pygora1994 Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 I finally got back in contact with my friend. He hasn't told me to leave him alone yet, but things aren't going very smoothly. Its been kind of awkward. He doesn't respond often to my messages. I don't know if he's busy or not. I am worried that I might be messaging him too often. I really don't want to screw this up. I am anxious for things to go back to normal, but I don't want to appear like I am forcing things or rushing through the process. We haven't really had a real conversation yet and contact has been through e-mail. We had a big fight previously and haven't spoken in three months. He said he need time to think about things last month and this month contact has been very tenuous. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
WhatYouWantToHear Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 Get new friends? Am I missing something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pygora1994 Posted July 3, 2014 Author Share Posted July 3, 2014 prior to this we had spoken in a few months. We had been close previously, but I picked a fight over something stupid, and he got angry with me. He shut me out of his life. He means a lot to me, but I think he is reluctant to open back up to avoid getting hurt again. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2014 Share Posted July 4, 2014 you have to let him come to you if a guy isn't the type to open up often he isnt the type to be chased......guys who are slow to express, themselves run and get antsy with constant contact they actually go into avoidance mode....i get bored with guys who do this, prefer guts and honesty......and a little bit of motivation on a guys behalf,if i dont see any effort or thoughtfulness, it doesn't bode well for any type of relationship even friendship..guys who avoid alwasy will in times of stress or trial..i hate stressors too i get nervous and unsure but i step up no matter how awkward my heart feels i try .......guys who dont call back or acknowledge your efforts with a little of their own...... and let you do all the leg work are bone lazy and self driven, they are selifsh in nature....... let him contact you dont stress over it and if he doesnt, he honestly wasn't worth wasting time on..and if he is depressed or sick or having mental issues its not friendship or relationships he needs to get better..he needs to be motivated himself to make changes .....to have those relationships or friendships be productive only then will he enhance soemone else life namlely yours and his own life will be enhanced...he has to be in it though...not just sitting back checkin whose texting and going nah stuff it dont feel like answering.......if he does contact you dont play games answer him with respect and compassion...if he doesnt contact you move on.........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pygora1994 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 okay so I did talk to him and his best friend. Apparently they were dating for a month or so after our fight. He's gay and she's a girl. I have no idea what either one of them were thinking. Her heart is kind of broken at the moment. and He just wants to be friends with her again, so he is feeling down about all of this. She doesn't want to talk to him until she works out her feelings. He says he just needs some time to think and get his head on straight. apparently I picked the wrong week to start trying to repair things because of everything that is going on in his life. He just needs some time to work out all his feelings, so I kind of get it. Link to post Share on other sites
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