FoolishMan Posted July 9, 2014 Share Posted July 9, 2014 Through out my life, I have tried to keep in touch with people and be there for friends to hear out their issues and problems. However, I don't have any close friends! In fact, I am becoming more and more pessimistic about people and friendships due to my experiences! What am I doing wrong? I do not expect any returns in terms of favours and if I can help someone feel better by listening to them and giving what little advice I can... Sure! However, when I have issues, there is literally no one I can turn too.... I must be doing something wrong or do I just look like a walking doormat ( no, not going to post a pic)? Thanks for reading! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2014 Share Posted July 9, 2014 Do you set boundaries & stick to them? We teach people how to treat us. If you don't stick up for yourself when someone does something you don't like, they will continue to walk all over you because you let them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FoolishMan Posted July 9, 2014 Author Share Posted July 9, 2014 I deem myself as a forgetable person! My absoleute belief is that friendship is a 2 way street and I have given up on people who do not bother to keep in touch. However, never had a friend who has tried to maintain contact. When I was at college, I had a flatmate who had a problematic boyfriend. She got pregnant and was in a state. I just happened to be the one she turned too. I tried my best to hear her out as I felt really sorry for her. It was obviously stressful for her but also for me. Since then and roll on a decade, I always try to maintain contact with her but it is always me doing all the work. She is one person but in general, that is the pattern of things with people I come across. Link to post Share on other sites
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