sgirl728 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 If you have cheated on your husband throughout the marriage and you thought he was monogamous and now you find out he has a g/f for over a year and a half, what would you do?? Would you try to work on the marriage or kick him to the curb? Link to post Share on other sites
WhoCaresWhoIAm Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I think it's laughable and hypocritical to punish someone for doing something that you yourself are doing, but if both partners aren't willing to work on the marriage, it should probably be given up. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 **edited** See your other post. Link to post Share on other sites
KissMyTiara Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 "Kick him the curb"??? Shouldn't he have kicked YOU to the curb first, seeing as you have been having multiple affairs during the course of your marriage? If neither one of you is being faithful, there is no "marriage." You have nothing but a piece of paper. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I've got to say, that "kick him to the curb" comment really got me to laughing!! You've cheated on him the entire course of the marriage, and now YOU want to kick HIM to the curb for doing the same thing?!?! Priceless! What is your marriage lacking that caused you to cheat this whole time? Is it possible that your husband can meet whatever need is lacking? Has he had the chance to and not done it, or was he prevented the opportunity to do so by your affair from the beginning? The odds are, he's felt that there has been "something missing" for a long time in your marriage. It's possible that he doesn't even know what it is, but it's there. And that missing thing has been the part of you that you've been giving to your OM all this time. It's likely that he's felt a "hole" in your relationship, and he's started his own affair in an effort to fill that hole. It's back to the whole emotional needs thing...what you've invested in your OM, you've not invested in your marriage. Now your husband is doing the same thing. What you two do from here is something you BOTH should work out together. Obviously, there are some fundamental problems in your marriage, or neither of you would be wandering. Personally, I would suggest that if YOU have the desire to continue the marriage, that you come clean about your affair(s?), and let him know that you know about his. Then the BOTH of you need to decide if your marriage is worth saving. If so, head to a counselor that can help you both sort out why this happened and start working on fixing your marriage. If you both can't agree, or both feel that it's time to end the marriage, then get a divorce and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sgirl728 Posted February 18, 2005 Author Share Posted February 18, 2005 Thanks for the replys, but this actually isn't me, I'm not even married. I'm just curious about what others would do if this were their situation... Link to post Share on other sites
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