Ohio1 Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 D-day was Friday. The week before I told him it was time for me to move on because I'm divorced and he can't give me what I need(a person I can spend time with and see and talk to whenever) and I can't give him what he needs (another x amount of time of my life) but he decided to end his marriage. She was cheating also and knew he knew but he didn't do anything about it or confront her really. He just ignored it and she kept seeing the guy. Then this last week he did confront her and said he doesn't love her and left for a couple nights and she found out about us. Now she wants to work it out. He says he's done. They are going in circles arguing and blaming, saying the same stuff over and Over and now he can't be out of her sight. She doesn't want to be alone (the guy she was cheating with would never divorce) and she keeps bringing up that if their marriage ends she's afraid he will end up with me right away and have to see him with me (we were friends:o). She never thought he'd ever do anything or say anything to her and definitely not want a divorce. I don't know what I'm looking for in the way of advice here. I think I just need the catharsis of writing it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Tressugar Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 Too much drama. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 So he left her? or are they 'working' on things? You said he left for a couple nights..where did he go? Is he still there? Believe his actions....him staying even though he claims to not love her shows he is still invested with her and the marriage. No one can be with another person 24/7 --- impossible. No one can force another person in the marriage to reconcile. He is where he is by his choice. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Wild horses couldn't stop him; believe his actions. Link to post Share on other sites
EnderA Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 MM are really good at spinning tales about the state of their marriage to keep the OW hanging on. Beware. All is not what he says it is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 Sounds like a desperate stunt to keep you. If he really meant it he wouldnt have ever gone back. Id step away, big time. He needs to sort himself out and figure out what he wants for HIM. Otherwise its for you. He needs to make a solid choice. Get away and let them sort out their drama. Link to post Share on other sites
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