tiki Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I've wondered it. The test that moi linked me to said it's a possibility that I have it. Maybe I'm being a hypochondriac? But I never can focus. Well, except on LS. I can't work for more than ten minutes at a time, unless it's a dyer emergency that I get something done. I'm bored and I keep looking for other stuff to do. I can't do two things at once. I can't count my heartrate (at Curves where I work out) if the music is on (it's loud). K says he notices it a lot. And I never really hear what he's saying, I just am off in a zone thinking "Man, when's he gonna shut up?!"...sorry, I know it's rude, but he does talk a lot. Then my mom talks a lot too. And sometimes she'll tell me something and I'll be doing something else and answer her totally inappropriately...like I'm actually responding to an email I'm reading. It's embarrassing. But the worst, is when I'm listening to either my mom on the phone or K, and they're talking and I blurt out something stupid that has absolutely nothing to do with what they're saying. It comes out of left field. And that's embarrassing. My memories been failing too....BIG TIME. My husband is starting to worry. I have no recollections of a lot of our conversations/promises made. Sometimes I swear2ga I think he makes sh*t up just cause he knows I won't remember. What do you guys think? Ya'll know how much I'm on here. I can't stay focused. Do I need to seriously buckle down and grow the hell up? Or does this sound like something's really wrong? Should I see a doctor? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Originally posted by tiki My memories been failing too....BIG TIME. My husband is starting to worry. I have no recollections of a lot of our conversations/promises made. Sometimes I swear2ga I think he makes sh*t up just cause he knows I won't remember. What do you guys think? Ya'll know how much I'm on here. I can't stay focused. Do I need to seriously buckle down and grow the hell up? Or does this sound like something's really wrong? Should I see a doctor? Maybe it's early dementia. Just kidding. If you're really worried, go see a psych. There is a specific work-up they can do on you to diagnose you. It's better to know, than to keep guessing and wondering. Love, coconut Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Not sure anyone but a dcotor can diagnose you, but keep this in mind though, you are VERY focused on LS. Maybe you lose interest in things that are boring, tedious, or routine, and LS adds some fun to your day. I know I can't concentrate on work either unless I have a deadline to meet. I don't know how old you are, but I'm in my late 30s and my memory has gotten real bad. I had plans to meet a friend the other day and completely forgot to go, while she waited for me. D'oh! Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Maybe your job is just boring. Thats my case. I have no problem focusing on something that interests me. Or maybe its pent up grief from losing your frogger! Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 18, 2005 Author Share Posted February 18, 2005 I'm in my late twenties. I don't forgot things done, just stuff said. To be honest, I think my husband talks too much. I can't remember all the stuff he says. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 18, 2005 Author Share Posted February 18, 2005 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Maybe your job is just boring. Thats my case. I have no problem focusing on something that interests me. True, true. Of course I was the one that emailed you about the wrong topic that someone else had brought up to me. I'm just an idgit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 18, 2005 Author Share Posted February 18, 2005 Something that brought it to my attention (too) was the fact that I've had several of my professors tell me that my writings are not 'flowing', like they're all over the place. I easily confuse my reader. Can you guys read my stuff easily, like my long posts? Or am I all over the place?...lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Go see a doc, I take Straters for ADHD and it is awasome it makes me extreamly focused and productive. Since I am pregnant I can't take it anymore and my work and house has gone to ****. If you are in school I suggest you do see somebody, I failed and failed when I went back to school and I got on Stratera ( non stimulant) and passed with flying colors. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Can you guys read my stuff easily, like my long posts? Or am I all over the place?...lol. I cant understand a word our saying.... j/k tiki......can you post this link to this test you took?....I;d like to take it Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 18, 2005 Author Share Posted February 18, 2005 http://www.amenclinic.com/ac/addtests/adult.asp ^ Thanks to moi for the original posting of this linkage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 18, 2005 Author Share Posted February 18, 2005 Please come back and tell me everyone else's says they may have it too. I'll feel worlds better. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Sorry tik- "Your results indicate that it is unlikely that you have adult ADD." Link to post Share on other sites
kitty13 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I think you are just bored and not interesed in what the people around you are doing or saying. You probably need to do some soul searching and figure out what makes you happy and what makes you unhappy. Maybe even write a list, but be extremely honest with yourself. It doesn't sound like you like your job either. Dr. Phil.com has a good area called self matters. It tells you how to get intouch with the real you, maybe that would help or give you other avenues to explore. Good luck with finding a solution that makes you & those around you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 "Your results indicate you may have adult ADD" That's what I got. I 'member one guy I dated who had ADD (out of many) said he thought I had it, too. And I was like, huh? What were you talking about? Did you says something? I was kidding about the dementia, I know you're not that old. I'm 25 and I always walk around saying I have early onset dementia. But then again I have brain damage from seizures and am on anti-convulsants that make me feel baked alllllll the time, so that might 'splain it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Hmm could be selective hearing or you just get easily distracted. Depends on how your mind works. Talk to your doctor about it and write down ALL your questions, symptoms and anything that you can remember!!! (joke!! ) I know I forget all kinds of things to ask at the Dr's office when I go. