LONDON Posted April 14, 1999 Posted April 14, 1999 What should I do? I'm head over heels about my girlfriend (1 1/2 years) but recently she informed me that she thought that we needed some time apart. This comes at a total surprise since it was only about a ten days ago that we were picking out wedding rings. Her reasoning is that she needs time to find herself. She said that there is a whole lot of world out there and a lot of things she hasn't done with her ife yet. What am I supposed to think ? How much time is enough? and Is this a nautural reaction to committment with some people?
Ryan Posted April 15, 1999 Posted April 15, 1999 I think her message is pretty clear: she isn't ready to get married. That may be a very healthy response on her behalf, depending on the nature of your relationship. I don't know how old you two are, but she may just not be prepared to settle down in life. Marriage isn't something you rush into at all. It's a serious committment that many people THINK they are prepared for but usually aren't. This kind of life change is second only to parenthood in priority. I think you really need to talk to her about this....maybe you'll realize that she has quite a good point that this is the wrong time for BOTH of you and not just her. I don't think a "temporary" break up is a good idea. Those tend to become permanent for one reason or another. It may suit you best to pull back your assault and recoordinate the troops.
Cheryl Posted April 18, 1999 Posted April 18, 1999 What should I do? I'm head over heels about my girlfriend (1 1/2 years) but recently she informed me that she thought that we needed some time apart. This comes at a total surprise since it was only about a ten days ago that we were picking out wedding rings. Her reasoning is that she needs time to find herself. She said that there is a whole lot of world out there and a lot of things she hasn't done with her ife yet. What am I supposed to think ? How much time is enough? and Is this a nautural reaction to committment with some people? Yes, it is natural. Be thankful it's now than after you are married and have a couple of kids. Give her some time. If it's meant to be, it will be. '
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