imjustanothergirl Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 I'm getting married in 3 months to a wonderful, sweet, gorgeous, caring and considerate man who I love. However, I recently hung out with a man I was previously linked to a few uears ago. I still got butterflies in my stomach and my heart ached for him. I have thought abouyt him often and realize I never truly stopped caring for him. I know that this man is immature, not the committment type, and I will never truly have a real relationship with him. So why do I still care about him so much? I feel guilty about these feelings and wonder what I should do. Link to post Share on other sites
Stacylovestommy Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 I think what you are feeling is completely natural. As long as you don't act on it, everyone wonders and has that place in their heart for someone they once loved. As long as you love the man you are marrying, I wouldn't worry about it Link to post Share on other sites
Sarahthedreamer Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 I agree with the first response as long as you recognize there will never be anbything with that other man and you love the one you are marrying, I owuldn't worry about it Link to post Share on other sites
lohrewok Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Are you being fair to your fiance? How would you feel if he felt this way about another woman. Marriage is hard enough without going into it having feelings for someone else. To me it sounds as though your not ready. Link to post Share on other sites
Allah Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 I know JUST HOW your feeling but I went about it quite differently. I met a guy few years back, we dated some. We ended up both going separte ways due to jobs etc.. (basically just finding our ways in life, we were in our 20's) well in between I dated, could have married if I wanted to, too but my heart was with this long lost love ... 4 years later we found eachother again, 2 years later - later, here I am totally happy and in love with this guy... SO ... my story is probably just the opposite of what you wanted to hear but Ive known those butterflies/hotflashes :-) with no one I dated but the love Ive been waiting for. I am sure you love your finace` and you know how the ex's ways are.. pros and cons here, you will make the right decision - Good luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
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