johntorque Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 I have been in an unusual relationship for the last 6 months. I am 67 balding, overweight, and short. My assets are that I am reasonably well read and have always been an interesting conversationalist, and I am a conservatives politically. There is a young lady in my office, age 37, that I have gotten very attached to. I actually was only mildly aware of her for 3 years. Recently I not only became aware of her but have grown very attached to the point of, at the very least, a platonic relationship. Our discussions are generally political in nature and she is a strong political liberal. I also share an interest with her in her 6-year-old son. She and I are both married and I believe that she married to satisfy her need to raise a child. We have shared some very trusting confidences, including trusting statements about our mates. I have 3 children myself and I thought that I was reasonably well versed in the matters of love. What I have discovered is that I had not known real love until now. I am in love with her. She happens to be very attractive but constantly tries to convince me that she is not attractive. I really became aware of her because one day she dressed rather provocatively and that made me notice her inordinately. Since then her dress has been extremely conservatively, including most of her blouses are tight around her neck. But the genie was already out of the bottle. I believe she thoroughly enjoys our intellectual conversations and would like to see them continue. I, on the other hand, find her indifference to me difficult and perhaps impossible. What to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Nocturnalkitee Posted February 20, 2005 Share Posted February 20, 2005 I'm not expressing this to be negative, but this is a prime example that men and women can not be friends. Eventually one person will become attached and want something more. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Back off. Forget the friendship. Oh, and I doubt you're 'in love' with her since this occurred due to a day of provocative dress. You're infatuated and horny, which many people mistake for love. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Appreciate her fine mind and forget about her fine body. You work in the same office for goodness sakes and you are both married - the thought of ruining two careers and possibly two marriages should be a sobering one. You said nothing about your own wife. You would be better off lavishing your romantic attention on her. I see nothing wrong with your political discussions with your officemate but don't delude yourself into thinking there could be anything more there. If she tries to confide any more details about her married life you should suggest she share those details with her husband, not you. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 The brain is the sexiest organ....i mean look at those hemospheres!! I think you should keep it platonic. Anymore and you would both end up regretting it. Sure having a younger woman that you connect with might seem like true love, but its probably not. Remember you havnt come home to this woman for the past 20 years everyday. shes new and shes hot. And of course she does the typical female attention getting/wining im ugly. im so fat. ect. sypathy shmympathy. Us guys are real suckers for that. So in closing . Stay just friends. Only the juice man can marry a 37 year old when hes 67 (which is exactly the ages strangely enough) Link to post Share on other sites
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