WakingUp Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 The old hot/cold game. He has broken it off with all good intentions, but once the dust settles he will be back. Its up to you whether you continue. Nothing ever changes. But your heart gets shattered into smaller pieces all along. Until you get it and toughen up. If he wanted to be with you, well he would be. But we are all exactly where we choose to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GypsyHeart83 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 Is it ever really about the children, and not wanting to disturb their lives/home?? Or is that just a common excuse that MM/MW give so they can keep you on the line?? Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 Is it ever really about the children, and not wanting to disturb their lives/home?? Or is that just a common excuse that MM/MW give so they can keep you on the line?? Go read in the OM/OW forum. You can get a better idea of what to expect (or rather, what not to expect). Men who intend to divorce - get it done. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Lovemesomehim Posted July 9, 2014 Share Posted July 9, 2014 It was an affair. Maybe for him not that serious and he ended it as quickly as it began. When you take the chance on having an affair, you sometime run the risk of it ending without explanation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GypsyHeart83 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Share Posted July 9, 2014 He messaged 2 days later saying he "missed me". I'm trying to stick to non contact.. as hard as it is. Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted July 10, 2014 Share Posted July 10, 2014 I do know he does genuinely love me.. and doesn't want to hurt me. And the fact he can't give me what I deserve right now.. and perhaps can't see when he could, is exactly why he felt the need to "let me go". My head understands this is for the best.. for both of us. But my heart is still feeling the blow, hoping we're not "throwing in the towel" too soon. And a part of me does hope he's happy.. or that our paths may cross again in the future when he is available, both emotionally and physically. I'm so sorry for your pain Gypsy, you sound like a very good person with so much compassion. I wouldn't want to cross paths with MM in the future in my case. I think now is your opportunity to take a step back and reassess your situation. He wants NC and although it wasn't a mutual decision, now is your chance to really walk away and strengthen your resolve. I wish you all the best and heaps of hugs. Angel Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted July 10, 2014 Share Posted July 10, 2014 I'm sorry but I think EVERY OW thinks THEY are special and that THEY'RE relationship with their MM is different from every other affair out there when in fact there is nothing unique about it at all. If you're going to engage in an extra-marital affair at least learn the rules and understand that more often that not you're just a lovely distraction and nothing more. Ow, that hurts. But it is so true and I think OWs need a healthy dose of this once in a while. I always keep this in mind and think that I am ready for the eventuality of this scenario. I know though, that when it happens, I'll be a mess too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pixiecut Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 hi wife found out. id say she made him write that message. i wouldnt be surprised if very shortly you hear the panicked don't leave me begging from him. even if he does make an effort to fix his marriage it won't be for real if you two stay in contact. Link to post Share on other sites
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