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted February 19, 2005 Share Posted February 19, 2005 tiki~ maybe you just need some memory excercise. or some concentration excercise, heck even just exercise-exercise will help with clearing your mind and sharpening yor senses. yoga maybe? massage? i too am bad at keeping a train of thought....i drift off on some other story. Just try and keep tabs on what you are doing, thinking of only that task. it is easy to think of better things while working or reading...and then you do not really even know what you did. same with misplacing things, try slowing up a bit, doing one or two things at at ime, not 12! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 19, 2005 Share Posted February 19, 2005 If you can afford it and want to know, try getting tested. Remember, that it's a 'disorder' only if it significantly impacts your life but if you have people worried about you then it may be impacting more than you realize. People with AD/HD can have trouble holding down jobs and in relationships. The other partners feel neglected because their partners never listen to them and forget what they say. Stuff like that can hurt feelings. If you had trouble in school and are having trouble at work, you may help yourself out a lot by getting tested. You might also want to read through Amen's site and maybe a book or two of his. He has a radio show on Saturday mornings that you can listen to on the internet via a link from his site and you can email him questions. BTW, the current estimates are that 4% of all people have AD/HD, which is quite a few. Means of every hundred folks you see, four will have it and you can see a hundred folks walking down the street for a couple minutes. Your office probably has a hundred people in it. So it's not exactly uncommon! Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 19, 2005 Author Share Posted February 19, 2005 Thanks everyone. Originally posted by moimeme People with AD/HD can have trouble holding down jobs and in relationships. The other partners feel neglected because their partners never listen to them and forget what they say. Stuff like that can hurt feelings. Wow, my husband says this about me all the time. That I never really listen to him. And I always forget what he says. But you guys, he really does talk a lot. I tell him that he's the woman in the relationship. Originally posted by moimeme Your office probably has a hundred people in it. So it's not exactly uncommon! Five including me...lol. But I may bring it up to my doctor. My family doctor? Or should I really set up an appt to see a psych doctor? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 19, 2005 Share Posted February 19, 2005 Talk to your family doc but ask if s/he knows about ADD.org, CHADD or Dr. Amen. Ask some questions to find out how much s/he knows about AD/HD. The unfortunate fact is that adult AD/HD has only been paid attention since the late 90s so lots of physicians who graduated before then and who haven't attended upgrading don't know a lot about treating adults with AD/HD. If it turns out s/he doesn't know much, then check out a local university's psych department and ask if they know any specialists in town who deal with adult AD/HD. Here are two professional articles on diagnosing AD/HD that you can cart along if you have a doc that says s/he dosen't know much about adult AD/HD but would like to learn: Adult ADHD: Evaluation and Treatment in Family Medicine http://www.aafp.org/afp/20001101/2077.html Assessment and management of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder in adults Margaret Weiss and Candice Murray http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/content/full/168/6/715 The second site seems to be down at the moment but should be available again soon. Good luck with this. Oh, and btw, And I always forget what he says. But you guys, he really does talk a lot. I tell him that he's the woman in the relationship. Um. If your husband is complaining, that's important. I think this tale of him 'talking too much' is a coverup because you can't sustain attention. People with AD/HD have trouble understanding why their actions hurt others' feelings and tend to slough it off just like you just did. It is important, Tiki. Good on you for checking this out. There could be other reasons for your troubles, but a good doc will do the right sort of diagnosis to tease out exactly what's up with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
fiona donohue Posted March 3, 2005 Share Posted March 3, 2005 i have problems comunicating with my partner we both want different things from eachother but we dont get it because we are too woried about what we want not what the other one wants we argue all the time and now its got so bad its affecting our sex life we are not close anymore like we used to be we have been together a year and a half we have a 5 month old baby and he takes up all of my time so we have no quality time together we are also in debt so my partner is working more hours to get this paid off he has an ex girlfriend and wife who are constantly ringing him for no reason and we dont get on this causes more arguments please help dont know what to do anymore Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 3, 2005 Share Posted March 3, 2005 You could start by starting your own thread. Your problem will get buried in this thread, which is about somebody else's problem. Hit 'new topic' instead of 'reply'. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 3, 2005 Share Posted March 3, 2005 Whatever you have tiki let me know because my roommate is going through the same thing. And its funny because she has complete control over everything but she cannot remember conversations. Her mind is always going a mile a minute and she doesn't stop. She can't read a book. She reads a paragraph and then has to re-read it a million time before she can get it because she forgets everything she just read. Her bf is constantly screaming and fighting with her that she doesn't pay attention to him when he talks to her. He tells her things and she forgets everything. He'll tell her I have to leave early because I have to study for a test and then when hes leaving early she gets mad and is like where are you going..to study for my test lol she forgets. I gave her the add link and she can't even finish taking the damn test because shes already distracted. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Rosewilt Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 Alot of my girlfriends(iincluding me) have forgotten things and have not been focused after we gave birth. Have you tried ginkobaloba? It suppose to be affective. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted March 10, 2005 Author Share Posted March 10, 2005 Yep, he's 4. And a step-daughter 6. Never tried that, is it for help with your memory? Link to post Share on other sites
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