sickoflove11 Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 My ex and I have been hanging out since we broke up about a year ago. We both moved home from school for good and live very close. I am not in love with him anymore and just enjoy his company. We hang out maybe once a week. I've always heard that FWB is no good because someone always ends up developing feelings and the other may not so of course that just leads to problems. I figure that would definitely happen if the two have previously been in a relationship... It's been about a month since we have been FWB and I'm not sure what to expect, if anything. I like the way things are and am not looking to be in a relationship. I don't think he is either because he spends a lot of time with his friends and way less with me, but when we are together he acts like when we were dating so I'm kinda of confused.. I don't want to just ask him so maybe there are some signs I can look for?! If you have any advice at all I'd really appreciate it! Share from past experiences or whatever, I would love to read! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
symphonyofwolves Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 (edited) Sickoflove, Hi, I can kind of relate to your story. I think from his actions you described it is clear that he does NOT want anything serious with you. He reverts back to boyfriend mode when he is with you to keep you hooked into maintaining your feelings for him. If it's throwing you off and you don't like it, you need to tell him, or just stop seeing him altogether. It sounds to me like he is happy with the way things are. He may be a little possessive or manipulative. Maybe he's not over you completely and doesn't want to lose you, or see you with anyone else. Or maybe he's just simply used to being that way around you and doesn't know how to act any different. I know you said you didn't want to ask him, but I think the best thing would be to ask him flat out why he treats you the way he does. Tell him you just want to make sure you aren't getting any mixed signals in case maybe he does envision a more serious future with you. How often does he text you or communicate with you via social media? If it's everyday, he might still be pretty attached to you. Going from a relationship to strictly fwb can be confusing. Best of luck! Edited July 13, 2014 by symphonyofwolves 2 Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron005 Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 I don't want to just ask him so maybe there are some signs I can look for?! Just ask him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sickoflove11 Posted August 6, 2014 Author Share Posted August 6, 2014 Thank you both. You guys are right I really should just ask him and I feel more comfortable asking him now because it's starting to get weird. I'm not even interested in being fwb anymore at all. But we do talk just about everyday, he makes its a point to hang out every now and then also even if its just going to see a movie and no physical contact (which I prefer). Tonight he tried to kiss me and I just had no idea where it came from... it was a hug and goodbye kiss so now I feel I really need to bring it up. Link to post Share on other sites
gamman Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 Hi. Kinda disagree with wolves. He still has feelings for you and wants to try again. It doesn't seem like he is one to blurt that out. So... whatever you want to do, but it seems like he is interested in trying again. If you don't want that, tell him, intsead you will end up hurting him even more. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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