I know they're not true friends

[saz123]

Hi

 

To cut my story short - I left college last July after 1 year as I wasn't doing very well. All my friends stayed for the 2nd year. I said to them "we should all keep in touch even though I won't be coming here anymore" and they agreed. However a couple weeks after that they all met up for lunch, and didn't invite me. I knew nothing about it, until someone put on twitter that they were all together having lunch (oh the joys of social media!).

 

It was my bestfriend at the time that organised that meet to, but didn't invite me. Obviously wasn't much of a pal! She then had to deal with the problem of me finding out about it too. All of my other 'friends' apparently said "oh my gosh I can't believe she knows what do we do" etc. It was petty and obviously I was upset.

 

But as time went on it happened more and more and more until it came to a point where I stopped trying all together and now a year later I dont hear anything from them. There's nothing wrong with me; I'm a friendly person and not nasty at all.

 

The help I need is that I see photos and posts about their meets still over social media, but it still does upset me a little as it's not nice to feel like you have nobody. I do have people though don't worry! Work friends and a very supportive boyfriend and family.

 

Do I or don't I delete them from my social media sites? I don't want to as it would seem petty and I haven't done anything wrong in the first place.

 

Positive help would be much appreciated need to know more about it then just ask too. Thank you x

[stillbyMyself]

If it is causing you misery to see posts and pictures from people that no longer communicate with you, I don't see any problems deleting them from your FB. Life is too short to worry about people who do not worry about you. They have moved on, so should you. Go get some new friends! Spend your time caring about friends who care about you Good luck!

[d0nnivain]

How far away is college / their lunch date from you? I went to college far from home. There's no way I would have been able to meet people for lunch.

 

Have you invited them to do something with you?

 

Have you made an effort to make friends with people who are closer to where you are now?

[preraph]

I think it's possible you overreacted about them meeting for lunch. I don't know about your circle, but in mine at college age, making plans only happened at the last minute and wasn't organized at all so I think it's possible no plans happened far enough in advance and that it wasn't a big deal and they all just had lunch together.

 

But now, it's too late to do anything about it. You've drifted apart. No effort was made on their part to keep up with you, so that's it. It's over.

 

If I were you, I'd delete them unless there's one or more who has been communicating with you in some way, in which case I'd keep her for what it is, facebook communication. Otherwise, just let it go.