way I always have. The way I see it, if you really love someone, you have to put yourself in that "war zone" or you will never be truely happy. Sometimes by our actions, we almost decide if the other person loves you or not....showing and proving that you love them is important. I wish you the best, honestly I believe that you love him. My solution, sit down with him, and those questions you posted....ask him those same questions, but don't say them out of anger, but out of love. The best of luck to you. Follow your heart. Link to post Share on other sites
broken24 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I feel your pain and saddness, I never imagined I would be in this situation and I still find it hard to believe that I am. I have always thought everything happens for a reason and everything works out in the end. You will only know if it will work by giving it ago and if it doesn't work out then at least you tried. Its hard to forgive let alone forget but I am sure some people can get past it and live long happy lives together. Just try not to let it rip you apart, remember you are the most imortant person and you need to make sure you are ok. It can't get any worse so it has to get better right? I hope it works out for you I really do. Link to post Share on other sites
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