what to think

[confused]

Ive met this guy 4 months ago, weve been talking to each other every day. I wouldnt say that we are in a relationship cause we hardly see each other once a month if that I just think its a good friendship. When we do see each other he holds my hand and we kiss and stuff. But my question is he doenst want to see me only when hes drunk and its 3 in the morning, and I always say to him, if you wanted to see me then why dont you call me earlier. We do live 1/2 hour away from each other.

[Tony T]

YOU WRITE: "But my question is he doenst want to see me only when hes drunk and its 3 in the morning, and I always say to him, if you wanted to see me then why dont you call me earlier."

 

Well, I'm confused to. Now, if he doesn't want to see you only when he's drunk and its 3 a.m. as you have written...then he only wants to see you when he's sober.

 

Now, if you meant to write, he only wants to see you when he's drunk, I may be able to tackle that one. I'll make that assumption for now and you can correct me later if I'm wrong and we'll try again.

 

You need to call him when he's sober, during the day, and let him know you don't want to hear from when he's drunk. If he can't call you respectfully at a decent hour and in a proper frame of mind, you don't need this guy in your life.

 

Calling someone in the middle of the night in a drunken state is truly disruptive. You don't need this at all. Unless it is for an emergency, a 3a.m. call lacks repsect, manners and consideration.

 

If you are such good friends, there should be no problem letting him know you don't want to receive these kinds of calls anymore. Then, if he wants to ask you out, he'll have no other choice but to do it sober.

 

If he only wants to see you when he's drunk, there's a serious problem there and why should you even want to deal with it. You have many millions of drunks to pick from who will call you during the day.

 

You have got to have a very kind but assertive talk with this guy. If he has a serious drinking problem, you might just want to keep this the nice friendship that it is already. Just lay it on the line...no more late night calls!!!

[lb]

I understand what your saying, he only calls that late to let me know that he got home ok, he always calls me when he gets home.

 

You were right, it seems that he only wants to see me when hes been drinking. I dont think he has a drinking problem, he only drinks on the weekends, believe me if I thought he had a drinking problem, I wouldnt be speaking to him. My father was an alcholic and still is, and I wont put up with it.

YOU WRITE: "But my question is he doenst want to see me only when hes drunk and its 3 in the morning, and I always say to him, if you wanted to see me then why dont you call me earlier."

 

Well, I'm confused to. Now, if he doesn't want to see you only when he's drunk and its 3 a.m. as you have written...then he only wants to see you when he's sober. Now, if you meant to write, he only wants to see you when he's drunk, I may be able to tackle that one. I'll make that assumption for now and you can correct me later if I'm wrong and we'll try again. You need to call him when he's sober, during the day, and let him know you don't want to hear from when he's drunk. If he can't call you respectfully at a decent hour and in a proper frame of mind, you don't need this guy in your life. Calling someone in the middle of the night in a drunken state is truly disruptive. You don't need this at all. Unless it is for an emergency, a 3a.m. call lacks repsect, manners and consideration.

 

If you are such good friends, there should be no problem letting him know you don't want to receive these kinds of calls anymore. Then, if he wants to ask you out, he'll have no other choice but to do it sober. If he only wants to see you when he's drunk, there's a serious problem there and why should you even want to deal with it. You have many millions of drunks to pick from who will call you during the day. You have got to have a very kind but assertive talk with this guy. If he has a serious drinking problem, you might just want to keep this the nice friendship that it is already. Just lay it on the line...no more late night calls!!!