Monodare1 Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 Hi guys. The soon to be ex wife and I separated in June last year. In march this year I met a woman I really like and we've been dating since. The trouble is she works in the nursing profession and regularly does night shift during the week and weekends, whereas I work Monday to Friday 9 - 5 and get my 3 and a half year old son at weekends. This past couple of months myself and my new lady have not been able to see each other for 3 or so weeks at a time due to her shifts and my feeling that it's still too soon for me to introduce my little son to her. What I'm wondering is, do we have a future if we can hardly see each other, should we call it quits and meet people more in tune with our day to day lives? Link to post Share on other sites
daisydook Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I would personally find someone new. My BF works 40 hours a week and does school at the moment as well. It is an awkward balance trying to figure that out but we manage at least once a week with one another. With children involved and different work schedules, we would never see one another. It would most likely end our relationship. I am the kind of person who needs to actually see my partner. I dont do long distance and I dont do the lets see each other once a month thing either. This would not work for me. This means you see her 17 times a year. You tell me if its worth it? Is there really no more room for compromise? Is she worth continuing to date, until you do feel comfortable introducing your son to her? At that point, would you be able to see more of her? Or should you just date someone you are more compatible with, grow a relationship with them and then worry about the exact same thing again as you are now?? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 I would ask her if her schedule will stay this way or not. You're right it's too soon to get the kids involved. I mean, for a long time, I had 2 jobs and I certainly had no time for anything but working. This economy, there's plenty of people sacrificing social to pay the bills. Link to post Share on other sites
Thegreatestthing Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 If your in love with each other you can find a way around it you can skype her on the weekends ,she can change to day shifts ,lots can be done,if love isn't worth it then just break up Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 That's way too long, unless you guys are really making an effort to talk and keep in touch I'd definitely suggest moving on, chances are its not worth the effort in the end and it'll just kind of end in some weird way...if she has not been concerned or complaining then she already might be prepared to move on. It's better that you end it before it gets worse. Link to post Share on other sites
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