Dspawn76 Posted July 10, 2014 Share Posted July 10, 2014 Hi, I'm new here. I have a long story, but will spare you guys, for now. I know what the problem was and I have done extensive research. I have done a LOT of google searches, either for researching this topic, or just to find relief, perhaps a little hope. I was curious, how many of you folks that were affected by a "Sudden Divorce", or a GIGS, etc. Who were shocked and / or blindsided with separation / divorce... that the spouse is on any kind of mood stablizer or antidepressant in the SSRI/SNRI variety? If you have been divorced, seen drastic personality change (for worse) or the like while someone was on these drugs, please sound off. Me? Short point, I watched my wife of 12 years change to a completely different person inside of only 3 months. I Saw confusion, doubt, fear ... and an incredible incident of what I can only describe as the way she put it, a split personality! After admitting to cheating etc, she was crying saying she didn't know why she was doing it and was scared... and said that phrase "It's like I have a split personality or something and when it comes out, I have no control, it's like watching someone else run my life and I feel like I'm fading out while being posessed".... no more than 5 minutes later, she went to the cold, cruel and 'monster like' personality, recanting all she had just said earlier, saying the cheating was justified etc, not caring about our daughter or family. I Saw it with my own eyes.... 4 months later, I discovered a bunch of websites and forums talking about this very problem. So, anyone else out there have a similar story? Link to post Share on other sites
GoBlue Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 My wife did not suffer from changes due to medications, but I did go through and unwanted divorce which effected me immensely. I just wanted to lend my support and tell you my thoughts and prayers are with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dspawn76 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 Thank you Goblue. The thing is, in my research, it seems to be all the things are relative. Meaning, they are triggered by the same brain lapses. Someone finds someone super attractive that's hitting on them, it makes them feel good. The brain loves that, and sometimes it's overpowering the willpower of the person, also making it impossible for them to see the hurt, and pain. The person becomes super selfish because of what the brain is experiencing. By all the things I mean, GIGS, typical one night stand affairs, "loss of love" appeals that the person has no idea that an affair is brewing (Emotional). Most emotional affairs are started and delved deeply into the matter without the person realizing. By the time the brain SHOULD realize it, the 'selfishness' of the person takes over and there's no window for the person to realize the damage they're doing. All of this points to Dopamine and Seratonin. (spelling?) Which antidepressants, mood stablizers and some pain meds target. This really is one of those 'things' (part of the brain) we should NOT be messing with! It can totally jack someone's soul, if you will. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
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