Lucy_burns Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 I'm so confused about my fwb. We talked for several months before actually meeting and before we met he said he's not looking for a piece of ass. We met and have been seeing each other 3-4 times weekly since and it's been 4 months. He does a lot I wouldn't expect a fwb to do like I spend the night and we cuddle all night, we make meals together, have gone fishing, on walks, watch movies and shows together. There's been a few times he's asked me over several nights in a row or like over a weekend and we just hang out all day. There's been a few times we have just gone to bed so sex isn't even the main part of our relationship. He does sweet things while he thinks I'm asleep like kiss my forehead, cuddle me tighter, one morning I woke up and he was cuddling me and had folded his half of the blanket on top of me to keep me warm. He also seems to really care, he remembers anything I tell him, and he picks up on when I don't feel well and tries to make me feel better or he'll always ask how I feel. He does little things that I really do enjoy, like he'll make desert for us (he's an awesome cook), he's made me home made got chocolate, give me a back massage ect, he's just very sweet. About a week ago he text and said if I'm ever bored or not doing anything I could come hang out with him. On the 4th he went to his parents and text me while we watched fireworks and then the next day text when he was coming home. Every since we met we've always hugged and kissed good bye and lately he walks up to me so confidently to kiss me good bye, it's almost a in case I don't see you again kiss, very passionate. I really like him a lot and would love to be with him, I'm just afraid. Last time I got this close and thought all was good I got my heart broke into a thousand pieces that took a long time to put back together and get where I am now. Does this seem like normal fwb type stuff or is it possible he wants to be with me too? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 I think it's a relationship not just FWB but he's afraid of labels like "relationship." For now, assuming it's otherwise good, go with the flow. Keep getting to know & trust each other Link to post Share on other sites
iiiii Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 I think it's probably a relationship, but... why don't you ask? That would be the best way to know. You could bring it up casually, just say "hey, just so I know, are we boyfriend and girlfriend now?" or "hey, just so I know, are we exclusive?" It might be scary to ask, but it won't be as bad as wondering, or even worse assuming you were exclusive then finding out he had another couple of girls on the side. Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 If he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend, as in "will you be my girlfriend and see no other men than me" then you aren't in a relationship. If he isn't professing to everyone that you are his girlfriend, then you are simply a girl he is friends with that provides sex with no expectations from him. Stop having sex until a man asks you point blank specifically to be his girlfriend, or sit around wondering. FWB doesn't equal a relationship, it equals sex with no strings attached. Wake up, and the previous poster is just as disillusioned as you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucy_burns Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 I've never assumed we were in a relationship, that's why I'm afraid to ask him to take things further because this is where I was last time when I got hurt. I've also not thought it was a relationship because we never go on dates or anything. I mean yes we do things and spend time together but we've never gone to the movies or out for dinner or anything, which I don't really care about that stuff because I enjoy just spending time with him. I'm still not ready to have a relationship talk with him yet so like the other poster said to just go with the flow and just get to really know each other. I really do like him and want more but at this point I'm not ready to just put my heart out there, things have been so good I don't see any reason to put pressure on things and since he was also badly hurt he understands my fears. Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 Ummmm... does he know you see/saw it as a FWB relationship? He said he didn't want a piece of ass... And he is not acting like it either. Link to post Share on other sites
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