midlifecrisis Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 Well, we broke up on V-Day over the phone -- she's the dumper. At the end of the day, I wrote her a note just repeating that I thought we could work things out, and that I'd always love her regardless. Her response was very cold, and I wrote her an angry reply at her coldness. Nearly a week of NC went by, and I get an e-mail saying "I'm Sorry". A few notes go back and forth, and via the notes, we both apologized about V-Day, and we both have acknowledged that the breakup is painful..... But -- no suggestion from either of us to get back together. I deliberately did not do this as I want to see some kind of initiative from her. She called me the next day saying, among other idle-conversation "If I could take away your pain, I would.". My response, was that it was good to hear her voice, but it was bittersweet because it made me miss her more. She had to hang up because she was starting to cry. This was yesterday. My question is that I really do want to try to talk her out of the breakup. Did she sufficiently break the NC enough for it to be Ok for me to call her back and suggest a meeting, or should I stick to my guns and wait for her initiative? Link to post Share on other sites
tegteg Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 For her to break the NC is somthing that i have only seen when someone is either really hurting bout the situation and very confused, or they just dont really care bout the other person. Sounds like she does care but is confused as to what her feelings are.... As to not knowing what has been said, i would feel that it is ok to talk to her but only in friend terms nothing more... At this point you have a lil control as to wether you want to talk to her. Or just shut her out for a while. NC may help her think things through and maybe ? what she is doing... Just reinsure her that you are there for her if some happens. If it was me, i would NC for a week or 2 see if somthing happens, if not just do another sweet note saying, you were thiking of her and hoping shes ok... GL Teggy Link to post Share on other sites
Author midlifecrisis Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Well, I broke the NC again and gave her a call. She couldn't talk, but I just let her know that I was thinking of her and wanted to talk to her. I was pleasantly surprised by an e-mail later in the afternoon suggesting a fun trip to sort things out. We'll see..... I really love this woman, and want to try anything to help work out our issues. I do believe that she really cares for me deeply.... the breakup was just a culmination of many overwhelming things happening in her life, and I want to show her that we can survive it all together. Link to post Share on other sites
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