Simply Poetic Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 Every morning I see her like an angel through the fog. I never noticed her before,but somehow we ended up being friends. Though we haven't officially admitted it yet, I feel as though its more. We're not friend with benefits or anything like that. Still I can't explain it. I get nervous about what I'm going to say sometimes. I've never really had a problem with words but they seem to disapear whenever she's near. I've heard the things my friends have said about her, mostly bad things. But I don't care what they say because I know they really don't know her. Somedays we'll pass each other and not say a word. On others its hello, a wave, and goodbye. Sometimes we'll walk together just because we seem to be going in the same direction. I know she has a boyfriend but I know we want to be together but we're both afraid to. I'm afraid I'll hurt her somehow. So we stay friends. But then I'm not sure what I want! Do I just want to be friends or do I want to be with her? Its like we're in the middle. Its okay to be in between but we can't stay there forever. Nothings ever felt more confusing than this. If your thoughts are always on someone and everything reminds you of them. You can't wait 'till you meet again, and your hoping you'll see them wherever you seem to go. Then shouldn't want to be with them? Then why won't I even try? Sometimes I think like to watch her slip away. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 Then shouldn't want to be with them? Then why won't I even try? Because you're afraid that she may not feel the same way, get freaked out because you care more, and flee. Falling for a friend is very scary business. You don't want to lose that person from your life and know you may. And losing people sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simply Poetic Posted February 20, 2005 Author Share Posted February 20, 2005 Losing people does suck, but if I lose her then I may never feel whole again. But I can't just let these feelings sit right? But in the back of my head I feel its better to just have what we have then nothing at all. Link to post Share on other sites
anonymous Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 I am in a very similar situation to you. I have met the girl of my dreams and all I do is think about her. She hasn't got a boyfriend but we are friends. I am really unsure whether to go for it and jeoperdise our friendship or hold off and be content with what we've got. Big decisions to be made. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Well have you ever told her your feelings. It seems to me that she just sees you as just an aquantance. She already has a boyfriend. And you guys never hang out. You just see her from a distance or pass her in the hall. Belive me i've been there. The worst thing you can possibly do is 'become her friend' to get closer to her, because it will just tear you up inside. And worse, she will then cement in her mind that you are 'just friends'. I would say back off and try to keep your mind buisey (goddamn it how do you spell it>!?!!) on other things. This is a crush. Perhaps an obsession. Nothing more at this point. Its all you man. Not to say you are sick or something. Everyones had them at one point or anouther. God knows i've had lots of them. See if you can meet some other girls for now, and avoid any and all contact with this girl for like 3 months. Under that time, you will be weak against her sexy ways. The hair, her lips, the sexy divit in her neck. It will just throw you right back in. Talk to your friends about it. Helps me out everytime. When you try to keep it inside it festers and grows bigger, filling with fantasies of being trapped on islands and other funny yet wierd things. Here this site gave me a chuckle. http://www.joelogon.com/platonic/ Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 You have two options as i see it. Check back with her in a year or two, giving you some much needed breathing room. Perhaps she will be single. and will remember you as only that guy she saw every once and a while. OR Have a word with her, and say i really like you so you wanna go out sometime. Both are good plans. And both put you in a good position(not the 'just friends" position) But plan B also has the drawback of her already having a boyfriend at the time and probably saying no. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simply Poetic Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 it might just be a silly crush I just wish that she wouldn't play with my emotions. Chicks can be really confusing sometimes. She says she has a boyfriend but continues to flirt with me and gets mad when I blow her off. I guess I forgot to mention that, but I totally agree I should just stay away. I just don't want her feel like I'm not interested because I am. Still like I said before I don't know what I want! A friend or a girlfriend. Its so hard in the being stuck in the middle. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Well you did forget that part, but it dosnt change the fact that she is no good for you. I think she likes the attention she gets from you, but she isnt gonna leave her boyfriend for you. She is toying with you for her own ego because she can. She has nothing to lose. If you walk away she still has her boyfriend. I say walk away and find yourself a good woman. Not a mind screwing one. AND PLEASE dont try to be friends with her. 11 years i tried that man. It wreaked me. Im telling you. Dont be friends with a girl you like. Its the worst fate imaginable. Hell is a vacation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simply Poetic Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 It sounds so easy, but seeing her everyday its gonna be so hard. I literally get weak, then next thing I know we're talking!! Not even about important things! Things like her horscope and crap like that. Somehow she has a way of making anything appeal to me. I'm sick! OMG! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Oh my friend its far from easy. The tang is a powerful weapon. Its because you are anamoured with her that she can pull you in. Its like she has a backdoor to your soul and can pierce any defence you put up. Thats why the ONLY real defence is to avoid her like the friggn plague. The only other real defence is to get a girlfriend and after a month or two you will be able to resist her. But its next to impossible to get a girlfriend when you are around this one because the whole 'what if' or 'maybe she does like me' thing is ALWAYS in the back of your mind, so you hold out a little longer, then a little more. And just like a hampster in a pot you slowly cook till its too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simply Poetic Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Yeah that sounds alright. Untill I'm out on the town and I just so happen to run into whatsherface and the BF. She'll smile, wave, walk right up to me and introduce me then awkward silence! He'll smile and I know just what he'll be thinking "she's hot isn't she!! LOOK At HER!!! and I'm going home with her! Must be great to be me!" Her boyfriend's proably a jerk anyway right? I guess I thinking about this to much or I'm paranoid!!And she already considers me a friend! All of a sudden I just up and disappear! Smooth! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Well then just make yourself less available. Its a tough situation. Give me a sec. im gonna try something. give me like 5 minutes. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 there we go. finally figured out how to put a stink'n picture in Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simply Poetic Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Since you need five minutes I have time to tell the story. I'm in my junior year at high school. We have the same home rooms. Three classes together!! Her boyfriend goes to a different school. She told me they see each other every weekend and he writes her love letters!! So much for him being a jerk! He's more like a sap! This is one scenerio where the nice guy gets the girl! The only reason I even started to even notice she existed was because I was into her friend, but her BFF had this thing about getting to know her friends first! Whatever! Turns out I liked her friend more. Took me awhile to break through the ice, but eventually I did! In a short amount of time I guess grew attached, Her always being there to talk about the most stupidiest crap. Like I said before she has this weird ability about stupid things. And I sit right next to her in biology! Classic Case I know!!! Guess I didn't mention she has the reputation of being on her back most days. Still that never mattered to me! So me just disappearing is diffucult! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Ok details help clear it up more. Well i dont know what to tell you man. That just plain sucks. I guess talk to her about it. Its highschool. People breakup and get together all the time. Maybe you have a chance. But you'll never know until you try. Worse case you keep having a crush on her but you end up going to different universities or something and you find a new girl to have as your woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simply Poetic Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 your right its not the end of the world! Theres still her friend Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Attaboy lol. Link to post Share on other sites
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