Hope4thefuture Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 How can I tell if I am moving forward or if I am in denial? I feel as though I am making progress. I have exercised every day for the past 5 weeks and I feel great. I am so proud of myself for sticking to my goal. I go out with friends. I write 5 things I am grateful for every day. I am so much better than before. But am I just keeping myself busy to avoid feeling these horrible feelings? Or am I doing what is right? I know that I need to do things so I don't think about him. But if I completely avoid my feelings altogether how will I get better? How will I make the necessary changes so that if I am lucky enough to find love again things will be different? Link to post Share on other sites
Salesbury Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 Sounds like you're going in the right direction. Have you thought about counseling?? My work has a program that offers 5 free sessions. That would help you deal with feelings if you're worried about it. You're feeling good what else do you need? I think it's awesome. I would start out casually dating when you're ready, don't jump into anything serious. I was in a 7 year relationship and enjoyed dating, free dinners, movies etc lol. I stayed single for two years and worked on myself inside and out and when my husband came along I was ready. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 when i go in to denial its actually bad, i dont try and stifle feelings i have they need release not to be stomped down when i feel them.....when you feel for someone .....even when they dont reciprocate those emotions....doesnt make it wrong if you have them...you have to find an outlet for them....to me that's the only way to move on is to let them go.........let them be expressed.....not keep them and push them down into your core.....they actually grow stronger and last longer.......they get nurtured by what if and if only......those two adages feed them constantly....... so you accept them ...you accept also they arent going to be reciprocated and you find an outlet so you can move on by tiring them out...dance is excellent.......something you enjoy .....writing poetry whatever you love throw all your emotive concepts into those things you desire to have in your life...family.....friends....loved ones other than the one you desire above others....dont try and kill emotions by suffocation...doesnt work.....and eventually you have to deal with them anyway......best wishes...deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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